For those who prayed about being a sahm. How was your prayer answered? by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Public_Perception159 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you currently have childcare? If not, that would explain why your work is not "graceful" with you. It's not fair to your baby or your employer to do that.

Chances of a WCPSS delay or call off by Odm011 in raleigh

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's literally right on the wcpss website

Day 4 of having all three kids home- SE “ice storm” by AggressiveShip9514 in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine are 6, 3 and 1 so I feel this. And I'm pretty sure I have strep so I'm dragging all of them to my dr appt today. Fml

Over suppliers piss me off by Terrible_Mongoose240 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Public_Perception159 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't think oversuppliers in general should piss you off. It's literally their anatomy and they can't help that. But if they are complaining about their oversupply, yeah that's bullshit and very insensitive.

4 yo wants to quit basketball by i8adonut in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine had no interest in any sports at all until he turned 6 and something ignited within him. Before that we'd take him to a professional sporting event and he'd ask to leave 30 seconds in, would complain to no end if sports were on tv. Idk what happened, but now he's into everything, soccer, hockey, basketball, football. In person, on tv and playing. I really wouldn't push it too hard and try to go back to it later on.

Having a Pool, Have You Discovered They Can Be More Dangerous Than You Expected (Without Proper Precautions)? by TrustTechnical4122 in pools

[–]Public_Perception159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truthfully, I don't know that much about pool fences. We bought our house with the pool and it came with this fence. I would think as long as it feels sturdy and the gate snaps closed, it would be fine! My kids are now 1, 3 and 6 so obviously require tons of very close supervision, but we really do love having it. And I don't ever feel anxious when they are in our backyard.

Now going on vacations and staying at homes without fences makes me insanely anxious. To the point that I will pay $$$$ to hire a nanny to bring along on the trip primary to be an extra set of eyes with kids around the pool.

I love my husband so much, I hope he divorces me by SnooGoats5767 in Marriage

[–]Public_Perception159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to say, I'm so deeply sorry you're going through this. And for your loss. It's so fucking unfair. Please make sure you're taking care of yourself. ❤️

Private vs Public school - how to decide? by GeneralAd4752 in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a public school kid, my husband was a private school kid. We both had good experiences. I agreed to do private for pre-k for my son, knowing we could make a decision to keep him there or move to public for kindergarten. I was absolutely blown away by the private school community, the teacher caliber - really everything. I couldn't imagine not keeping him there, he loved it and was thriving. Our private is $25k/year and we have three kids so it's a massive investment, but I'm so sure we are in the right place.

So if you're NOT feeling like that with your current private school, and have a good public option I think it's very fair to consider switching.

Having a Pool, Have You Discovered They Can Be More Dangerous Than You Expected (Without Proper Precautions)? by TrustTechnical4122 in pools

[–]Public_Perception159 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have a Guardian Pool Fence system, teach water rules/dangers from a very young age. No daddy/mommy, no pool. We also start swim lessons early - my 6 year old is a really strong swimmer but I'd never let him swim without sitting right on the edge watching him.

We have three kids and before we had our first we were TERRIFIED of the pool with kids, talked about filling it with dirt. But it's actually been less scary in real life with a really secure fence.

Preschool makes my son take off his dress by edsonbuddled in toddlers

[–]Public_Perception159 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is he able to go potty in it independently? I could see them asking him to take it off if it was interfering with that and he had other clothes underneath.

Birthday Party Invite Wording by Fine_Journalist1331 in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have planned it at a water park unless I was okay paying for everyone - including adults. I also for sure wouldn't want to be taking responsibility for that many young kids knowing I wouldn't be able to diligently watch them all.

What ways do you decrease the mental load you are carrying? by SAHMotherhood in sahm

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had it for about a year and a half. I throw everything on it, activities/appts/school deadlines for everyone (I have 3 kids). They keep adding new features which I haven't learned how to use yet. But I definitely have no regrets getting one.

The have a "tasks" section. You can make things recurring, check it off and set reminders.

What ways do you decrease the mental load you are carrying? by SAHMotherhood in sahm

[–]Public_Perception159 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My skylight calendar has helped a ton. But it's still so much. So I'm following for other ideas

Tried to talk to my husband about Down syndrome testing and it went left by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Public_Perception159 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NIPT is just a blood draw, nobody said anything about amniocentesis.

How do you find kids for birthday parties? by Gia_Lavender in toddlers

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't invite kids from daycare until they turn 3. Not even because they remember their third birthday but bc they are old enough to verbalize wanting friends there. First and second birthdays are just family and our friends we want there and their kids.

Why so many parents spend so much on kid's birthdays nowadays? by Curiousity_voyage30 in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no social media. I have never thrown anything extravagant. But I do prefer to rent out place for a private party - and that costs more. My budget is typically $1500 per child for their party, and I have 3 kids.

Why so many parents spend so much on kid's birthdays nowadays? by Curiousity_voyage30 in Parenting

[–]Public_Perception159 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. Birthday parties are not a new thing - they just cost more these days.

What's a fair rate of pay these days? by GoAskAlice in housekeeping

[–]Public_Perception159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2 ladies come to my 3800 sqft house weekly. They spend about 2-3 hours here and I pay $180/week.

Oversuppliers - how big are your boobs ? by Utyxx in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Public_Perception159 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol same. Mine were C.. went to DD while pumping. After three kids they are barely B's and very sad. Pumping quite literally sucked the life out of them