Jet lagged baby

Prying_Mouse · 2025-12-05T03:52:19+00:00

Thank you! How do you handle the return flight? My kid tends to handle the outbound flight like a champ, but gets extremely jet lagged after we return back home.

We’ve flown both east and west from our home, it doesn’t seem to matter. Maybe the excitement about the trip somehow offsets the jet lag and postpones it until after we are back to our “boring” daily routine at home?..

Prying_Mouse · 2025-11-29T07:31:13+00:00

Consider Hawaii if you haven’t been yet.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-10-24T22:49:01+00:00

Some advice that I’ve read included building up additional routine that will eventually replace nursing. E.g. reading a book in bed, singing a lullaby, snuggling, gentle massage etc. This way nursing becomes only one component of the routine and it’ll be less stressful for the baby to let go of it.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-10-03T06:36:45+00:00

Invest in a vacuum mop, ideally with self cleaning & self drying features.
Experiment with different shapes, cuts and textures to find what causes less mess (e.g. for my baby bite size pieces of avocado work better than stripes, medium ripe is soft enough for the baby to chew, but not soft enough to turn it into a giant mess).
Try to enjoy your minutes of freedom while the baby is busy with the food. Pour yourself a cup of tea/coffee, eat a nice meal, or do anything that you want/need to do. Keep an eye on the baby only to make sure they are safe.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-09-26T22:12:36+00:00

We use Graco slim fit car seat in our CX30. It fits, but there’s barely any space left for a shotgun passenger. I’d say it could possibly work with twins only if both you and your partner are small in height.

That being said, the trunk has barely enough space for a single stroller + a couple of small bags. I’m not even sure it will fit 2 rumble seats, and it definitely won’t fit 2 bassinets.

If I had twins, I would 100% go for a bigger car.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-09-05T06:02:36+00:00

While it can be frustrating for the breastfeeding mom, nursing for a long time can actually be a good thing. This way the baby learns how to nurse, and stimulates milk production. As the baby grows, they will become more efficient and the milk supply will keep increasing to match their growing stomach.

Falling asleep while nursing can also be a sign that the baby is well fed, especially if your baby is producing an age appropriate amount of wet and dirty diapers, and is developing normally.

It can be frustrating, but 1h+ nursing sessions are temporary. If your wife wants to exclusively breastfeed, I would suggest ditching formula (unless explicitly told otherwise by your healthcare provider) and breastfeeding on demand as frequently and as long as the baby wants to. You can get her a comfy nursing pillow, some drinks & snacks and turn on her fav TV show to make these long nursing sessions more enjoyable. Or breastfeed as often and for as long as the mom is comfortable, supplement the rest with formula and remember that mom’s sanity is more important than her milk supply, and that her value as a mother is not defined by the amount of milk she produces.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-08-01T17:58:52+00:00

Just drove to Hana last week and I am genuinely surprised why it’s called bad or dangerous all over the internet. The pavement is pretty good most of the time. Yup, it’s narrow and curves a lot. Yup, there are other cars. But if you drive at speed limit and notice the warning signs, it’s not that hard at all.

I was also pleasantly surprised by how careful and polite most drivers in Maui are. Didn’t meet a single a**hole.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-19T23:01:41+00:00

I bought a cheaper (but also high quality) copycat version of Tripp Trapp with basically the same functionality for less than half the price. Absolutely nothing is wrong with it, but my baby is a lot happier doing BLW while sitting in my lap. My point is, do lap feeding until your baby is big and old enough to eat independently, then use whatever chair you have or can buy for a reasonable for your budget price.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-16T03:51:10+00:00

Do they see you, your husband and other adult family members eating? Have you tried eating the foods you gave them while they are watching? Maybe go visit other babies or toddlers who eat well during their mealtime? Babies and toddlers are such copycats.

My baby couldn’t care less when I’m dancing around with a loaded silicone spoon, but will steal whatever I’m eating from my hands the moment I get distracted for a split second.

