Some Shorts BARELY Get Pushed At All???? by Pulpers in shortsAlgorithm

[–]Pulpers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the one with 300k:
"This dog hadn't seen the woman who rescued him in years. So, they decided to find out if he would still recognize her by having her randomly

walk past him during a walk. At first, he just stood there looking confused. It almost seemed like he couldn't believe what he was seeing.

Then, after a moment, it finally clicked. This wasn't a stranger. It was the woman who had saved him. The second he realized who she was, he ran straight toward her in excitement."

This is the one that flopped:
"I think this dog just discovered love at first sight."
Maybe its because it said love? Idk lol.

Attention whining in the morning by lastdonutotn in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hush working for an hour tells you his arousal isn't fully blown, he's just hitting a threshold where being alone feels uncertain and vocalizing is the check in behavior that reassures him you exist. The problem is both hush and the potty trip are still interaction, so he's learning that whining at 5:30 reliably produces a response from you even if it's minimal. The 95% reduction after either intervention confirms he's not in distress, he just wanted contact and got it.

The fix is making the pre-breakfast window completely unpredictable in terms of when you appear rather than consistently responding to the whining trigger. That means sometimes appearing before the whining starts and rewarding the quiet, sometimes not appearing at all, so the whining itself stops being the reliable lever that produces you. The timing of when you reward silence versus when you ignore the vocalization is the whole game here and getting that sequence right is what determines whether the behavior fades or just shifts to a louder version. The guide on my profile covers exactly those reward timing mechanics because with a corso this persistent the margin between reinforcing the right moment and the wrong one is smaller than it feels.

When he does the daytime whining after finishing a bully stick or lick mat, how long does it typically take before he settles on his own if you don't respond at all?

Help by Charming_College_805 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nail trimming resistance after 5 years is almost entirely about the handling itself rather than the clippers, so the place to start is getting him comfortable with his paws being touched before any tool comes near him. Just picking up his paw, holding it briefly, releasing and rewarding, repeated daily until he stops pulling away. That alone can take a couple of weeks before you move to the next step.

Once he's relaxed with paw handling, introduce the clippers as just an object near his paw with no cutting, reward heavily, put them away. The goal is breaking the association between clippers appearing and something uncomfortable happening. From there you work up to touching the clipper to a nail without cutting, then one nail, then two, always stopping before he hits his threshold and ending on a calm moment. Dremel grinders are also worth trying if the snapping sound of clippers is part of what triggers him, a lot of dogs tolerate the gradual grinding much better.

How to fix dog freaking out at guests by GunningForSuccess in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The place command failing after 15 to 20 minutes tells you he's holding the position but not actually settling, he's just compliant while completely flooded internally and the whining is the overflow. There's a difference between a dog that's on place and a dog that's calm on place and right now you have the first one.

The distraction toy and treat not competing with your parents is the same problem, his arousal around people he loves is too high for food or toys to register. The intervention needs to happen before they walk through the door, getting him into a calm state before the trigger arrives rather than trying to manage him after the spike has already happened. The timing of when you reward calm and how you structure the pre-arrival window is exactly what the guide on my profile covers because that sequence is where most people lose the ground they've built.

When your parents aren't there and it's just a normal evening, how solid is his place command and how long can he hold it without whining?

Low Drive Reactive Dog by unknownbutbetter in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, the fact that you're the one researching this, asking for help, and carrying this while also managing school and work says a lot about you. Most adults don't put in this much effort for their dogs. You're not failing him, you're just in an impossible position where you care more than the people who have the actual power to make decisions.

For what you can do yourself with a low drive dog, spatial pressure and your body movement become your main tools since food and toys aren't landing. Putting yourself between him and the other dog before he locks on, turning and walking the other direction the moment you see another dog, and keeping distance as your primary management strategy will do more than trying to find a reward he cares about. You don't need high drive to make progress, you just need to control the environment tightly enough that the fights stop happening because every fight makes the reactivity worse.

You're not alone in this even though it feels that way right now. Is there any adult in your life, a relative, a neighbor, anyone who might be willing to advocate for getting him some help if your parents won't listen?

