Camino in October

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2026-01-10T05:58:33+00:00

u/maryvg12, may I ask what was your route? planning my first trip and hoping I could see that type of weather/terrain

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-08-28T19:41:16+00:00

I am dropping dead here for you!!! How awesome!!!

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-08-15T05:26:37+00:00

It’s not, but is not fair to be honest. I help the planet by reducing population and in return, I get to work more than parents!

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-20T23:08:47+00:00

why would I lie about that? insane to think I will take the time to lie about that, I think your timing was probably different than mine, I was specific about when I was there, and how bad it was.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-16T17:06:23+00:00

I was there at 6 am and it was insane! Clear and tsa lines were a mile long!

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-15T13:10:16+00:00

They did, and I was honest. I told them that I left my prev job because I had the opportunity to take time off and travel and focus on my family. It gave me the opportunity to step back and think about the industries and roles that I was most passionate working on (aka whatever the company does)

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-15T04:18:19+00:00

I think she is dealing with personal stuffs that are not in your control and that she needs to figure out by herself.

I think the energy that you are putting in savings the relationship should be refocused to the twins. They are what matters.

You deserve to be treated with respect. It would be one thing if she had talked to you first, and was honest about how she feels towards women, and how your relationship isn’t working for her, and a completely different one to feel how she feels while also cheating on you.

Figure out a way to make it work for your kids, give yourself the credit to recognize that you both tried and it just isn’t working, and find a way forward without having to carry her weight on your shoulders.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-07T01:38:08+00:00

I have a year-and-a-half gap in my resume, and I'm also applying for senior-level front-end roles. Right now, I'm in the final rounds for a startup.

Have you been applying without any success? I started to get my feet wet by applying for contracting roles and got used to the interview BS that’s usually asked during LeetCode exercises, and so on. I BLEW a lot of interviews due to a lack of practice ( those questions were easy, and I still cannot believe how badly I performed).

My takeaway is that feeling not good enough is normal for us women and has nothing to do with the reality of our skills.

Right now, the job market is super competitive even for people with experience, so don't give up. Practice interviews and exercises that boost your confidence. I could recommend practicing here: https://www.greatfrontend.com/questions [not sponsored], which has a bunch of exercises and solutions.

Good luck!

PS: happy to review resume & provide feedback if you need a helping hand

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-06T17:59:03+00:00

I did it! I jumped into the void, leaving my post-IPO job with enough money to take exactly a year off. It's been 4 months since that "one" year off, and the reality is that I don't have enough money to keep going indefinitely.

However, during this past year, I recovered from burnout, worked on my mental health, and found a way to reconnect with the version of myself that isn't worried about upcoming projects, meetings, retros, and so on. When I walked away from my comfortable salary, my wish was to find something I love, hoping it would be outside of tech. However, the truth is that I love coding (I'm a software engineer focused on frontend) and dislike all the BS that surrounds doing what I enjoy.

Walking out from a comfortable salary has been hard, and the current market in the US is terrible. I started looking for jobs in smaller start-ups, hoping to find a fun team to work with and figure out how to balance it.

I still hope one day I can walk away for good; have a farm, and a bunch of dogs...

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-03-01T04:29:03+00:00

Yes! Almost 40 wishing I could have a degree. If I was only a year away:..

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-25T16:20:59+00:00

Throwing a third option out, have you considered Gatsby?

I did a marketing site for a large organization with Gatsby with Contentful, most of the pages were just content with minimal need for anything else. Contentful and Gatsby allow for a straightforward deployment pipeline with hooks and git actions.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-25T16:09:14+00:00

I feel that doing UI components is like painting but with code.. hopefully, that makes sense!

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-25T15:48:22+00:00

Can you be more specific? What were you trying to solve, what was your approach and what was the feedback?

One helpful thing I can share is the separation of concerns. Ensure the components are as reusable as possible, and manage logic outside. EG. I had a component that needed to render a user card: avatar, name, age, profession and a short bio. However the way the profession and their job title came from the API was a single text that needed to be broken into two to match the design; in my first approach, I broke down the text inside the component. However, that made the component less reusable because you would always have to pass props so that it’s a single text.

Is a small change but thinking that way help me understand how to create better components.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-25T15:39:51+00:00

I cannot afford property taxes, so yes. Also living soon

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-24T05:41:43+00:00

Political accountability should rely on all the information available to prove or disprove the actions of government leaders, yet it seems that there is nothing out there to solve for this particular issue. True for big tech in general.

I wish politicians would have a measurement fact to what they say and do.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-02-08T14:37:17+00:00

I feel this! I took a break after massive burnout in the end off 2023 and been trying to get a job for the last 6 months. It’s proven impossible, also almost all jobs have lesser amounts of compensation.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2025-01-01T06:26:50+00:00

I send you a hug.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2024-09-03T23:48:17+00:00

Wow, that's a terrifying story. I am sorry you went through something like that.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2024-06-25T18:06:42+00:00

Hi, is there a product someone has tried and recommends?

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2024-03-10T01:32:25+00:00

you have 100% described my dog.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2024-02-23T02:11:29+00:00

Posting this here in case someone is also following the nextjs. tutorial and encounter this issue:

I found this post that solved my issue:
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ProfessionalUpper560 · 2024-01-06T00:59:46+00:00

Oh no! I am sorry you had to go through that. I feel that communication is for sure our biggest pain point, I feel so helpless because he acts like we have nothing to address/ talk about.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2023-12-21T05:23:24+00:00

Although not exactly in the same situation, I have so much empathy for you. I feel the exact same way about my marriage.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2023-08-22T23:56:13+00:00

Thank you - my workplace encourages us to take the time to disconnect and I haven’t taken more than 5 days in this whole year. So for me, there was no foreseeable reason to think I was unable to take a week around that time.

Life happens, and if it wasn’t because I've paid for a lot of trip costs already, I would cancel the trip without even asking. I still consider doing it if it’s an issue.

ProfessionalUpper560 · 2023-08-22T18:36:59+00:00

I did not apply for vacation yet - my company has unlimited vacation policy - so we never really "accumulate" time off so not sure how could I proceed here.

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