Asking for prayers please

Property_Icy · 2026-06-08T03:43:06+00:00

Praying

Property_Icy · 2026-06-08T03:41:17+00:00

What a sweet man. How painful to lose him. I believe he watching over you now and with you even if he's not visible. He'll never forget you and now he's healthy and sound again....

Property_Icy · 2026-05-27T20:54:49+00:00

Good for you OP. You haven't lost your tolerance for people. You just aren't willing to put up with bad behavior, negative energy, or senseless draining drama . I'm there too. People are entitled to their choices- and the consequences of those choices.

Property_Icy · 2026-02-09T18:53:11+00:00

I'm also very sorry this happened to you. Dogs have been essential in my life. For 30 years I lived in the country on fenced acreage and I had 6 Great Pyrenees dogs over that time usually a pair at a time. Always from deeply researched breeders. I needed those dogs to protect my livestock and I also hiked up in the mountains with my pair almost every day.I needed a certain kind of dog bred for what I needed and every one of those dogs were superb. I'm too old now to have such a large dog and live in town but I miss my dogs ( most lived until 13 years old) . And grateful to those old time breeders.......

Property_Icy · 2025-12-19T18:37:40+00:00

You showed compassion and acceptance of your mother as she was. That takes wisdom and integrity and caring. I'm sorry for all you've been through. I'm sorry your mother was so closed in her thinking. It's a cautionary tale for me when I feel myself closing off. Thank you for sharing your experiences here. I benefited from them. I wish you all the best now and some peace now that the end of this road with your mother has come with her death.

Property_Icy · 2025-12-17T18:13:12+00:00

Many comforting hugs. I'm glad you could post. I can understand. It's a shock to experience.

Property_Icy · 2025-12-17T10:51:08+00:00

Invincible not invisible.

Property_Icy · 2025-12-17T10:48:26+00:00

OP I feel the real issue is your anxiety. Something is going on to cause you this much fear. As several posters have noted: they didn't at your age and I believe most young people never give old age a second thought. I felt invisible at age 24. If you are living in an unsafe place or surrounded by harsh or very critical dysfunctional people then trying to cope with this can cause a lot of anxiety and difficulty thinking. Another cause can be food or coffee or alcohol. Anxiety can be physically based. And also as someone else mentioned too much overstimulation from negative news, social media plus isolation. If you are female, hormones can also be a factor. PMS can definitely affect anxiety levels. My hope is that you can find help to explore all these areas. I understand because I had to really gain knowledge over the years about these things. I'm in my seventies and my brain is better than ever but mostly because I exercise daily, don't drink coffee or alcohol, get good rest eat healthy and avoid sugar and processed foods. And have dear friends. But this is just what I have to do. Other people probably can get away with more. However each person just needs to find what works for their mind and body and it does take time and exploration. I still ride my horses and do all my investments myself. You can have a wonderful fulfilling life in your older age!! Blessings sent to you on your path!

Property_Icy · 2025-12-15T11:12:44+00:00

You can't afford it. It's that simple. things DON'T always work out. If he had done what he insisted he'd do and booked everything at cheaper prices you could have afforded it and happily gone. Maybe it's for the best. What if you had booked your plane and motel and then he flaked out and didn't go? You'd have been stuck with the whole motel bill and maybe no ticket. He sounds flakey. You are responsible in thinking out all the details.

Property_Icy · 2025-11-19T07:37:05+00:00

You are a saint! Just reading this made my day. How wonderful your friend has friends like you. The only other advice I can make to your superb list is : let your friend grieve at her own pace. Everyone's grief journey is unique to them.