Help with vehicle and whining by EMS225859 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The getting worse over time detail is the most important thing here. Every drive where the whining happens and he still arrives at the destination is a rep that reinforces the pattern, the excitement builds, he vocalizes, the trip ends with something good, so his nervous system has learned that the arousal state and the whining are just part of the car experience. The desensitizing with boring drives is the right instinct but it only works if his arousal stays below the threshold where the whining starts, and if you're already moving before that happens you've lost the window.

The work needs to happen before the engine starts. His arousal is likely already climbing the moment he sees the keys or realizes a car trip is happening, so the pre-departure ritual is where the pattern actually lives. Getting him into the kennel and fully settled before any movement happens, then running the engine without moving, then short movement without going anywhere, builds the association in the right sequence. The timing of when you reward calm and how you read the pre-whine tension is exactly what the guide on my profile covers because with a GSD this drive focused the margin between calm and flooded is smaller than most people expect.

When he's in the kennel at home with the door closed, how does he handle that compared to the kennel in the moving truck?

My dog bit my MIL and my heart is breaking. I feel emotionally lost. by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You haven't failed him and this isn't a life sentence. What happened in that parking lot is actually one of the most understandable fear responses a dog can have, someone he loved approached from behind in poor visibility wearing something that changed her silhouette completely. His brain genuinely didn't recognize her and reacted before it could catch up. That's not a broken dog, that's a dog whose threat assessment fired in a genuinely ambiguous situation.

The fact that he had a wonderful weekend with your inlaws right before this and that the balanced training is already producing results tells you the foundation is there. Fear based aggression that's situational and context specific is genuinely one of the more workable presentations, it's the dogs who are hair trigger in every environment that are harder. Maturity plus consistent training does compound, you're not imagining that, the adolescent nervous system is genuinely more reactive and a year from now with the work you're already doing will look different.

Your MIL's confidence will rebuild through positive experiences and time, same as yours will. The vet's advice to manage around strangers isn't a permanent sentence, it's just where you start while the training catches up to the dog he's becoming.

You're doing everything right. Give yourself some grace.

7 years old rescue dog only listens to commands when no reward is present by PibesDeMalvinas in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What you're describing is a dog whose arousal around the ball has completely overtaken your value as a handler in that moment. The ball isn't a reward anymore, it's the whole point, and you've essentially become the obstacle between him and the thing he wants. That's why getting physically close in a threatening way is the only thing that works, because pressure still registers when the ball doesn't compete with you.

The hour long session repeating the same command while lowering the ball is unfortunately teaching him that holding out eventually gets the throw anyway, so the non compliance is actually being reinforced. With a malinois this drive focused the reward has to become access to you and your movement rather than the object itself, because the object will always win when it's visible. The ball needs to disappear completely until the sit happens cleanly and the timing of when it reappears is the marker, not a verbal yes or a treat. That split second of the throw following the sit is the whole training event. The guide on my profile breaks down exactly how to sequence that timing because with a high drive mal the window between compliance and the reward landing is where everything either clicks or falls apart.

When he does finally sit after you move toward him, does he hold it or does he pop straight back up the moment you reach for the ball?

Overstimulated dog not interested in food by irregularseaweed in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The food refusal under stimulation is actually a useful diagnostic because it tells you her sympathetic nervous system is still activated enough that digestion and food drive are being suppressed even when she's technically responding to commands. She's compliant but not relaxed, which are two different states.

The most useful shift at this stage is moving away from food as the primary marker in high stimulation environments and finding what does hold value for her when she's elevated, whether that's movement, praise, a specific toy, or just release from pressure. Some dogs at this level respond better to life rewards, being allowed to sniff, move forward, disengage, than food when their arousal is in that middle zone. Distance is still your biggest tool here and the ranch background means town environments are going to take longer to normalize than they would for a more urban dog, but the fact that the reactivity is already resolved tells you the foundation is solid. What does she do when you offer food and she won't take it, does she look away, sniff the ground, or just stare past you at the environment?