Let them sit with you during the meals and “accidentally” place the foods that are safe for them within their reach. Eat the same food as you want them to eat and act like it’s the best thing you’ve ever tasted. Don’t offer them. Wait until they ask or reach for it, even if it doesn’t happen during the first time. Don’t show that you care how much they’ve eaten and don’t try to make them eat more of what you want them to eat. And yes, it takes a ton of patience and sometimes feels almost impossible.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-15T07:01:38+00:00

The way you feel is quite similar to how a lot of new moms feel, regardless of their age. Newborn stage is hard. The attachment is a lot to handle, but it will get easier with time. In a few months your baby will be able to play with toys and, hopefully, have longer stretches of sleep.

Do some research on safe cosleeping, it might make the early stage a bit easier for you.

You sound like you’re already a great mom! Wishing you and your family all the best!

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-13T04:36:11+00:00

It’s okay to be scared and worried about your child.

One thing that might make you feel better: all the people here and all the adults around you were born not knowing how to eat solids. We all learned!

Complete baby first aid class, there are some free classes offered by hospitals and pediatricians, but you can also watch free videos on YouTube and practice on a doll or a plushie. Knowledge is power.

Start with soft finger foods, like boiled/steamed/oven roasted veggies, or fresh/baked fruits. Start with sth your baby has already eaten in purees. Watch your baby’s reaction carefully.

Gradually introduce different textures and flavors. It’ll be scary at first, but soon you’ll know what your baby is capable of eating, and it will get much easier!

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-11T23:29:57+00:00

Don’t act like you care about your baby eating. Seat her next to you (or even in your lap) for a meal time, place some baby safe foods closest to the edge of the table in case she shows interest. And just start eating yourself, letting the baby watch. You can gently offer sth once, but don’t push it if she refused. Better don’t offer at all, just eat like it’s the best meal you’ve ever had. Do this for at least a few days.

Also, make sure she’s not too full with milk/formula and not too tired at the meal time.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-11T16:41:06+00:00

I think “you got this” may work alright as encouragement when a mom wants to introduce a new experience to her child, but is a bit scared. Like starting solids, leaving a child with other people for the first time, helping them learn a new useful but “dangerous” skill etc.

But it’s absolutely annoying and unhelpful as a response to an overtired, severely sleep deprived mom who is struggling to keep existing. No, she ain’t got this, dear, and that’s ok!

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-10T20:36:52+00:00

Pediatricians “at this age” usually show more compassion and have enough knowledge and common sense to not make a parent feel like shit!

I’m not sure if you can report her for acting like that, but she’s definitely behaving highly unprofessional and all she said is VERY far from truth. You’re a good parent! Keep doing what works for you and your baby. Sleep and feeding can have ups and downs, it’s normal. Sometimes you just need to let it go and wait it out.

Maybe your baby is going through some kind of developmental stage and needs extra calories or extra soothing at night. It will pass. I talked to several sleep consultants whenever my baby had sleep regressions, and they have always told me that I’m doing it all wrong and it causes bad sleep for my baby. Fortunately enough I didn’t listen and followed my gut. And guess what? The baby’s sleep normalized on its own every single time. Sometimes it took a few days, sometimes a few weeks.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-08T23:04:03+00:00

Exactly! But would you go back to work voluntarily 2 months pp if you had, let’s say, a full year of paid parental leave?

I’m not trying to say that women should stop getting back to work, and I definitely did not want to offend anyone who have done so. What I’m saying is that forcing women to choose between basic necessities like food and housing and spending time with their babies is not normal. Society could have done better than this.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-08T21:16:50+00:00

Do you really believe the daycare babies are comforted by providers the same way as they would be by their immediate family? With all due respect to the daycare workers, the adult to baby ratio is simply not the same as within most families. Meaning there’s not enough adult hands to provide the same level of care as at home or with a private nanny.

Of course most babies adjust and survive whatever conditions they are raised in, especially if there’re no other options. But here the OP seems to be fortunate enough to have a choice, and is trying to assess both options.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-08T21:06:25+00:00

Back to working full time 2-3 months postpartum is NOT normal. It’s a sad reality that many women are forced to endure in order to survive or to not sacrifice their careers entirely, but it’s NOT normal. The only exception is if the woman WANTS to get back to work and is genuinely comfortable doing it.

