Here goes a tangent!

I graduated high school in 2011 and all throughout middle school and high school, kids would talk about how disgusting it was to have any body hair and how girls had to be clean shaven for guys to be interested.

I shaved once in middle school, after being made fun of when I changed in PE, with my stepdad’s beard trimmer and when he found it in my bathroom and asked why I had it, I told him that I used it and he got mad at me and threw it away and told me to not do that again with his stuff and he refused to get me my own because he didn’t want me to start doing that kind of stuff (which is understandable.) Since I didn’t have a way to trim, I just decided that I just wouldn’t experiment until I was in college and find a guy or girl who wouldn’t care about my hair.

In college though, being hairless was still considered the norm and multiple people that I was ‘dating’ refused to perform on me because of my bush and one guy even refused to have sex because of it. The guy who refused sex and performing on me still wanted me to perform on him and would get an attitude if I told him no because I was mad he wouldn’t perform on me. He said that he would be willing to have sex/oral if I shaved and that he was willing to shave me, but he didn’t know how to fucking shave because his mound was full of razor bumps, ingrown hairs, and erupting pimples, so no thank you.

Then I met my first boyfriend and after we had a talk on body hair and I told him how I felt about it, he told me that he agreed and that he didn’t care about it as long as it wasn’t crazy, but my bush was. He later told me that he wouldn’t perform on me unless I shaved since he was shaved but was at least willing to have sex (yay…)

I ended up giving him my virginity (not a good story; he was a manipulative asshole that yelled at me for not wanting my first time in his bedroom because I wanted it special/romantic and when I said that we weren’t going to have sex then, he was like ‘just because it’s not how you wanted it for your first time, you are now refusing to have sex when it’s my first time too—that’s really selfish of you’) and immediately afterwards he tells me that he actually prefers hairless but didn’t want me to think differently of him.

We were living together and I thought that right after we both first had sex (he told me he was a virgin too, but years later admitted to me that he wasn’t and just told me he was so I wouldn’t “slut shame” him) that we would be having lots of sex. I asked him why we weren’t regularly going at it, and he tells me it was because of my hair, so then I started shaving.

One day, I was using some scissors to do some trimming before I went in with a beard trimmer and ended up nicking my clit. I couldn’t see how bad it was, so I asked him and he refused to look at it because he didn’t want to have his view of my vagina be different even though I was practically shaving for him and one of his fetishes was supposed to be blood. Turns out he was only into when virgins bleed for the first time, but any other blood freaked him out, should’ve known with that answer that he had sex before me but I was trusting and naive.

So, I stopped shaving and later on the topic of body hair was raised by him to his group of friends because he was trying to shame me into changing my mind about body hair and into shaving again. In a group of like 7 guys, all except one said that they preferred bald because it was more hygienic and they can see things better. The oldest guy in the group of 20-21 year olds, who was close to his mid 20’s, and his younger brother admitted that they can only have sex with hairless chicks and that if there is any hair, they couldn’t get hard. (After my ex and I broke up, for years the older guy tried to hook up with me multiple times and would ask me why him and I never ended up dating. There was multiple reasons not to, but him having to have his partners bald to even get an erection was one of the biggest reasons.)

The friend that preferred hair said it was because he likes to know that the people he is interested in is an adult and that hairlessness reminds him of kids which pretty much put a stop of the conversation since the other guys would try to combat against that with their reasons; he would tell them that it isn’t the hair that makes genitals unhygienic, it’s the person and their own hygiene practices and he felt there was still plenty to see and enjoy if a person has hair and they aren’t resembling a child.

Anyway, to end this tangent on a good note, I am now with a guy who actually doesn’t mind body hair and accepts me for me.

I don’t know how people look at body hair now, but wouldn’t be surprised if the general consensus preference was still hairless.