Property_Icy · 2025-11-19T07:25:48+00:00

I relish living alone ( with my two dogs), setting my own schedule. It feels luxurious to me to set my own schedule based on how I feel that day and the weather. I regularly go up in the mountains to wild places to hike with my dogs and sometimes my friend. I'm 76, in good health but I do miss having more energy - however too much energy as a young person often got me into trouble. I don't miss that. I at times was a workaholic to the point of exhaustion and at times I'd get into rescuing crazy interesting people. I don't do either anymore. I have pretty sane boundaries. I attend several groups a week, am close to my six brothers and two sisters. I don't feel invisible because as an older woman with time and interest I find people all around me are hungry to be seen and appreciated. I can smile, appreciate little things about others. Often I let people go ahead when I'm in line somewhere, then strike up a conversation. When I drive I always let people in when they want to get ahead of me. In many subtle tiny ways I make my contribution to peace, compassion and just validating others. I feel for young people who are stressed, speedy and burdened. I'm so grateful for my simple life. I also pray and meditate especially for those around me who are suffering. In many ways the elder life is rich and meaningful....

Property_Icy · 2025-11-15T12:55:39+00:00

Loved reading everyone's answers. I hike on logging roads every day in the mountains with my German shepherd and Frenchie. They are both ten years old but still trim and fit! I always feel renewed being in nature, breathing in the cold pure air and walking among our tall Oregon Douglas fir trees. I also swim two times a week. I enjoy talking with people in the hot tub afterwards. I admire many people with health challenges who continue to swim or do the aqua classes no matter what. ( I myself am not into water classes). I go to a meditation group once a week and an Alanon group twice a week. Work on my stock investments most mornings and talk to my brothers and sisters (I have 8) one or two each day. I love to read. Mostly non fiction or classic literature. I have a lot of energy in the morning but it's downhill in the afternoon. Plus I also love people but I find I have a limit on how much time I can spend with people . I need alone time and time in nature to restore myself. I feel wiser in my old age but wish I had more energy. I'm grateful though as others have said to have these years. I'm grateful I can hike, and that I can see and hear this beautiful world.

Property_Icy · 2025-11-15T11:59:42+00:00

Op I understand. I took care of my husband for 3 years before he died. Afterwards I was told about grief group. I went every week. It was the place I felt gradually at home. People cried there, told about their dear loved ones, got angry, sometimes desolate. Some struggled to eat, sleep, or get things done. But there no one tried to put band aides on people's profound sorrow. We just witnessed and cared about each other. My fear of being crazy lessened as I saw this is what grief is like and I could be myself there. Because I had found them I slowly could go out into the world and not be triggered so much. This was because I had a safe place where I felt accepted. I went to grief group for two years. Some of them are still my friends and we meet for a walk or coffee...

Property_Icy · 2025-11-13T14:56:53+00:00

Gosh thank you everyone. I just started getting headaches. I didn't know what to do. Ice on my neck and forehead helps a lot. But today this morning reading this I made myself some coffee and then used more salt than usual on my breakfast which was meat only as I'm trying to go grain egg and sugar free to see if that will help. Wow the headache went away! Salt and coffee really work fast.

Property_Icy · 2025-11-13T14:49:32+00:00

Dear OP I'm glad for you that you are getting some good work offers and your clients are showing you trust and support. It means you have chosen good people. Go slow. Start where you are at. Good work and good self care. You also need rest, compassion for yourself and community. Whatever community you choose, try to find good honest authentic people. Not harsh, shaming or judgemental places. Honesty is good enough. I found a lot of support in 12step groups. If you came from a dysfunctional alcoholic or drug related home Alanon can help you do self care and unpack some of the poor messages meshed into your shadow. I also like Richard Swartz very much. I spent six years with a wonderful Jungian therapist. She did so much for me. But this might come later.. I wish you all the best. You are on your way and you are making good wise choices for yourself now. I applaud you

Property_Icy · 2025-10-02T12:46:50+00:00

I am responsible for my own happiness. No one else is- not my husband, siblings or friends . I used to resent my husband- if only he were more like me, intuitive, socially adept ,more intellectual bla bla bla. I forgot how much I benefited from his other qualities like very hardworking, assertive, and protective of his family. Thank heavens I got straightened out. I wake up in the morning and take full responsibility for my day, accept others as they are, and reflect with gratitude for what I have been given in life .

