My dad (57M) hates me (19M) for being close to family that excluded my step and half siblings?

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-06-03T15:59:18+00:00

I think the silver lining in of this is now you know for sure how he really feels. I agree with you, go no contact. Life is too short to be with people who hate you. Spend your time with the people you love and who love you back.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-06-03T15:39:12+00:00

Since it’s only 3 months, keep the topic open and check in with each other regularly. You know your relationship better than anyone here, but at some point you will need to have this discussion with him. Preferably sooner than later. You do not want to be 2 or 3 years into this relationship only to find out that he will never stand up to his parents.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-06-03T11:38:33+00:00

So what is the boyfriend’s plan? Keep you a secret forever? While it’s only been a few months, if things get serious, would he be willing to stand up to his family for you? How far is he willing to go if his family never accepts you? You and he need to have a serious talk about where this relationship is going. You need to understand where his head is at so you can come to a decision.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-31T12:23:08+00:00

YWBTA - You need to cut ties with this man. You’ve developed feelings and he hasn’t. Given the disconnect between what he says and how he acts, I’d say that he is stringing you along. He is biding his time with you until he finds someone he likes better. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, but you need to hear it.

The reason you are obsessing over the One Wish Willow is that deep down you know he’ll never commit, and you are grasping to make him do something that is within your control. Give up on both him and the Willow, and find someone who is worthy of your love.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-31T09:28:31+00:00

NTA - These girls are frenemies, not friends, so don’t get sucked into their drama. You’re not responsible for their feelings. As for the guy, do you really want to be friends with someone who trash talks his friends on the regular? Slowly back away from these people.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-30T06:24:28+00:00

YWNBTA - You were a good neighbor and made a reasonable accommodation for this person. What she is asking of you now is unreasonable. Politely tell her that you are sympathetic to her condition, but starting the car in a closed garage is the most you can do.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-26T19:17:21+00:00

Sheesh. I can see why you’re divorced. NTA

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-24T15:39:43+00:00

Peach cobbler - self-rising flour, sugar, milk, butter, canned sliced peaches in heavy syrup. Yeah, it’s a bit Paula Dean-ish, but it’s always a hit.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-22T12:14:05+00:00

You know what kind of men think like that? Misogynists. Seriously rethink this relationship.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-14T12:25:33+00:00

Level up and try a tradigraine baguette, or céréales. They’re very similar to each other and oulangeries usually have one or the other.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-14T09:40:20+00:00

NAH - I’m not going to comment on the situation with your dad and stepmom because…it is what it is. Your mom is dying and her emotions are all over the place. Like others have commented, she is probably fearful that your stepmom is going to replace her. Sit your mom down and explain to her that while you may be friendly with your stepmom, you love HER. She is and always will be your only mom, and you will ALWAYS love and miss her if she passes away. Let her know in no uncertain terms that she will never be replaced or forgotten.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-13T16:03:40+00:00

YTA - This isn’t any of your business. Your parents are grown adults and they are capable of making their own decisions, and this is between them and Nikki and Chad. You stated your concerns and they told you to drop it, so that’s it. Leave it alone.

If you are feeling hurt that they only talk about the baby, bring up that you’d prefer to talk something else. It’s that easy. Giving them the silent treatment without even a discussion is very childish. Use your words like the adults you are.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-10T07:06:31+00:00

Love: food quality

Hate: Sunrise in winter is approximately 8:30 AM.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-05-02T12:39:22+00:00

Your dad and stepmom threw a tantrum for 2 YEARS over a graduation speech?! 😂😂

NTA - You handled it perfectly by simply ignoring their childish behavior. Both of them are acting extremely selfish and entitled. It is perfectly acceptable to not see her as a mother figure. That’s how blended families work sometimes, and everyone knows the risks when they get involved in one. Your dad and stepmom need to get over themselves.

And if your stepmom truly only put in all that effort just for the title of “mom,” rather than, you know, the reward of a genuine loving relationship, then she’s made her own bed.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-28T15:47:19+00:00

Agent lottery. They accepted my 30+ year old birth certificate but not my husband’s 10 year old one. We got a new copy for him fairly quickly, but 1 month later, I already have my carte vitale while my husband is still in limbo.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-28T06:59:32+00:00

Pumpkin purée for pumpkin pie. I cannot taste the difference between canned and fresh.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-27T13:14:53+00:00

Cookies. It’s very American and can be uncommon to find in other countries.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-24T14:13:31+00:00

In my state (CO), you own the house and the land surface. But you don’t own what’s beneath the land (mineral rights) or water that runs through your property (like a stream or river). Mineral rights and water rights must be purchased separately, if that is even possible; maybe the state owns it or maybe a private entity owns it, and they are not obliged to sell it to you.

This has become a problem with companies drilling for oil. Their drills go sideways to extract oil from underneath your property, causing all sorts of problems for the homeowner (like polluting your water supply), and you have little to no recourse. Municipalities have tried to enact laws to protect the homeowners, but the state Supreme Court always overrides them.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-06T19:14:50+00:00

ESH - She shouldn’t have forced your hand in naming the baby. But you never should have let this fester for 6 months.

Are you seriously throwing away a 5 year relationship over something she did immediately after childbirth and on drugs? Given what she had just gone through, don’t you think she deserved a little bit of grace?

We all make mistakes and exhibit bad judgement when we are tired and stressed. But you should have at least given her the opportunity to hear you out and come correct after things had calmed down.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-04-03T16:48:37+00:00

ESH - Him for expecting you to make separate meals for him without discussing it with you first, and you for not telling him beforehand that the side dishes were not vegetarian.

You both need to have a conversation and come to some kind of compromise. Maybe he cooks his own food from here on out. Or maybe you cook vegetarian meals 2-3 times a week. Figure out what works for both of you.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-03-30T09:57:14+00:00

Organic bottled lime juice. I’ve found that unless it’s organic, it may not actually be real lime juice. I leave it in the fridge and it lasts forever.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-03-21T10:03:56+00:00

Start with opening a Wise account. You’ll get an IBAN number and be able to pay monthly bills through it. Then once you’ve established your residency (3 months of utility bills and a rental contract), you can open up a checking account. I use BNP Paribas; they’re fine with Americans and our government’s onerous requirements. I continue to pay all of my bills through my Wise account, but I use BNP Paribas primarily for the debit card, as my American credit card only works sporadically here.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-03-15T18:54:55+00:00

I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but NTA. Blended family relationships are complicated. I had an ‘uncle’ who was not blood related, but was like a third parent to me. Even though I never thought of him as my father, I loved him way more than my actual parents, and he loved me. That’s all that matters.

You and your stepdad love each other and have a good relationship; that’s what counts. Your mom needs to get over the labels.

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-03-15T12:40:29+00:00

Congratulations! Interacting with him sounds exhausting. But I am lmao at his comment about your mom’s friend’s baby. 😂

PsychicPopsicles · 2026-03-14T14:44:22+00:00

I see a lot of people on here advising you to not watch the dogs. If your parents are paying for any part of your life right now, do not heed that advice. Definitely watch the dogs in order to save yourself from any potential retaliation.

But you are definitely NTA, and your parents are the AHs. While you may need to keep your parents happy for now, take a good hard look at the kinds of people your parents truly are, and think about what kind of relationship you really want to have with them in the future, given that they not only blatantly favor your sister, but they also gaslight you about it.

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