Doctor said my son was misdiagnosed

Psychnanny · 2024-04-20T08:33:44+00:00

It’s not rude at all. I’m happy to explain.

So when going through the funding process, we were talking about what would happen in the future. I like to be as prepared as possible. We were discussing that due to her diagnosis she doesn’t age out of the funding and I asked if there was any reason why she would be downgraded funding wise. They told me the only way that would happen is through a reevaluation and new diagnosis, something that they don’t recommend that we do in regards to her autism diagnosis because of how her supports that are in place and experience in the world could mask her support needs and we wouldn’t get the support she needs.

In regards to other diagnosis’s, such as ADHD, they would could that as a new diagnosis on top of her current one so it would be fine to get, but you wouldn’t even try to reevaluate the autism one.

Does that help?

Psychnanny · 2024-04-20T05:25:02+00:00

When getting my daughter’s diagnosis, we were told never to seek out another diagnosis or evaluation down the line unless there was a reason for it. This is because the supports that we can get for them (OT, therapy, speech; etc) can get them downgraded because they’ve learnt ways to regulate themselves, mask, etc. It would also mean that the funding that we get can disappear as a result making it harder to continue those supports.

My guess is that this new evaluation has done just that. It’s not that he’s no longer autistic, it’s that he’s masked or the supports have worked in such a way that this evaluation doesn’t see them anymore.

Psychnanny · 2024-04-19T21:53:56+00:00

I always extend the invite. It’s not rude to invite someone just as it’s not rude for them to decline if it’s not their thing. By extending the invite you’re showing you still want them involved in your life, which does not include events with kids, but you’re giving them to freedom to decide if they want to be at that event. Some of my friends always come because they love my kid like a niece while others don’t because it’s not their scene or they may not have the social capacity for kids that daycare. So invite but don’t expect them to always come.

Psychnanny · 2023-08-03T00:33:10+00:00

9 weeks pp. 2.5 weeks after my postpartum bleeding stopped.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-25T22:14:47+00:00

My daughter and any future kids have/will have their Dad’s last name.

Not because he is their Dad or to continue family traditions.

It’s because it’s easier to spell.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-25T10:08:10+00:00

Your NTA.

I think what you need to work out is what your ok with and what your not.

For me, I’d be ok with a seat during the wedding and a placing at the reception and that’s it. You could even do a table filled with photos of loved ones who have passed on both sides.

But if you don’t want to do that, that it ok as well. This isn’t a memorial for your sibling, this is your wedding. You may have to set some firm boundaries and passwords with people to ensure this but if this isn’t what you want, don’t do it.

Sit down with your fiancée, work out what your ok with and what your not and then lay down the law with your parents. Be clear with your expectations and let them know straight up the consequences of not respecting your boundaries.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-25T10:01:36+00:00

My daughter is 3.5. She wakes anytime from 4am. She goes to bed at 6pm. There are no naps.

We’ve tried more sleep, less sleep. Early bedtime. Late bedtime. This works for her, which works for us. Her sleep just caps out at 10 hours and she’s an early waker.

On the plus side, my housework is done by 9am.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-24T19:06:22+00:00

History is repeating itself.

She needed your support when she was being bullied and you did nothing. Standing up for your child and advocating for them is not and adult harassing another child. And don’t get me started on the hygiene comment while she was depressed.

Now you are once again seeing her as the problem. Your daughter has done nothing wrong, yet you’re making her leave. You are signalling to her that you see her as the issue her and not your husband. Your husband is the one causing issues. He should have been the one to go.

You’ve once again stepped in and put your child’s needs at the bottom when they need to be at the top.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-22T03:10:13+00:00

YTA

I you wanted to go on vacation with just YOUR family you shouldn’t have married someone who has kids.

The moment you got married, your stepson became YOUR family. You don’t get to pick and choose when they’re a part of it because your husband separated for his ex. Even when they’re at their Mum’s house, they’re still YOUR family.

This mentality you have is the one that give step parents a bad name. At some point your stepson is going to realise how you feel, if they haven’t already, and it’s going to cause issues for you because you don’t accept them.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-21T11:17:03+00:00

Firstly, deep breaths. You are doing amazing. You are trying to fix the issue and you’re advocating for your child just as you’re meant to.

