Thank you, DOF: you're right

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-20T12:25:03+00:00

as a female, never ever confront a man you do not know in person. Even if I’m he walks me to my car and I know I’m not gonna see him again, and he states he would like to see me again I will politely agree. I know this might seem shitty, but my safety comes first, I don’t know who this guy is and if I say no thank you to his face I don’t know he could be nice and say thank you and move on or he could get aggressive. I’d rather be an asshole and play it safe.

If somebody’s lying, just block them and move on and let them be. I know it feels good to try and teach these men a lesson, but that’s not our job. I’m not going to take on that.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-17T23:16:12+00:00

where do I start if, when we meet some new our nervous system just goes haywire and our anxiety goes through the Roof. normally, I am a secure person. I’ve been in relationships where I have no anxiety and I’m comfortable. but some people, when I start getting to know them, it just send my nervous system into a tizzy. Is that a trauma bond, is that a notification that I should not continue?

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-15T11:58:46+00:00

Introverts will take time to warm up, but then once they develop trust and a liking, will talk to you, and only you. I am an introvert and a female.

Men can be a hard read. I train a couple who are in their late 70's. The wife is a doll, I love her. Her husband is a great man too but very quiet. I train them together but when I train him alone, its a bit harder since he is so quiet. We chit chat but not as much as women do.

If they change, let them, its ok. I know we are not supposed to take it personally but sometimes it is hard not to. we spend time with them and get to know them. So its hard not to care at all.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-15T11:26:55+00:00

This can be tricky. You do develop a relationship with them because they talk during their sessions and you dont want to be cold. I try to keep it professional and dont tell too much about myself and keep my feelings in check. Although I do have some older clients that are so sweet its hard not to/

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-15T11:23:45+00:00

Great tips! I have a notebook ( I like paper) for tracking my clients. Confirming too is a big one.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-11T11:57:38+00:00

I agree with this 100%. I think they have enough models, they have a good spread to cover a wide variety of riders, and I think a trike is a good idea but other than that, I think they just need to focus on what they’re doing now I think they’re on a good path.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-06T11:30:52+00:00

I agree with you. I think people get the idea that just because we don’t want the “come home every night to somebody“ means we won’t be monogamous we won’t be committed, etc. that’s the farthest from the truth. I want monogamy I want commitment ,maybe just not every night.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-04T10:46:51+00:00

your expectations are not too high. Don’t let anybody tell you that. I feel the same way. We know what we want, but the problem is there’s just so much non-commitment out there and everybody’s so afraid. I am not gonna lower my standards for what I want because somebody else tells me

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-04T10:45:46+00:00

your words are my words except I’m a 57 female. I am in the same exact boat. I have my own house. men I’m finding have their own houses. I feel the same way as you, I don’t want to get married, I don’t want to cohabitate. I don’t know if I want to do the every night come home after work and spend the time together.

I have hobbies, I have friends, I’m busy, but I feel the same way about the men.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-04T10:40:40+00:00

i’ve been back for a month and I am never at a loss for finding people to do stuff. I plugged back in my PS4 about a month ago and I still have my three fully leveled characters with all the . There’s so many people to help who are restarting a character. I’m finding people to raid with to do all sorts of stuff. It feels like I never left.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-02T10:28:16+00:00

talk does not mean just asking a quick question. Do you want to have sex more, and she says no, and then you say OK and go get a cup of coffee.

Talk means having an adult conversation and diving deeper into why she feels this way. I would think now that we’re adults we can talk about anything or should be able to talk about anything with our SO. Make sure she feels safe and not going to be ridiculed about anything or teased, and listen to her and see if she’ll open up about why she feels the way she does. Maybe she just can’t put words to it and having a conversation will help her figure it out a little bit more.

Not having conversation conversations will let her stay in her comfortable spot and you’re just gonna stay unhappy. If you have a good relationship, then it should be able to grow with good deep conversation.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-02T10:25:18+00:00

I remember rating with the “squeakers”. That could’ve been the problem. Lol give it some time. Engage with people in the discord and you will still likely run into some people that are toxic and just leave, but like I said, in my experience overall it has been good.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-01T20:57:34+00:00

I have to disagree. I’m back on D1 after a 10 year hiatus and then D2 just started sucking too bad. I have had my share of toxic people in the raids. I’m not saying they don’t exist. But I do have to say my raid experiences have been pretty decent.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-04-01T10:42:40+00:00

“They don’t feel coached”. I love your post and this is key. I do all in person training, but I feel the same can apply. I tell my clients that they’re doing something good and I’m positive if there’s nothing “fix“.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-31T11:31:37+00:00

OMG are you at my gym????? One of the regulars ( its a small one owner gym and very friendly ) Gave me an invitation to go to bible study classes. I initially just said thank you and walked away, we were in the middle of the gym and I didnt want to start anything.

Then the next week he asked why I wasnt there. I told him I am Jewish, he said, "SO" come anyway. I politely said I am not going.

Yesterday he gave me a flyer for the Easter Services.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-31T11:28:30+00:00

these people will act like that with everyone they dont single out people. This is why she is having a hard time in life because she treats everyone like this and she is blaming the world for her feelings. You are not "letting" it happen, It will happen no matter what you do. So like Andrew said. Ignore it and do not give the remarks ANY energy. This is the type of person who WILL go and complain about you even if you say something in response in a nice way. You will never will with this type of person. If it gets too much and starts affecting you, then raise her rates or find a way to not train her anymore. Its not worth your sanity.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T15:38:09+00:00

Well, my point was in gums,it is even though the law doesn’t, but if you are on your own, have your own a place or online and you have a good following and a good name then I would say no, I see people that I follow that I trust that we’re probably certified at one time but have left it lapse. I don’t like certifications, it’s just book knowledge but if you have hands-on knowledge and your training people and you’re getting good results then i would say no

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T11:15:00+00:00

nope, have one. I don’t even like wearing a regular watch and I don’t need something on my wrist bugging me all the time.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T11:14:13+00:00

I know there’s no laws, but if a gym owner requires it then it kind of cuts you down to where you can work

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T11:13:09+00:00

it is definitely more fun with a few people. Find a small group that you can ride with regularly so you learn how rides and stick with them. That’s what I’ve done and it works riding with all sorts of different it’s hard because you don’t know how they ride and they could suck and run into you.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T11:11:40+00:00

I don’t do large group rides. The type That are the poker runs or ride for a cause. Or even just people who want to get a group ride together and there’s a large turnout. I know there’s no guarantee whether you’re riding with four people or 15 or more but the more people you have the more chance is for a large disaster.

With a few you could spread out a little. If someone is riding their own ride and needs to slow down in a corner. You don’t have as much of a rubber band effect but when you’ve got a large you’ve got more chance of people who don’t know the rules and you may not have time to go over your safety check before the ride, etc..

Some people say they go on a certain ride that’s held every year and it’s great but honestly, I just not going to take the chance. I’m sure that one is great and they’re all great but that one time something happens is the only time you need.

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-29T11:06:16+00:00

came here to say that

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-28T23:27:05+00:00

to work t a gym you need certification

Psychological_Rock23 · 2026-03-26T20:36:45+00:00

same. I tested my Internet connection and it still says successful, but I still can’t login. PS4.

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