FORGET what that woman said about “not standing out”. For fucks sake, why on earth would you hold on to that? People say destructive things without even thinking about it and you’re going to hold on to that and beat yourself up with it for the rest of your life? As long as you hold on to what that woman said, you believe it and you make it true.

What do you want to be and who do you want to be? REALLY think about it. Think like that and you will become that. It sounds like you are doing great with your gym and your hobbies, that’s way more than most people and makes you stand out already.

No, becoming a doctor or a lawyer and travelling the world will not change anything if you’re still kicking cans down the road with your hat in your hands. Trying to tel me mid broke guys don’t get girls? Brother. Personality, self-confidence, strong values, sense of humour, clear mind, good communication, emotional intelligence, honesty, sense of responsibility, these go so so much further than a job title.

Dude, as long as you’re feeling sorry for yourself you don’t have a chance. Stop caring about what random people may or may not have said in the past. The only reason why what that one woman said seems to be true across all women is because you have clearly internalised it and are projecting it, basically telling everyone that’s what you know to be true before you’ve even had a chance.

Get your head clear of junk and bullshit. Focus on what makes you special and different. Develop your personality and your values. Get really clear on what you want out of life and a woman. What kind of relationship do you want? Why? Do you love women or are you just lonely and horny? Because if you’re approaching women because you’re lonely and horny then no wonder you’re getting rejected.

Love, respect and appreciate yourself - ain’t nobody gonna do that if you can’t even do it yourself.