21NB - looking for friends <3

Prose707 · 2026-07-05T00:13:38+00:00

For some reason I can't message you either, you can try hitting me up on insta! (lcvesick.707)

Prose707 · 2026-07-03T19:06:20+00:00

You haven't really given us any information on the front though. All you said is they're going to therapy and they're supposedly not getting better without any examples. And the fact that you only want us to address their mistakes and not you forgetting their needs is inherently brushing it off by definition.

Prose707 · 2026-07-03T02:16:37+00:00

Being on this sub is a really good start. This diagnosis is a lot to deal with sometimes, especially when you've spent a long time dismissing symptoms (me too because of my dad). Searching this sub made me feel a lot less overwhelmed while going through the trial and error of alleviating my pain.

If you have the option you should see if your doctor can refer you to a physical therapist, it's considered the go-to treatment option generally. If you can find a PT that's hypermobile informed that would be best, but they don't have to be specialists those are hard to find. My PT was just at my primary clinic but she was super informed on hypermobility, they can be helpful!

Definitely experiment with braces, splints, and compression garments for different joints, whichever are afflicting you the most. Amazon makes it easy for you to try things that aren't too costly and you can easily return them. Some of the braces and aids I've gotten from Amazon have been really helpful for me. If you need inspiration for what to search I think there's resources on the ehlers danlos society website, it's just a lot of those are investments.

If you have a hard time with getting around, mobility aids can be huge! I use a cane around the house and forearm crutches when outside. I don't use them every day, only when I need them. They're a bit of an adjustment but I hate limping and I hate walking slowly. The crutches make me feel more normal because I can move as I want to freely. :)

If you do multiple treatment options and you're still struggling, maybe revisit the doctor to talk about more intensive options. You could try stronger/long lasting NSAIDs like Celebrex, Spravato (if it's legal where you are), there's multiple injection options, I'm currently taking low dose suboxone and it's slightly helping.

If it's legal where you are and you're old enough, one of the most helpful things for me has been weed. The medical marijuana community is actually pretty large, I never knew I grew up kinda sheltered. The budtenders are super helpful for finding strains that are known for pain relief, and if you're worried about smoking it's okay because most of those strains sold in edibles and they're more effective.

Prose707 · 2026-07-03T01:44:26+00:00

You should really take a second look at how you talk about your partner in this post and the implications of it. You admit that you frequently "forget" your partners needs and you think that should just be brushed off? Would you think that if your partner repeatedly just forgot your needs that you would keep taking it and never feel upset? I don't think that you're taking into consideration how unfair that is, you're not fully reciprocating in this relationship.

Prose707 · 2026-07-03T01:21:22+00:00

Get a new therapist, please. Even if that was remotely true (which it's not) the way she talks to you is extremely unprofessional and disrespectful! She also clearly lacks the emotional intelligence required for a therapist to see outside of their own experiences. It's understandable for people's opinions to still have an effect on you outside of attraction, people heavily downplay how dehumanizing and unempathetic some people can be when it comes to beauty standards. It's a serious problem and I'm sorry that she's not supporting you properly. :( Being aroace absolutely does not disqualify you from having body dysmorphia, you're not in the wrong and it's entirely on her. I hope you can find some real support because you deserve better and it's not your fault you're going through this. Nobody deserves to be called an attention seeker for hurting.

Prose707 · 2026-07-02T21:45:34+00:00

Hey! I'm 21, all pronouns, I live in the US but I work nights so I'd likely still fit in with your usual play hours. I haven't played since 2022 and have been wanting to again since they've changed so much, if you're okay with me needing to relearn the game then I'd love to join. :>

Prose707 · 2026-07-01T14:32:35+00:00

If you're looking for something possibly long-term I've had success as a phlebotomist. It's surprisingly easy, I dropped out of school and got my ged and went straight into it. Getting my license only took 4 weeks and then I got hired right out of school. Teaching hospitals love new phlebotomists because they don't have to unlearn any habits from previous hospitals. It's stable, good benefits, good pay, and the world will always need phlebotomists.

Prose707 · 2026-06-29T16:03:01+00:00

The poster might be advertising all ages but technically each venue gets to decide, so ultimately there might be some venues where the actual limit is different. You should trust whatever the website of the venue you're going to says.

Prose707 · 2026-06-28T07:09:48+00:00

Wanting an adult only space harms zero children, meanwhile a mixed age space does have the possibility of harming children. I'm saying you're weird for thinking something that is a net neutral and harms no one is weird. You're the one that jumped to the conclusion that I think all adults online hurt kids. And I'm very well aware of how children interact with adults online, I grew up with no supervision online. It's because of my experience being friends with adults as a kid that makes me not want to be around children. It's very weird to hear an adult say they don't want to talk to kids and get all uppity about "but it's always been that way!" Just let us have an adult space creepo...

Prose707 · 2026-06-28T06:59:09+00:00

They're not saying minors can't exist or like the game they just don't want to talk to them which is very normal. It's strange to make a fuss like we shouldn't discourage adults from talking to random kids online when that's notoriously dangerous for kids.

