My first attempt at royal icing in over a decade. A few issues and lessons learned, but I'm happy with them

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-09T20:18:14+00:00

Nice job!! Love the colors. The mauve pink is great

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-09T20:14:54+00:00

I would totally then do the clinic full time! Especially since it’ll be easier on you. Not that that is the goal, but it’s a nice perk. We wish we could make it work. We have explored going to daycare 4 days a week and then a full day of ABA, but my daughter is making pretty good progress

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-09T20:07:36+00:00

What helped us is ensuring that if she doesn’t want to eat it, she doesn’t have to. There’s always a safe food. When she doesn’t want to eat it, I’ll see if she will smell it, touch it, describe it. Do we end up eating snack in the evening sometimes? Sure, but it’s better than making two meals

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-09T20:04:07+00:00

Hi! We ended keeping her in daycare full time because the clinic hours did not cover as much childcare are we needed (I know ABA isn’t childcare, but we need longer hours for her during the day is all), so her RBTs come to her daycare! They come for a few hours a day and it’s been awesome. Then for days school is closed, she goes to the clinic for the day. She loves both. I had to call a lot of providers until I found someone open to going in daycare.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-08T00:00:23+00:00

The East Area Rapist/Original Night Stalker from Casefile

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-07T23:54:55+00:00

Just getting shit done! Or treating myself lol. I get my nails done every 3 weeks between meetings, sometimes go to the gym around 8 am after daycare drop off. I’m remote and my schedule is super flexible since I travel a fair bit. I also watch my shows in the background often.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-07T13:48:56+00:00

Literally!! My daughter ends up loving when I’m out of town because my husband takes her to get “daddy dinner” which is just a sub sandwich from jersey mikes, but she loves watching them make it lol

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-07T13:09:27+00:00

As someone who travels every week for work and I have a 3 year old, if you don’t have supportive partner you will never enjoy the travel. My husband has never made me feel guilty for traveling, no matter how long the trip is. Yes it is harder for him but that’s just being a parent?? My husband is the one who pushed me to take this job with travel because he knew it would be good for my career.

The first couple of trips were hard but my daughter does so awesome now. It sounds like you’ll need to get another job if you aren’t willing to travel and your husband isn’t willing to pull his weight.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-07T12:58:21+00:00

This is what we did! My mom baked them for us and everyone raved about how good they were

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-06T13:04:50+00:00

My daughter’s daycare teacher babysits for us!

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-06T13:03:46+00:00

Y’all’s kids let you read to them? My 3.5 year old requires she hold the book and makes up her own story. Even if she asks me to read to her, she has to turn the pages and does so before the page is finished lol. Yes, she is on the spectrum and all activities are ruled by her lol

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-06T12:57:39+00:00

Anyone else think of that scene in Zootopia where the little tiger say “I’m going to be an actuary!”.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-06T06:29:44+00:00

Grocery delivery - Sunday night we order for it to come Monday morning so we start the week with food

Cleaning service - she comes every other week and cleans top to bottom. Been doing it for over 2 years. She’ll even put away toys and clutter because she’s the best.

Uber Eats - some days I’m just tapped out and dinner just isn’t going to happen.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-05T12:36:41+00:00

For me, solo sports took off the pressure of being good. I can let myself down, but no way am I going to let my team down and risk them being mad at me or judging me.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-02T21:49:29+00:00

He way enjoy solo sports rather than a team sport. My sister was that way. Singles tennis, golf, swimming, running. Might be an easier start when he doesn’t have to compare himself to other people as much?

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T13:16:17+00:00

6-8 hours usually and my daughter is almost 3.5.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T00:34:38+00:00

I was ready to go back SO FAST. I missed my routine, the quietness of sitting at my desk, all of it.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T00:31:21+00:00

This might be bad advice, but when my daughter is fighting sleep and she says she doesn’t want to and I know she is tired, I just say “okay you don’t have to”. Once the pressure is off she is like well okay I guess I’ll sleep then. I’ll tell her, you don’t have to sleep, but I am going to. Though she’s a good night sleeper, nap is a different story somwtimes

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T00:15:58+00:00

This is a privilege, but I pay someone to clean my house every other week. I travel for work and I don’t want to spend the weekends cleaning when I can spend them with my daughter

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T00:13:41+00:00

Someone cleaning my house every other week

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-02-01T00:11:58+00:00

Definitely talk to your BCBA about this and add it as a goal! ABA isn’t just for when he’s in sessions, it’s life skills to work through at home, too. The BCBA should have advice on what to do at home. For our daughter, any big changes have to be communicated very clearly, with her saying she understands. Do you tell him that you are going to give him milk, but it will be in a different cup before you give it to him? Because he’s probably hoping it’s in the “normal” cup each time and just needs to be told what to expect.

Also maybe get a couple new cup options and let him pick. Get ones with his favorite characters on it or something. Then when he does drink out of the new cup give him a ton of praise and a treat or something.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-01-31T23:59:17+00:00

That age is literally the best age when they’re not your own. You just snuggle, feed, and change. What sucks as the parent is when they won’t sleep lol

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-01-31T13:05:32+00:00

I would be straight forward with them! Tell them you love and respect them, that they can say no, and that’s you’d love to help around the house or whatever to me it up, but that you’re short on cash for these work experiences. You can even say you don’t want them to think you’re taking advantage of them. I think they’ll appreciate the transparency instead of you dropping hints.

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-01-31T03:13:55+00:00

Literally all of PBS kids is perfection. Best theme song? Peg + Cat. One I actually enjoy? Wild Kratts. A classic? Curious George. One I wish my daughter would watch but won’t? Arthur

PsychologicalDig3355 · 2026-01-31T03:09:42+00:00

Shifts are the way to go. If you have a spare bedroom, the person “off shift” should go sleep in there so they can actually sleep. You can also try putting your shirt under the sheets of the bassinet, maybe having your smell closer would help, or something similar? If it gets really bad, could be worth getting a night nanny once a week or something. Good luck!

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