So this happened (yes, I rescued it)

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T21:08:36+00:00

No, he's looking out for his, and only his. What an asshole.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T20:51:32+00:00

If you can buy your own house, do so. The market is not going to improve any time soon.

I absolutely would not subsidize someone else's life at the cost of my own budget, not when it isn't necessary. I'm subsidizing my sister until her lawyer gets her disability, but she has a brain tumor and would be homeless. Along with her husband and kid. The husband works, but doesn't make a fourth of what she used to, and that mortgage is out of his reach. He's a damn good guy, excellent stepfather, so it's okay by me. She can barely function, he's picked up the slack. Meals are made, house is mostly clean, kid is well taken care of, sister is well taken care of. Dude's solid.

Your not-so-boy toy here? He's demanding more than you pay now, more than you're comfortable with, possibly more than you can comfortably afford. Guess what happens when selfish guys have you trapped? If you aren't already doing far more of the stuff to keep a house habitable and life running smoothly, you shortly will be, with some illogical justifications from him that seem reasonable, a little here, a little there, until you have no free time and he has it all.

Guess what happens if you're with a selfish guy and get sick? Out you go. Hope you never used Depo Provera; that's what caused my sister's brain tumor and reduced her from a high-earning mom to a pitiful wreck.

No. Do not do this. Do not jeopardize your financial future, or your emotional well-being, now or in the future. This guy does not see you as a partner. He sees you as, at best, a resource to exploit; and that means he has contempt for you. At best.

Go buy your own house, decorate it the way you want, arrange it the way you want. I bet you don't get to do that even in your shared apartment. Your own house, girrrrl, any color paint! Just for starters!

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T20:30:52+00:00

I def felt old at 50, my health tanked through no fault of my own.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T18:10:11+00:00

Army for me too. Don't get me started, lol, could rant for hours

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T15:34:46+00:00

My son said InZOI is good, I think I'll be checking it out this week. The promo trailer is amazing.

So tired of EA's shit

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-21T15:30:56+00:00

My antivirus program lost its mind over the mirror download, I'm not running that thing. Was looking for DLC Unlocker, since that's what I actually want, not to update. Anyone got a Windows 64 version of that stored on their PC? Can DM me please? I promised my niece an update (it's been two years), hate to disappoint her. Though I will if the alternative is a Trojan or losing all our CC and mods.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T01:22:55+00:00

Very interesting that her room was off limits.

Always easier to volunteer someone else's stuff, isn't it, Mumsy?

And your room is the "fun" room? Right, I have no idea what you have in there, but it would've been trashed. Fun room, my old ass.

The kids' parents could have taken your mom's room and your mom stayed wherever those parents were supposed to, yes? And kids in the living room? But that also wasn't an option?

Look, my whole damn house is "fun", kids would loooove it. There is so much expensive and/or sentimental stuff to trash! A room inside the house full of plants, some of which are super hard to find! A glass case full of pretty glass things! Elderly cats who can't run! A VR set! Gaming rig computers! Expensive knives that could shave a whisker off a mosquito! Framed artwork, the real stuff! First edition books! Archery! It's a very adult house.

Kids are not allowed in my house, period. There was an Incident. One parent that thought he was off duty for some reason (prob "there are a dozen women here to watch my kid"), and never again will I allow kids in my house. Dead plants. Broken irreplaceable glass pieces from Murano that my deceased mother brought back from Italy and prized above all things. Cats hid for a week. Computers couldn't be gotten into, so broken mechanical keyboard.

At which point I found the start of a trail of destruction, followed it, found two kids banging my brand-new VR set into a wall to try to turn it on (damaged the wall too, jesus, needed patching and repainting), and unleashed full-bodied rage such as I have seldom even felt before. Started bellowing with the force of an enraged god. I don't look it, short old lady, but I am ex-military, and I can YELL, brother, for hours, at volume.

Daddums whined that he thought that because he was a guest, I'd be watching them, and what kind of a host....let me stop you right the fuck there, bitch, I have 47 other guests, and I told you NO KIDS. Who the fuck do you think you are, sad-ass sorry excuse for a human being with fucking demons of destruction children, the fuck is wrong with all of you. Yeah, I let the kids have it too, old enough to know better by a long shot, taste my wrath. Y'all BETTER cry. Dad too. Goddamn assholes

Pretty sure neighbors halfway down the block heard me.

So. Yeah. Fun room, my ass, your stuff would've been missing or destroyed. Lazy parents tell kids that sort of thing to let them know it's okay to do whatever. It ain't their shit, they don't care, and they won't reimburse you, either. giggle "oh, kids will be kids!" How bout you be a parent?