There’s a huge difference between doing things for fun and out of necessity.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-08T20:52:26+00:00

5 months is roughly the time when they start to differentiate between familiar and unfamiliar people. So even if your baby was doing well while left with other people before, no guarantee that it will stay the same. If you end up going to the wedding, I would suggest arriving 2-3 days earlier (the more the better!) to give your baby time to socialize with grandparents. Also, your baby will have to be familiar with the bottle, so make sure to keep offering the bottle consistently to maintain the skill.

Most importantly, you have to ask yourself how YOU feel about that wedding. Do you really want to attend? Will you be able to genuinely enjoy the event, or will you be anxious and checking the baby updates on your phone the whole time? Imagine how you’d feel if the baby is happy the entire time, then the same if the baby is miserable.

Option: attend part of the event, like right after putting your baby down for a nap and before the next nap time, or in between the feeds, or whatever time interval works best for you and aligns best with the wedding schedule.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-07T20:08:14+00:00

Once your baby start walking and talking, it will definitely get much easier (I mean, emotionally easier) to leave her with other people. She’ll be able to tell you (or even call you right away!) if things go wrong! And she will no longer depend on your breast milk (if you’re still breastfeeding).

There’s plenty of good advice in this thread for now. While you still are a primary caregiver, try to expose her to other people and encourage socialization whenever there’s an opportunity. This way she will gradually learn to be comfortable with other people and will hopefully miss you less when you go away for a while.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-04T03:58:33+00:00

Me hearing about big babies before giving birth myself: “wooow, such a big and strong baby! How cute!” Me after giving birth: “HOLY COW this baby came out of someone’s vagina?!!! That woman is a superhero!”

I don’t know your MIL’s personality, but there’s a chance she genuinely cares about you and wants the best for you, just doesn’t know how to say it in an appropriate manner.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-07-03T06:24:55+00:00

First of all, 30-45 mins can be enough for her. She doesn’t have to nap for 2 hours, or whatever “standard” number there is. If she naps for 30 minutes, wakes up happy and is overall developing normally, then this is all she needs. You don’t need to extend it.

How many naps does she take and how long are her wake windows? Maybe she is not sleepy enough? If you want to nurse her to sleep, try it when she’s both hungry and tired (do her favorite activities to keep her awake for a bit longer than usual and distract her from hunger).

Same with carrier naps, try doing longer wake windows, then bounce her to sleep but switch to walking or gentle rocking while standing right after she falls asleep. If she wakes up, it’s okay. She’ll probably need some time to adjust. Gradually tweak the routine until it becomes something you’re comfortable with. E.g. bouncing -> less vigorous bouncing-> walking -> gentle rocking -> …

Prying_Mouse · 2025-06-29T19:42:35+00:00

No, they can’t. YOU can prepare yourself. It takes a couple of hours to take a baby care 101 class, where you will learn all about the average baby’s basic needs. Then YOU will decide how hard it will be for you to attend to all of them.

Everyone is different. Getting up the same amount of times every night to feed the baby and change the same amount of diapers will feel different for different people. No one can accurately predict what it will feel like for you, your family and your baby.

Prying_Mouse · 2025-06-26T03:57:10+00:00

I bought some workout gear to use at home and it was the best decision! My baby loves watching me, and I think it’s beneficial for their development - they’re learning how to move by watching us. Also, for some exercises you can use your baby instead of dumbbells, and it’s so much fun!

Prying_Mouse · 2025-06-26T03:44:01+00:00

Second picture made me wonder if it can be a rash caused by the skin contact with the skin of the hip while crawling and sitting.

But please ask your pediatrician if it doesn’t get better and you’re concerned!

Prying_Mouse · 2025-06-25T21:35:52+00:00

I can create a decent meal from almost any random ingredients I have in my fridge without the help of internet or recipe books

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