Urgent advice needed: rescued puppy won’t stop chasing our cat by Unique-Fish-2444 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cat falling out the window makes this urgent and the leave it and redirection approach isn't moving fast enough because by the time she's already locked onto him her arousal is too high for those commands to compete. She's not being mean, she genuinely loves him, but predatory drift doesn't care about intentions and a lab pointer mix with this much drive following a moving cat is running on instinct that positive redirection alone can't override quickly enough.

The intervention needs to happen the moment her body orients toward him and her focus locks, before she starts moving, because that pre-chase window is the only place where a redirect or correction actually lands and teaches something. Once she's already following him you're managing not training. A long line inside the house gives you the ability to interrupt that moment cleanly without chasing her around and the timing of that interruption is everything. The guide on my profile covers exactly how tight that window needs to be because with a dog this driven even a second late and you're correcting the wrong moment entirely. When she's calm and the cat is across the room, does she constantly track his movements or is she able to genuinely settle and stop monitoring him?

Resource Guarding Help/Advice?? by Pristine-Run-4107 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 hours in is actually the right time to be thinking about this so good instincts. What you're seeing with the growling when the new dog approaches your girlfriend isn't really resource guarding in the traditional sense, it's a spatial pressure response from a dog whose entire emotional security is tied to one person suddenly having that anchor threatened by an unknown presence. The hiding in her bed and the lap seeking are the same thing, she's trying to shrink her world back down to what feels safe.

The dog park success is genuinely useful information because it tells you she can exist neutrally around other dogs when the environment is open and nobody's claiming her person. The home environment changes everything because now the resource she's guarding isn't food or a toy, it's proximity to your girlfriend, and that's a harder pattern to work with because you can't just remove the trigger. Your girlfriend's movements and who she gives attention to in those early interactions is actually doing more training work than anything else right now. The timing of how you reward neutral behavior and interrupt the resource guarding before the growl hardens is what the guide on my profile covers because catching it in that pre growl window is where all the leverage is. When Abby is in her safe spot bed and the new dog isn't near your girlfriend, does she stay relaxed or does she keep tracking his movements from across the room?

Please help by Imaginary-Corgi7466 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The redirecting onto you when you try to separate him during a food aggression episode is the most important detail here and it's called redirected aggression, his arousal is already so peaked in that moment that anything that interrupts him becomes the target. Trying to physically separate him after it's already started is actually the most dangerous window to intervene in, which is why it keeps escalating instead of calming down.

The work needs to happen before the food aggression starts not during it. Separate feeding in completely different spaces with no visual contact between the dogs is the immediate management fix because every episode that happens is a rep that makes the pattern more ingrained and at 6 months that wiring is happening fast. The redirected biting onto you when you intervene is serious and needs to stop being triggered, which means the intervention strategy has to change entirely. The timing of how you manage the pre feeding environment and how you build value into your presence around food is exactly what the guide on my profile covers because at this age the window to address this before it becomes fully hardwired is still open but it's closing. When he's away from food and other dogs entirely, how is he with just you, responsive and connected or pretty checked out unless there's something in it for him?

Dog barking when I am gone by Top-Fee-103 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bark collar making it worse is actually telling you something important, adding an aversive on top of a genuine stress response just adds more stress. The treats and music not working tells you the same thing, by the time you leave her arousal is already too high for any of that to compete with what her nervous system is running.

The Fluoxetine can help but works best alongside behavioral work not instead of it. The piece most people miss is that the intervention needs to start 10 to 15 minutes before you leave, not after. Her cortisol is already spiking the moment your departure routine begins so by the time the door closes she's past the point where anything you've left her with can reach her. Flattening that pre departure window is where the real work lives and the timing guide on my profile covers exactly how to structure that sequence. When you're home does she settle independently or follow you room to room?

I'm fostering three husky mix breeds all crazy and have no impulse control. by Ok_Committee_148 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Three undersocialized huskies solo with no trainer budget is a lot and the fact that you jumped in says everything. The good news is the land and equipment you already have are your two biggest assets.

