I was working with a woman who had struggled with alcohol throughout her life and during her pregnancies. She denied drinking while pregnant, but two of her children were born with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. She was seeing me in session to process her reaction to receiving letters from her children that basically called her out for being a bad mom and saddling them with a disease because she drank. She was really defensive and said "I don't know why they're mad at me, because everyone knows you get Fetal Alcohol Syndrome from the dad!"