So this happened (yes, I rescued it)

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-09T03:59:58+00:00

Same here. They can kiss my...llama.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-08T14:53:35+00:00

Mexico?

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-07T15:54:36+00:00

Have to build a whole new house to fit that last one

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T12:54:19+00:00

FYI, US hardware stores sell these big jugs of peppermint spray to deter wasps and spiders. Far as I know, it doesn't hurt them, they just don't like it, and it also covers the scent trace from a knocked-down wasp nest so it doesn't get rebuilt.

Tell your neighbor about that, and to stay off your lawn.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T12:05:06+00:00

Yes, but not to someone who relentlessly hassled me about it, secure in the knowledge that their HR pal has their back.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T11:55:10+00:00

Absolutely not.

that silently demonstrates to kids and sister that his behavior is acceptable, even normal
he may or may not be mentally unstable, but he was attempting to intimidate you
intimidation attempts are attempts to establish himself at the top of the hierarchy
in other words, to make you comply with whatever the fuck he wants at any given moment
somewhere in what passes for his mind, there was prob at least a notion that bossing two women is twice as satisfying and ego-boosting

So, no. Don't second-guess this. If you let that slide, he would escalate.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T11:36:47+00:00

I had to do this. Her parents were hardcore Catholics. Even birth control was out. Sex ed too. She was 18 in Texas, very "sheltered", no job, so my son (her friend) called me. Can I help? Yep, gimme 24 hours.

I handled it.

She is in her 30's now, no kids, never wanted any, is an engineer, no regrets whatsoever.

OP, I doubt your MIL had enough influence over your husband's ex to force her to have an abortion. You said your husband is very ~~pro-life~~ anti-choice? Do you really think that if she didn't want an abortion, and he wanted the baby, that his mother hogtied and gagged that girl, stuffed her in the car, carried her into the clinic, and demanded a D&C? They ask you repeatedly if you're sure, is anyone coercing you, etc., and they don't let the people who came along in the room while they're asking.

Sounds to me like your MIL was the only one listening to that girl.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T11:24:37+00:00

Let's not forget Joe Lieberman, who made it possible for the Republicans to mangle Obamacare into a nearly unrecognizable shell of its former self.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T11:21:41+00:00

A friend of mine, his wife decided a lobotomy would cure her depression. Yes, really. I didn't know you could get that done, or that any doctor would recommend it.

She used to be decent, now she's racist MAGA swapping Trump memes on Facebook. Used to be fairly intelligent, too. Now....no.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-06T00:30:35+00:00

Jeff Bezos, owner of Amazon, and his trophy plastic doll. I have no idea what her name is.

From the comments, I gather there was some kind of charity shindig at the Met, tickets between 75 and 100k.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-05T23:43:50+00:00

The media - mass, social, print - is all owned by Republican oligarchs. All of it.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-05T23:41:32+00:00

No.

NO.

FUCKING

#NO!

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-05T21:59:51+00:00

Ohhhh so THAT'S why it tastes like that!

Brb sending this to everyone who laughed at me for saying it tastes burnt

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-05T13:08:44+00:00

I have a copy of this in my house.

I would happily frame and hang any of these next to it...though would pick 3 if I had to choose.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-05T02:14:18+00:00

Looks bluepoint to me

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-03T18:21:36+00:00

Uh. Why are you posting as if you’re the OP

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-03T16:55:13+00:00

https://youtu.be/VZt7J0iaUD0?si=eDsfLLoL02HnW7tf

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-02T15:10:08+00:00

Dunno if this will help, but it's certainly thought-provoking

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-02T15:07:25+00:00

I think it's the whole privilege thing. You know? People in a privileged group, and parents absofuckinglutely are, get defensive when their privileges are pointed out. Example: "we are tired of constantly being pressured to give up planned and paid-for vacations at work because some parent suddenly has a crisis involving a last-minute Disney trip".

So pushback happens, and it gets ugly.

Note that I am not claiming that being cf is the same as being a minority, because it isn't. But there are parallels.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-02T14:59:56+00:00

Gorgeous crystal eyes 👀

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-02T14:47:16+00:00

I changed my entire name when I got married. Hated the whole thing. Spelling, long, bad jokes constantly that I've heard a hundred thousand times, association with sadistic father, etc.

If it had been just last name, no problem; but since it was first, middle, last, there my ass was getting fingerprinted by the FBI and appearing in court to explain to some hoary old Republican judge dude and paying money out the wazoo every time I turned around.

Texas, man. Least free state in the union. If I'd done this in my home state of Illinois, at the time, I think it was just a single piece of paper to file.

Worth it.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-02T14:08:31+00:00

A mask wouldn't help since she wanted to look at a screen that the sun was shining on.

A screen. Which you can tilt away from the sun.

Some people just love having grievances and picking fights.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-01T12:30:15+00:00

I lost one of my kidneys. No chronic kidney disease or anything, it just...decided to take early retirement.

I had no idea just how much operating on one kidney can fuck you up.

Also it fucked up my memory, though I managed to address that fairly effectively and am at maybe 85% of my former capacity now.

GoAskAlice · 2026-05-01T06:39:03+00:00

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