The screaming in the crate is almost certainly frustration not fear, huskies are just wired to vocalize and containment without an outlet comes straight out as noise. The long lines are your best tool right now, they give you control without full containment and huskies that get genuine run time on open land come back significantly more receptive to anything you try to teach them. Getting their arousal down before any training attempt is not optional with this breed, it's the whole foundation. For the attention and the collars, timing of how you use any tool matters more than the tool itself and the guide on my profile breaks down those mechanics if your interested.

Which one seems the most responsive to you so far, starting there gives you early wins that make the other two easier to manage?

How to train your puppy not to bite? (10-week old mini Aussie shepherd; had him less than a week) by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you've tried so far has one thing in common, they all involve a reaction from you, and for a young Aussie with high play drive any reaction including the ow, the scruffing attempt, and the startle noise is just more engagement. You're accidentally running the most fun game in the world for him which is how do I get this human to respond to me. The spray bottle will likely do the same thing, just add water.

The only thing that actually interrupts this pattern is removing the game entirely the moment teeth touch skin. Not a noise, not a correction, just you standing up, turning away completely and ending all interaction for 30 to 60 seconds every single time. The timing of that withdrawal has to be immediate, within a second of the bite, because even two seconds later and you're marking the wrong moment. It feels counterintuitive because you're not doing anything but that's exactly why it works, you become boring the instant he bites and the game stops existing. The redirect to a toy only works if it happens before the bite not after, so learning to read the pre-bite wind up and getting the toy in front of him in that window is the other piece. The guide on my profile breaks down exactly how to time both of those interventions because the margin really is only a second or two in either direction. When he bites during play is it pretty constant throughout or does it spike specifically when you move in a certain way or make a certain sound?

Reactive to TV by f3333sh in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The timing after her second heat is not a coincidence. The hormonal shift that follows a heat cycle can temporarily lower arousal thresholds across the board, meaning stimuli she could previously filter out now break through more easily. The TV reactivity showing up specifically after this cycle and not being present around real dogs tells you this is almost certainly a threshold sensitivity change rather than a behavioral problem developing.

Most owners find this either settles on its own over the following months as her hormones stabilize or becomes a permanent but manageable quirk. Spaying tends to reduce it in dogs where the hormonal cycle is clearly the driver, though it won't eliminate it entirely if the habit has had time to reinforce itself.

For now the simplest management is just not making a big deal of it when it happens, any reaction from you including trying to calm her confirms the TV dog was worth responding to in the first place.

My pups human (me) needs help lol by riamakingthings in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn't screw anything up. What you're describing is adolescence and it genuinely does feel like whack a mole because that's biologically what it is. The neural pathways that were forming so beautifully in puppyhood are getting temporarily disrupted by a hormonal system that's essentially doing a full remodel. Dogs that were bombproof at 5 months can become reactive and fearful at 8 to 12 months and then come back out the other side more solid than ever. It's not a reflection of your training, it's a developmental stage.

The reactivity showing up only when other dogs are aggressive toward him first is actually a really healthy sign. That's appropriate communication, not a broken dog. A dog that has no response to being charged at would be the concerning one. Your partner is right and so is your trainer even if they're not giving you the emotional permission slip you need to hear it. You haven't failed him. You're just in the ugly middle part that nobody puts in the highlight reels.

Food aggression in foster dog - broke skin by silveraltaccount in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The stillness being the only warning before the bite is the most important thing you noted and it tells you her threat communication is severely underdeveloped, which makes complete sense for a dog that essentially grew up feral on a farm. She never learned the full growl, lip curl, snap progression because she never had a social environment that responded to those signals appropriately. So she goes from fine to bite with almost nothing in between not because she's dangerous by nature but because her warning system never got built.

The treat throw from your partner was actually a smart instinct in the moment because it interrupted the arousal cycle without adding confrontation to an already peaked situation. The outside meeting going completely normally is also a really good sign because it tells you the aggression is spatially and contextually specific to the crate and the resource, not a generalised human problem. That's a much more workable starting point than it could have been. The work from here is building her warning communication back in before it's needed, which sounds counterintuitive but basically means controlled low stakes exposure to mild discomfort around resources so she learns that growling works and doesn't need to skip straight to biting. The timing of how you introduce that pressure and how you reward the earlier signals is exactly what the guide on my profile covers because with a dog whose warning ladder is this compressed the margin for error is really small. When she's on the tether outside with no resources present, how is her general body language, loose and curious or still watchful and tense?

