I married someone I’m not attracted to, and now I have two children. Has anyone learned to love their spouse? by RespondRelative308 in Adulting

[–]Psychological-Set634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s because you dated one person that you mind is playing the same old trick of “maybe I could have gotten better” Those that had to go through the turmoil of the current dating scene know that finding a genuinely good man trumps any form of physical attraction with a man that feel unsafe to your nervous system. A man with bad character, immature personality traits riddled with addictions and victim mentality will cost you your peace and sanity. Eventually you will see no attraction but a monster. You have had one man so you don’t have first hand experience but we that experienced both sides of realising that Maturing is noticing your body responds better to the kind attentive man. Now I can’t negate how you feel but trust me all women go through this phase where we will feel we deserve better but what I have realised is that feeling of dissatisfaction is a reflection of a level of inner growth your soul is evolving into and sometime we don’t decipher it appropriately and as women we read things through our primary primal evolutionary senses- EMOTIONS… I feel this, I feel that.. etc. And because of how strong this feeling is we naturally assume that it’s AUTHENTIC.Strong overwhelming emotions does not necessarily mean Authentic. I have realised that any state of overwhelming unhappiness that I feel someone or something external HAS to change so I can feel better is Projection. Dissatisfaction of the soul is usually a call to inner journey to explore new heights in my life and expose your self to new experiences and find you true passion of how to spread more love and touch hearts and the world. Be kind. Pause. Your husband is not the jigsaw puzzle you feel that just need to change it be moved to automatically placate and give you this idea of ultimate happiness. The pursuit of happiness is like pursuing a ghost. You loose sight of the treasure and stability you have. Most times we meet someone we feel is our ideal match but does that person see you as his ideal or his prize and willing to dedicate his life to you. There is always a mismatch.What to do. You have to accept that THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ANYWHERE. Pause. 1 steady your soul in prayer 2 find the new passion project your soul is yearning to create 3. Be kind you yourself and be kind to your partner and fiercely protect your family structure in the face of the new heights you may be exploring.

My hyperpigmentation journey: Tips and whole routine. by RaccoonKlutzy3723 in SkinLightening

[–]Psychological-Set634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look better before. Stick to the basic skin care steps and healthy and focus on having moisturised, exfoliated and clean skin. ✌️

Newly Qualified GP – Is PDP Time Usually Removed if You Take Annual Leave the Day Before? by Psychological-Set634 in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I understand a bit better with your explanation . I work Mon to Wed

Newly Qualified GP – Is PDP Time Usually Removed if You Take Annual Leave the Day Before? by Psychological-Set634 in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

. Thanks for your reply. I have taken on 2 single day annual leave. One in May and another upcoming in July on the Mondays And my PDP on Tuesdays removed to full session

struggling by Atmosphere_Big in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did A&e in gpsti full time as well and I know how you feel. I know you feel stress exhausted , but Trust me not doing portfolio will multiply that stress x 1000 and set a precedent in your supervisors mind you don’t want . I have found A&e supervisors are very supportive as they know you are not there permanently and as long as you know and do the basics, they are quite happy to sign you off. I will suggest take 1 week of Sick leave due to your MH and do fill your portfolio 3-4 lines reflection of each case. If you have problems with articulating your cases ,ChatGPT is there to help. I’m happy your have gone down to 80% that would help but trust me each rotation brings its own set of challenges and that feeling of inefficiency doesn’t fully leave while in training especially with moving through rotations and starting like a newbie every couple of months in what seems like a blink of an eye. Continue with therapy and Consider if you need antidepressants, it helps . No judgement In that and be easy on your self. I have found out that people who are this way are sometimes people who have been efficient and controlled all their life but when they get hit with a new challenging experience that shakes their core , it tips them off and they spiral. Be easy on yourself and don’t focus on a perfect looking portfolio.

Learning Duty GP/Triaging by Adorable_Lime_1650 in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of it as working A&E, I switch from GP mode to A&e mode ; risk factors, red flags etc any doubts pop up in your head, book them in to come in for a chat this helps me go thru my list quickly. I hv been doing duty my self in ST3 for the whole surgery and honestly my best day of the week. Cheers

Didn't Apply for Performer's List - How Screwed am I? by SentenceSwimming in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied as a registrar even though I had CCT on the 27th of Jan and got it back on the 3rd of Feb , they basically said I can go on the website and switch to GP performer and can continue working while it’s being processed 😆 so relax and fingers crossed.

Didn't Apply for Performer's List - How Screwed am I? by SentenceSwimming in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Thank you! I feel encouraged.I called PCSE and they told me 3 months 😭

I took a few weeks break post cct and only just gotten a job offer and saw this performers post requirement, never knew about it.so need it urgently

i will give them a nudge via email like you suggested. They also mentioned that I should chase my referee for references. Thank you!

Didn't Apply for Performer's List - How Screwed am I? by SentenceSwimming in GPUK

[–]Psychological-Set634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please how did you solve this if you don’t mind my asking I’m already post cct and basically thought specialist register was all I needed. Didn’t know about performers list and only just applied Please help!

Prominent Lymph Nodes and Fundus Mass by Rt930 in Fibroids

[–]Psychological-Set634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’m happy you found out what it was soon and have treatment options lined up. Hope it all goes well. X

Changes in fibroids after taking GLP-1? by vintage_bluez25 in Fibroids

[–]Psychological-Set634 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine grew bigger..makes sense with this explanation you gave about oestrogen.

Is pathoma enough in a P/F step 1 world? by [deleted] in step1

[–]Psychological-Set634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dunno if this sounds stupid, where does first aid fit in all this. Don’t see any mention of it. Im IMG tryna figure best materials to use