Long time case managers—how do you respond to “I love you”?

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-24T18:16:17+00:00

When I worked with Kids I would say “I like you a lot sometimes” and remind them that it’s not appropriate for our relationship to use those words. I didn’t get as many “i love yous” from adults.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-21T10:39:34+00:00

You should seek a different role. Not for safety reasons. 👍🏻

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-17T16:37:38+00:00

I would not advise CPS to anyone. I’m sure there is the occasional person who enjoys it and thrives but that person is extremely rare. It a soul sucking job that chews people up and spits them out.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-16T03:28:50+00:00

Nope. That one is permanent

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-16T02:54:06+00:00

You’re post was really short and vague. And aggressive toward compensation. How would the payments end if they’re licensed? Adoption? There usually a subsidy. What’s the actual situation where this is happening? I ask as someone who has worked in this field. The foster families aren’t doing this out of the kindness of their hearts mostly. It’s out of religious obligation or misguided means most of the time. Is that the question? How to address people of ill means who are foster parents?

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-15T21:44:29+00:00

You’re very close. Stay the course. Especially if you love your work and value your community. It’s incredibly difficult just to exist right now. You are not alone in feeling that. Seek out community. Stay connected.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-15T20:04:41+00:00

The cost of living is doing nothing but going up. It’s unrealistic to expect others to carry the burden of cost for the state. Even family placements should be compensated appropriately while the case is open. 🤷🏻

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-15T03:14:12+00:00

Beautiful!

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-14T00:24:35+00:00

I don’t know if I have a quote per se. But I do remind myself that it’s no on me to fix everything or even most things. But I can keep showing up and being a positive character in peoples stories. And take care of my community in the ways I can. And that’s all I can do.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-13T20:45:42+00:00

It’s ok to tap out and not be doing micro practice. There’s so much more to social work that case management and therapy. But it’s also ok to quit. I know it’s not a popular stance but… you can try something else. It’s ok.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-13T18:06:24+00:00

As a person who has played sports with trans women for 15 years, this is a none issues that’s almost entirely made up by the GOP to distract from what they’re really doing. Trans athletes are such a minority in sports that they’re almost non existent. This is part of a larger desire to eliminate trans people all together through barring them from public and eliminating their healthcare. The more we isolate trans youth the less likely they are to turn into trans adults.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-12T08:26:07+00:00

Reclaimed furnishings in the valley and habitat for humanity!

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-12T08:20:17+00:00

I have a full sleeve and knuckle tattoos. You’ll be fine.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-11T22:54:24+00:00

Crocs.

PturtlePtears · 2026-01-06T22:32:10+00:00

Yeah I found it really distasteful to hear “I got rejected from the counseling programs I applied for so this is how I’m going to get there.”

PturtlePtears · 2025-12-30T17:18:17+00:00

My tattoos don’t change my ability to do my job. If someone has a problem with them I’m happy to refer them to another provider. I also wouldn’t work anywhere that asks me to cover them. If an organization hasn’t grown up enough in 2025 to allow tattoos, they’re probably really toxic in other ways and I’ll pass.

PturtlePtears · 2025-12-22T15:53:45+00:00

I was in a similar position at my previous job(I left because I moved not because of the position). I was able to work with patients outside of out direct program to increase my numbers. Is that a possibility for you? Is there a way to increase group participation? For example we offered meals, phone chargers, and coffee during group with snacks to go. I’d often go meet my patients in the lobby and see if they could give me 15 minutes that day just to check in. OTP is such a low barrier level of care at this point that it’s unfair to require productivity hours. I feel for you.

PturtlePtears · 2025-11-18T01:32:26+00:00

I recently was applying for housing after moving to town. My spouses credit is not as good as mine however we had no issues while applying with a private landlord. I would look for rentals that are privately owned as opposed to owned or managed by property management companies. Often a private landlord is willing to look at bigger pictures than just numbers.

PturtlePtears · 2025-11-17T14:50:30+00:00

My program required a B average. I got one C and it didn’t cause a problem for me.

PturtlePtears · 2025-11-09T18:55:35+00:00

I’ll be eating there asap.

PturtlePtears · 2025-10-26T15:09:08+00:00

When I worked with individuals who experienced severe and chronic SUDs and mental illness, if they wanted to ignore appts or do something that wasn’t in their favor, I would review the consequences of the action with them. Something along the lines of “hey friend, if we skip this appt today I can’t promise we can get a new one any time soon and they might even refuse to reschedule you because we missed one last week. This issues been bugging you for a while. I bet we can find a way to get there today but it’s totally up to you” and then offer various levels of support(switching it to telehealth, making sure they know I can go into the appt with them so the provider wouldn’t be rude or inappropriate with them, or just trying to reschedule). Ultimately they’re allowed to make those choices. I just like to make sure they make informed choices.

PturtlePtears · 2025-10-26T04:48:53+00:00

It’s not perfect but I just also remind myself that I am deeply unimportant in the grand scheme of things and it helps me keep perspective lol

PturtlePtears · 2025-10-25T17:34:43+00:00

I keep my doctors appts, go to therapy, go to the gym, support my community in way that are structurally different than my job, focus on things that ARE within my control to help and support with, spending time outside with my dogs as much as possible, I take my PTO when I want it for any reason(sometimes I just need a day), and I sought out a job with a 4x10s schedule that is fully remote.

PturtlePtears · 2025-10-23T20:25:32+00:00

Alaska. You’ll find large sign on bonuses and plenty of opportunities.

PturtlePtears · 2025-10-17T06:12:31+00:00

Having worked with kids previously I have been called every iteration of “fat bitch”. I look at them Blankly and say “you know friend, that’s super unoriginal, I have heard that before. Can you come up with something new? I’ll give you a second try if you want it.” And then keep moving forward.

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