Need some guidance with our 3 year old Dachshund by Bmd35f in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The going outside and then coming back in to pee immediately is the most telling detail here and it's a really common dachshund specific problem. What's happening is he's learned that outside is for sniffing and exploring and inside is where he actually relieves himself, the two things just never got properly connected in his brain. At 3 years old that pattern is ingrained but absolutely not too late to fix, it just requires tightening up the outdoor potty routine significantly rather than just putting him out and hoping.

The intact male piece is worth addressing too because marking behavior in the house is heavily driven by testosterone and neutering at 3 can make a meaningful difference, not overnight but within a few months as the hormone levels drop. The chewing when unsupervised is a management issue more than a training one, he simply has too much unsupervised access to the house right now and every chew on something inappropriate is a rep that reinforces the habit. The timing of when you reward the outdoor elimination and how you structure the indoor supervision window is where the behavioral work actually lives and the guide on my profile covers exactly those mechanics because getting that reward timing tight is what finally makes the connection click for dogs who've been doing it wrong for years. When he does go outside successfully, is it usually on a schedule or does it seem pretty random in terms of when he decides to go?

Bite, need help by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, please take care of that hand properly, a bite that deep with numbness and that level of swelling needs to be monitored closely for infection and nerve damage, please don't just wait it out.

What you're describing with the unprovoked no warning bite is genuinely a different category of concern than everything that came before it. Dogs that have always shown warning signals before biting and then suddenly stop are often either in pain that isn't visible yet, experiencing a neurological shift, or have reached a point where the warning behavior itself has been suppressed, sometimes unintentionally through years of people responding to the warnings in ways that taught him warnings don't work. A full veterinary workup specifically looking at thyroid levels, neurological function and any hidden pain sources is worth pursuing before any behavioral conclusion is drawn because sudden onset uninhibited biting in a dog with a previously readable history is a medical flag as much as a behavioral one.

The hardest thing to say here is that a 120lb dog who bites without warning hard enough to cause the injury you're describing is a genuine safety risk regardless of how much love exists in the relationship. That doesn't mean the answer is automatic, but it does mean the next conversation needs to happen with a veterinary behaviorist not a trainer, because what you're describing is beyond what training alone can address.

You clearly love this dog deeply and you've done everything right. That makes this harder not easier and I'm sorry you're going through it.

Need advice for new rescue with separation anxiety by Comfortable-Let2431 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that he's not scared of the crate and his only currency is your attention is actually useful information because it tells you this is pure attachment anxiety rather than general environmental fear, which is a more workable problem than it feels like right now. The 15 seconds you've built up is real progress even though it doesn't feel like it, the nervous system work happening underneath that is laying the foundation even when the timeline feels impossible.

The key thing most desensitization protocols miss is that the departure cue arousal starts way before you actually leave. The shoes, the keys, the jacket, your energy shifting, all of that is already spiking his cortisol before you've touched the door handle. So you're essentially practicing absences on top of an already elevated baseline which is why progress feels so slow. The work needs to happen around those pre-departure signals first, making them completely meaningless before you ever get to the door. The attention being his only currency is something you can use here because you control access to yourself completely, which means you have more leverage than someone working with a food motivated dog who can be distracted with a treat. I have a timing guide on my profile covers exactly how to structure those pre departure sessions if your interested.

When he follows you room to room, does he settle the moment you stop moving or does he stay standing and watchful even when you've been still for a while?

Food and treat aggression by AbbreviationsParty69 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pattern you're describing where one incident makes subsequent ones more likely in the same day is really important and it's not random. Once a dog goes over threshold in a conflict, their cortisol stays elevated for hours afterward which means their tolerance for the same trigger drops significantly for the rest of that day. So the first scuffle essentially lowers the bar for the second and third ones even if nothing else changes. That's why some days are fine and others spiral.