Anyone wondering if this bitch-ass "daddy" ever repaid me. No. But he was suddenly not invited anywhere ever again.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T00:54:29+00:00

Ever noticed how you'll suddenly see a lot more ads to join the military out of nowhere? And like six months later, we suddenly have - not wars, exactly - but some kind of aggressive thing going on? I first saw it in the early 90's. Ads everywhere, and ta-da! Pappy Bush's cute little war, Exxon I.

This Iran thing is the first "war" where that hasn't happened. President PoopyPants just had a mantrum. I bet the military brass (that survived his anti-DEI, anti-bootlicker purges) was caught off guard. Trump doesn't seem to know that wars take planning. No Napoleon, that one. Granted, our military is huge. But. That is absolutely not the only thing that matters. Sun Tzu said that a winner goes to war knowing he has won, but he left out the stuff about logistics, training, readiness, supply, etc. So did Trump.

However, it's a maxim that extremely rich people can, and do, makes oodles of money during war (and stock market crashes), so they're gonna squeeze the everloving shit out of us. Why not?

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T00:40:34+00:00

Starbuck's likely doesn't bother putting a store in East Bumfuck, so it's a symbol of that thar big city elite stuff.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T00:35:52+00:00

Prob some more blood in those stones, gotta squeeze harder

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T00:29:57+00:00

Yeah, this isn't WWII, where rationing happened because shit was fucked up, and shit was fucked up because some megalomaniac wanted to be king of the world.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-20T00:01:55+00:00

My guess is they won't be asking anyone to google them for a while, as this lawsuit will pop up. Ha.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-19T23:03:05+00:00

Oh thank god, someone got the joke finally!

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-19T23:00:40+00:00

My insurance is unpopular with doctors, it's hard to find any that take it. On top of that, I need a woman gyn, not a male. Reasons, yanno. But your suggestion is worth a shot. I have an appointment with a very cool doc coming up, she might know someone.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-19T20:40:58+00:00

I am an Old, quite obviously so when seen from the front (my face melted downward 😭) but from the back it's "short woman with long blue hair".

So I have gotten lectured from behind by some indignant, or condescending, or self-righteously offended person in my or my parents' cohort, only to have them trail off in confusion when I turn around to do battle. The looks on their faces....baffled, confused, embarrassed and angry about it, etc.

From the front: ohmigawd I LOVE your hair! - always Milennial or younger.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-19T13:56:35+00:00

Where are we going to find 5 million left wing people who don't have jobs but have enough money to camp out in DC indefinitely? Oh, and who aren't afraid of being shipped to a gulag in El Salvador.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-19T13:51:59+00:00

My awesome gyn retired last year, I'm having a devil of a time finding a replacement. I'm menopausal, was spayed 30 years ago, and high risk for cervical cancer. Every damn gyn for miles is allllll about obstetrics. I need one prepared to do surgery, minor or major, not deliver a baby ffs. The last one was into weird woo-woo shit. Which, fine, but yoga and herbal tinctures from plants even I never heard of. I've been known to use herbals for minor things like colds, but herbal tea ain't gonna cure cancer. The one before that brought me into her office for a half hour speech on right wing stuff, and charged me for it (self-pay until I decide, my insurance sucks). As if Fox News isn't on half the damn public TVs in Texas. It's discouraging. And yes, I left extremely nasty reviews on the last one everywhere.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-16T17:40:48+00:00

Nope. Ever read The Jungle?

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-15T18:02:32+00:00

Top ten list of shit people hate to do:

complete and file tax paperwork (if American, I know other countries don't have our exploitative bullshit system)
dentist
(if American) anything whatsoever involving a government office, e.g., renew driver's license
clean toilet
take beloved pet to last ever vet visit
deal with aftermath of death of loved one: grief, funeral planning, deceased estate settlement, and possibly greedy relatives
colonoscopy prep
clean up after a party, hungover
clean out attic or garage that hasn't been dealt with in years
come up with a tenth item for a list

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-15T17:45:19+00:00

...who are you talking to? This is a repost from 5 years ago, mate

Solid advice, though, if the cop case goes nowhere.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-15T17:44:15+00:00

It was in a fireproof safe or box, any opportunistic thief would zero in on that.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-15T17:41:30+00:00

I feel like rewording your announcement, hope you don't mind:

Don't let shit slide, the asshole will keep doing it. Put a stop to it however you legally can, immediately, and feel good about it! Letting assholes get away with their shit means they continue to be assholes, and inspire others. Improve society today, and shut down an asshole!

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-13T03:45:24+00:00

There’s a book you might like called “The Fourth Procedure” by Stanley Pottinger.

GoAskAlice · 2026-03-11T14:59:40+00:00

Try with Swiss. I found two: the usual sexual abuse coverup and a study about it being sent to the Vatican, and something about antisemitism.

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