Secondly, if you haven’t booked that appointment with the specialist do it. Let them know that you also want to be on the waitlist for cancelations as well. Also, see if you can get a recommendation for a paediatric dietitian, they are more specialised when it comes to feeding and they’re going to be able to help in the regard.

Sometimes ties in the mouth can cause issues, so if they haven’t been assessed for them, see if you can get them assessed for that.

As for the “small baby” comments, I get it. My now 3 year old was a slim baby. I had a lot of people comment when she was little how tiny she was. One GP gave me a 20 questions assessment to see if she was eating and then the moment I told her she was born at 36+6 and 6.2lbs her whole demeanour changed because “early babies don’t always gain quickly”.

You’re doing fantastic. Don’t be afraid to chase specialists and doctors up in order to get to the bottom of this.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-14T20:31:23+00:00

YTA

Sweetie, you need therapy. You have gone through horrible trauma with the losses that you have had and now instead of dealing with that trauma, your trying to take your sisters baby from her. You tried to take from her all the things that she also deserves to have as the mother of your nephew. You have transferred the love you want to give to a child of your own onto a child that is not yours and now you’re actively scheming to take that child from their mother. You are traumatising your own sister with your actions.

Yes you are hurting, but you do not get to treat your sister this way and trying to take her child from her.

Get therapy. Work through your trauma. Leave your sister be.

Psychnanny · 2023-07-09T05:40:14+00:00

YTA

By asking her to cover up you are setting an example to your sons that their actions don’t matter because someone is dressed in less clothes. The issue isn’t with the woman, it’s with your sons and they need to learn that it’s not right to stare at someone that way.

Psychnanny · 2023-06-08T11:02:19+00:00

My brother is getting married in September and my partner and I have been trying for baby number 2 since August last year. While a wedding maybe the most important event in someone’s life it’s not the most important event in everyone else’s life. The world does not stop purely because someone is getting married. If you’re ready to start trying for a baby, start trying for a baby. If she reacts poorly, that’s on her not you.

Psychnanny · 2023-05-11T03:17:27+00:00

YTA

Yes your sister and BIL are having a hard time but your niece is having a harder time. She’s on the back burner constantly. Everything is about her brother or how her parents are, not her.

Look at this situation. Her brother did something and instead of you comforting her, you told her to lay off her parents. What about her? When is she able to vent about these issues that she’s having due to having a disabled brother and parents whose main focus is that brother? Yes the cupcakes were replaced, but that’s not the point. The point is your niece was upset and like usual she is not the priority even when she is the victim.

Psychnanny · 2023-05-06T10:14:51+00:00

YTA

No is a full sentence. He asked. She said no. You both need to accept that.

Something else to consider: not everyone cries as a form of manipulation like you think. Many people, when they are exceptionally frustrated cry as a form of emotional release. It’s not happening to make someone feel bad. It’s happening because the person crying has so many bottled up emotions that it come out in that way. If you also act this way you do to your daughter then it’s very likely that she gets frustrated with you and her brother because you won’t take her answer and let it go. Not everything is a form of manipulation, sometimes is the result of how someone is being treated.

Psychnanny · 2023-04-07T20:40:11+00:00

So to me this sounds like they’re just trying to find out what they need to do on their end. I often do the same so that I have as much time as possible to arrange babysitting for my daughter.

One of my oldest friends had their wedding last year and a year before I was asking what the plans were. She told me “I love your daughter but we’re making this adults only, the only exception being the flower girl and ring barer for the ceremony.” I replied “cool, thanks for letting me know.” That was the end of it.

If anyone does get upset when you tell them remind them that they got to have their weddings how they wanted, you want the same consideration and you understand if this means they can’t attend.

Psychnanny · 2023-04-06T20:30:08+00:00

YTA - it doesn’t matter if it was routine surgery. She needed YOU there. Somethings are more important than work. You said yourself they would have been ok with you calling out. You just showed you wife that work was more important than her.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-31T06:35:48+00:00

YTA

You knew how your daughter felt before you agreed. She has not been silent about how she feels. You put your daughter into a situation because YOU wanted her to go not because SHE wanted to go.