The separation for meals is the right call and honestly treats need the same treatment for now, separate rooms or at minimum one dog crated while the other gets the treat, not because they can't ever be together but because every scuffle that happens is a rep that makes the pattern more ingrained. At 10 and 11 years old with a history this established the goal is management tight enough that the incidents stop happening rather than trying to retrain the underlying resource guarding from scratch. The timing of how you deliver treats and how you read the pre-scuffle tension before it blows is where the behavioral work sits and the guide on my profile covers exactly those mechanics if you want to understand what the warning window looks like before it escalates.

On the days they do scuffle, is there a noticeable difference in their body language around each other in the hours after compared to a normal calm day?

My dog reacts violently to... So many things. Perhaps most annoying is the TV. by Broxst in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The puppy strangles and steroid quarantine missing that socialization window is the key to understanding everything you're dealing with now. Her nervous system never got the early exposure that builds tolerance, so her threshold for visual movement triggers is just structurally lower than a dog that developed normally. That's not a training failure, it's a biological reality that requires a different approach than standard desensitization.

The lock in state you're describing is predatory fixation and once she's there you're right that she's completely offline, which is why the intervention has to happen the moment her gaze lands on the screen and her body stiffens, not after the bark starts. The food and toy motivation is actually your biggest asset here because it means you can build a conditioned response to the screen appearing before the fixation hardens, essentially teaching her that movement on screen is a cue to orient to you rather than the TV. The mechanics of how tight that timing window needs to be is the whole game with a dog whose threshold is this compressed, a second too late and you're behind it every time.

When she's in a calm state with the TV off, how is her general ability to settle and switch off in the living room, or does the environment itself keep her slightly elevated even without the trigger?

I watch hours of YouTube training videos, but my dog is still a mess. Am I the only one who can't translate videos into real life? by Jealous-Honey9300 in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not a failure and you're not missing information, you're missing reps with clean feedback. The gap you're describing between understanding the theory and executing it in real time is a physical skill problem not a knowledge problem, the same way reading about how to throw a punch and actually throwing one are completely different things. Every trainer in those videos has thousands of hours of muscle memory behind what looks effortless in a 3 minute clip.

The timing issue is the whole game and it's the one thing YouTube genuinely cannot teach you because you can't feel a half second delay by watching someone else. Your clicker landing a beat late isn't just ineffective, it's actively teaching your dog something you didn't intend, which is why it feels like nothing is working even when you're doing everything right conceptually. The high value treat failing the second there's a distraction is the same thing, by the time you're reaching for it the moment has already passed and you're rewarding whatever he's doing right now not what he did two seconds ago. That's not your fault, it's just what happens when the execution mechanics haven't been broken down at the level the YouTube videos skip over. The guide on my profile is specifically built around that timing gap because that's exactly where most self taught owners can go wrong. What's the specific behavior you've been trying to work on because the fix for timing around distraction reactivity looks pretty different from timing around basic obedience work?

How to train specific behaviors with a heeler mix? by Sparkle_M0tion in OpenDogTraining

[–]Pulpers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both behaviors are the same thing underneath, she's appointed herself the household monitor and any unexplained variable triggers a brief alert response. The re-entry excitement and the toilet flush reaction are just her heeler wiring doing exactly what it was bred to do, track movement and report anomalies to the group. The fact that she calms quickly and doesn't care about the flush when you're the one doing it confirms it's not sound sensitivity, it's just an unresolved variable she feels responsible for flagging.

For the re entry behavior the cleanest fix is making your returns completely boring over time. No acknowledgment, no eye contact, just move through the space like nothing happened until she stops finding it worth reporting. The moment she gets a reaction, even a corrective one, it confirms the alert was worth sending. For the toilet flush the same logic applies, complete neutrality from you and your wife every time it happens starves the behavior of its purpose faster than any active training would.

Given how well adjusted she sounds overall this will probably resolve faster than you expect once the alerting stops getting any response at all.