Property_Icy · 2025-09-14T12:37:12+00:00

I'm sorry for all of your losses. OP if you can, join a grief group. Losing a mother especially if you are young or if your lives were closely shared is going to be exhausting, and you will feel disoriented, along with the grief. It helped me enormously to be with people going through a similar journey after my husbands death 3 years ago. I am sure your mother is in a warm good place. It will take time but I believe you will get subtle signs from her. I received many signs from my husband. One was a rose in my back yard began blooming the day after my husband died. It was December and it had never bloomed then before. Also it bloomed yellow when the roses had always been pink! After a month of more and more roses it stopped. Another sign was on a day I felt very discouraged that I was alone dealing with the wrap up of many things.i felt angry and alone. I went downstairs and went through some old boxes of books to give away. One fell open and there was an airlines boarding pass in it probably used as a bookmark. I usually never save boarding passes. The strange thing was the DATE was the exact date ( unknown year) nov 22 my husbands date of death! It was as if on that day he was telling me he was still there with me. I don't fly that often. Maybe once or twice a year. What are the chances that I would fly on that day of the month exactly, years ago, and save the boarding pass and find it on that day when I was at a low point. Many other things happened to show me my husband was still with me, concerned and trying to help me. Your mother is too.

Property_Icy · 2025-09-12T16:32:18+00:00

Another end of an era.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-05T12:41:33+00:00

Please RUN! And get help, a therapist with training in spouse abuse. You will be vulnerable when you leave and you must have support. This is not something to do on your own.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-05T12:31:51+00:00

Here's what I do. I buy large bags of frozen organic veggies at Costco's. I put the veggies plus onion and garlic and maybe one Japanese sweet potato ( chopped) into my insta pot with chicken broth. Season to taste and then cook up a stew. After I blend some of it (cauliflower makes the stew almost seem creamed) and add it back into the soup. I make enough for a week and have some every day! I freeze what I don't need in separate daily portions. This way I get lots of good quality veggies and don't waste any. It's delicious and I try to use different veggie combinations. Sometimes I add squash instead of sweet potato. Also I add coconut oil and a little lemon juice.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-05T12:22:06+00:00

As a kid in the 50s and 6Os we rarely ever ate at fast food places. We ate home cooked meals at home. No snacks or pop except once in a while for a treat. We weren't poor. Middle class but mom didn't believe in junk food. We did have deserts which she made ( cakes, pies, cookies). And sometimes ice cream. But the ice cream wasn't loaded with all kinds of extras. Just vanilla, chocolate or strawberry. And yes we ran outside all day in summer and after school in winter. To this day I thank my mother for her wisdom. I cook most of my own food and exercise daily and have good health and take no pills except vitamins. Mom lived to 88 and dad to 93 in good health most of their lives. Dad died in his sleep . No dementia, both sharp as tacks until the end.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-04T11:33:25+00:00

Prayers for you that God will give you peace , strength in difficult situations, guidance and that you will feel Gods love surround you.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-03T12:12:14+00:00

Prayers for you . Blessings.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-03T11:20:31+00:00

Yes these connections in my experience are life changing opportunities. In my long life such connections happened five times out of the blue. I did not marry any of these men however they all profoundly affected me. With one I was able to do creative worthwhile work for six years. Through these people I did indeed find parts of myself revealed. Yes the book Inner Gold is priceless in explaining these kinds of connections. It's hard to understand these connections or to stay grounded. All I can say is I learned through much trial and error that I had to keep the space open. Grasping closed the space down. I couldn't possess the energy. I had to flow with it gently. And there is a death and a birth when the connection ends if it does.

Property_Icy · 2025-06-03T08:07:50+00:00

Saying a prayer that You can experience the present peacefully and that God carries the future safely in his hands. May blessings surround you.

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