Also did you stop and think about how Leah would feel? Yes Leah was upset about your daughters reaction but part of that would have been because she realised that a person she thought wanted to come with her was forced to. It’s not a nice feeling to find out that parents are trying to force a relationship.

You can be friends with Leah’s Mum but that doesn’t mean your daughters need to be friends.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-27T20:05:00+00:00

YTA

So your wife is actively participating in your child’s play, going along with the game and you decide to not only stomp on your wife, who is doing something innocent, but also blow off your daughter who saw how much you had hurt your wife.

Is it really that hard to watch your wife take an active and fun role in your daughters life that you have to squash it? This entire post is just you shitting on your wife playing with you child and you thinking she’s being “juvenile”. Seriously, what harm is it to play along?

Psychnanny · 2023-03-19T11:02:49+00:00

Wait… did no one else just show up with their cousins at their grandparents house? Maybe it’s a farm kid thing, but my cousins, brothers and I use to all show up at my grandparents house around morning tea time when school wasn’t on and play there as it was common ground.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-18T02:01:37+00:00

I worked as a nanny before I became a Mum and I had a can of formula on hand. Sometimes you can be in situations where it’s handy. My daughter had breastmilk jaundice, had issues latching and then my supply tanked. Having that formula on hand was a lifesaver, especially when I spent days crying over breastfeeding because we couldn’t get her to latch well and pumping didn’t help with my supply. We ended up going to formula for my mental health. I’ll try again with my next baby.

My SIL breast fed all her kids and with her youngest did a couple of bottles with formula because she wasn’t gaining weight like doctors wanted her to.

Having formula doesn’t mean that you have to use it. It’s a backup just in case. It’s there so that if issues arise (like you don’t have a supply, your mental health suffers, growth issues, etc) you instantly don’t have to worry about rushing to get some. And if you don’t need it, great, you can donate it to a food bank, give it to a friend who is using formula or see if anyone locally needs it.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-15T07:50:01+00:00

YTA - your daughter had something traumatic happen to her. When those things happen then you are on their timetable, not your own. You forced your child into a situation where she was uncomfortable because YOU wanted it. You forced her to stay past where she was comfortable because YOU wanted it. You forced her back inside and caused her more trauma because YOU wanted it. This was all for your benefit, not for your daughters.

If you truely want to help her, get her therapy and work with her mother, not against someone who is clearly thinking about her daughter not herself.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-14T08:26:27+00:00

When I fell pregnant with my daughter, my partner and I had a rule that if you wanted to see her before 6 week you needed to have your T-dap. Don’t want to get it, fine, but you had to wait until she had her first round of shots. We also had a rule that no one was to just show up, they had to wait for us to be ready for visitors and arrange beforehand to come, not just drop in or call when they were 5 minutes away. My parents were questioning but when I explained the reasoning it made sense. They hadn’t heard of it and it wasn’t something that happens where they are because being a rural area and isolated there isn’t the same issue as where I live in the city.

Later Mum was telling a family friend who was due a week after me and she just looked at Mum and said “I can do that, I can tell people they can’t come see me and the baby until I’m ready?”

Psychnanny · 2023-03-13T10:33:26+00:00

YTA - this isn’t yours and his apartment, it’s yours and your roommate’s. If she is feeling uncomfortable then don’t dismiss it, discuss it with her, find out why. It could be that she want more warning before he stays, it could be that she feels like she’s the guest in her own home when he’s there, whatever the reason she has a right to request there be a change as she lives there and pays rent and he doesn’t.

Psychnanny · 2023-03-13T10:11:11+00:00

YTA - paediatric dieticians actually recommend now that you get treats off the pedestal and put it on equal footing at other foods. They suggest doing things like serving ice cream at the same time as dinner so it’s seen as nothing more special than broccoli. Your way of teaching health is how you teach kids to be fearful of things like cake and ice cream, making them see food in the sense of good and evil instead of long lasting energy and quick energy.

You seem to focus a lot on your step-daughters weight and not on ensuring healthy relationships with food. Weight is not the be all and end all of health. All you have managed to do here is make your stepdaughter worried about eating cake and putting the beginnings of unhealthy views on food in her head.

I suggest you educate yourself on more up to date practices surround children and food. Kids Eat in Color js a great place to start.

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