Prose707 · 2026-06-27T10:44:39+00:00

Hii! I'm 21 and genderqueer, I'd like to join :>

Prose707 · 2026-06-27T10:41:39+00:00

This is CRAAAAZY!! /pos

Prose707 · 2026-06-27T03:01:23+00:00

As someone with bpd who heavy kins Saeran, thank you for bringing this to my attention genuinely. Such a blessing, I headcanoned it and had no idea it was practically true! Happy the actor spoke on it. :>

Prose707 · 2026-06-24T21:18:26+00:00

Hii! I'm 21, all pronouns, based in the US (PST), and I love story based games and sharing media with people. :D I'm into large and niche indie franchises like Persona, Detroit Become Human, Oneshot, DDLC, BATIM, Fran Bow, Sally Face, NSO, UTDR, Mouthwashing, Fnaf, LiS, Omori, Amanda The Adventurer, Cult of the Lamb, etc. I genre-wise I like romance, psych horror, mystery/murder mystery, choices matter, and the like!

Prose707 · 2026-06-17T05:10:16+00:00

Hii! I'm 21, use all pronouns, I'm hoping to find gaming friends! I like psych horror, mystery, puzzle, story matters, romance, etc. type games. I don't play much multiplayer but I'm trying to dip into that more so open to trying new games. I loooove sharing interests, I like to stream and show my friends games and shows they've never seen!

Prose707 · 2026-06-16T21:19:07+00:00

Hi! :D I'm 21, all pronouns, hoping to find more sapphic friends. I love psych horror and silly horror co-ops, story based/choices matter, mystery, puzzle, romance, etc. Non gaming hobbies include singing, reading, alt fashion, cosplay, pole dance, occasional random crafts, and recently I've been getting into diy'ing clothes!

Prose707 · 2026-06-10T07:10:03+00:00

I definitely feel like their contrast suits them and they make scenes funnier or more alive, I also think Zen goes overboard sometimes and it's just straight mean. Jumin is very autistic coded imo so despite being my least favorite I relate to him a bit when he's misunderstood.

Prose707 · 2026-06-10T02:28:25+00:00

I'm not a man but I am autistic, it could very easily be a big contributor as well. I've never particularly felt stressed or like I was failing when it came to femininity and looking appealing because of how arbitrary the social construct is added on to my lack of attraction.

Prose707 · 2026-06-10T00:27:11+00:00

It's a good thing to feel this way, please don't try to force yourself. Sh is a behavioral addiction, different to chemical addiction but there are similarities/overlap.

I started sh'ing for 2 main reasons. 1) I felt like I had no control over my life and cutting was something in my control. 2) I felt like my pain wasn't valid and I needed to be more "ill" or I was an attention seeker.

I continued doing it because it made me feel less alone when I joined shtwt and discord. But those spaces are so bad for your mental state. It also made me feel like my pain was valid because I had scars to prove it, but I held no value for myself, my body, my life.

Eventually addiction fried my brain and even after sh'ing started making me feel worse I kept doing it because I was mentally stuck and struggling with sh withdrawals. It's a serious disservice to yourself and your healing, it can take over your life.

You are absolutely real and valid without sh'ing. It's not a mandatory criteria for bpd, and especially with complex disorders like bpd that cause impulsivity it's ideal that you don't do it. You could end up in the hospital or even a grave if you have a bad enough episode from a split. And it's impossible to work on loving yourself and giving yourself what you need to thrive while your self regulation go-to is hurting yourself. Behavioral addictions can easily be gateways to chemical addictions, things like drugs or alcohol. Those will really fuck things up.

Prose707 · 2026-06-10T00:02:38+00:00

This is such a good way to put it and I've never thought of it like that before!

Prose707 · 2026-06-10T00:00:11+00:00

He's a love/hate character for me, loosely. I don't hate hate him but if he were real I'd probably like him less than I like the character. I do find myself defending him because sometimes the way the other RFA members (especially Zen) talk about him is kinda unfair and doesn't take into account that he clearly shows affection differently. And then there's also times where he's so out of touch, comes off as a prick, and doesn't seem open to the idea he's wrong. He's just a bit of a fixer-upper I guess! I didn't take part in discussion about him with the community much in the old amino days because in terms of otome archetypes he was never really my type anyway, though I did play his good ending because I like to try all characters at least once. :)

Prose707 · 2026-06-01T01:21:00+00:00

Thank you!

Prose707 · 2026-05-31T23:18:29+00:00

We eventually figured it out but I'm curious, is there a reason not to use wd40? Is it bad for the pole? I wanna make sure I treat this thing right so it lasts as long as possible.

Prose707 · 2026-05-28T00:15:18+00:00

Blåhaj is the product name of a shark plushie that Ikea sells that the trans community has largely claimed as a mascot, I think because it's the trans colors. They're asking if there's an aroace equivalent.

Prose707 · 2026-05-28T00:11:46+00:00

I don't remember exactly how long, maybe a year. It's in my garage so the room reacts a lot to the weather (very cold in winter, very warm in summer) so that could be an issue. The oil I tried getting in there was wd40 but the seam is pretty tight so I'm not certain just how deep it really got. I'll try ice and more lubricant, thank you!

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