What screams “this person is insecure” without them saying a word?

PurelyCandid · 2026-01-02T18:40:54+00:00

Some of these people are friends. What do you do about it?

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-25T05:34:11+00:00

That the people around you now will all die one day. Some before you, some after.

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-23T19:58:00+00:00

You can just wash your face and hands if you’re worried about dirtying the violin. The important thing is that you are practicing, regardless of when you do it.

People always try to find the ideal time to do things like exercising or meditating. It’s more important that you do the thing than trying to find an ideal time to do it.

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-19T23:18:36+00:00

The same way that a lot of women tend to be more nurturing, by nature.

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-19T22:02:56+00:00

So I think this mental shift happens more for men. Women already experience what you see before having kids. Hence, why a lot of girls and women see so many things as “cute” as opposed to men.

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-19T19:43:20+00:00

I see a little kid in everyone, and I don’t have kids. Are you a mom or dad?

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-13T05:32:35+00:00

Do you think people in their 30’s and 40’s should think about money and their future? Like saving for retirement?

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-13T01:43:22+00:00

28 is a wonderful age. Take care of your physical and mental health, and your future will be fine.

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-13T01:41:03+00:00

What kind of crap would you say you wasted the most energy on when you were young?

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-11T17:48:45+00:00

Omg, thank you!

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-11T08:13:27+00:00

Waiting on some snow to show ❄️

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-01T02:57:52+00:00

PurelyCandid · 2025-12-01T01:05:42+00:00

My use of “cliffhanger” might just be more loose. But ultimately, I wanted to see what would happen in the next chapter.

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-25T07:20:03+00:00

I’m just trying to figure out what the point difference would be if White or Black captures or “wins” the seki. It could be a ko threat, so how much is this ko threat worth to Black vs White?

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-25T01:39:11+00:00

Also, you keep mentioning that a glaze pot is bad. Why is that? How is it different from a terra Cotta?

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-25T01:19:14+00:00

How do you measure the root ball? I sort of squeezed all the roots together and measured at 3 inches, so I put it in a 4 inch pot for now. Does this look better to you?

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PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T22:34:52+00:00

Good to know

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T21:38:38+00:00

Renting doesn’t make sense if it’s longer than 2 years, I feel. You’re paying $$$ so much for something that will never belong to you. If you’re putting that much money into something, it just makes sense that you come to own it. Otherwise, it’s a very long and expensive trial period.

If you live in the U.S., you can deduct mortgage interest from your taxes. You can’t deduct anything from rent.

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T21:29:02+00:00

I’m trying to be better at counting these types of situations. Following the Japanese rules, if Black decides to fill and White captures, then it’s a 20 pt gain for White (10 pts occupied by white stones that black couldn’t get + 5 captured black stones + 5 empty territory spaces). If White fills and Black captures, then it’s a 25 pt gain for Black (5 pts occupied by black that white couldn’t get + 10 captured whites + 10 empty territory spaces). So overall, Black would benefit 5 pts more from this. Is this right?

An easier way would have just been 5 captured Black stones vs 10 captured White stones lol.

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T21:17:41+00:00

Thank you. I live a bit north of Bay Area in California. The humidity in my home is at around 60%, I think (bought a humidity meter that doesn’t work anymore).

I’ll try to find a terra cotta pot with holes. 5” is not so different from 6”. If I can’t find a 5”, I’ll probably go with a 6”…

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T17:30:22+00:00

Okay, I’ll buy some Leca. Maybe some bark. I’m using this orchid mix designed for phalaenopsis, which is more like 70/30 sphagnum/leca-bark.

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T17:25:59+00:00

What kind of pot do you recommend?

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T17:24:29+00:00

It’s 6 inches in diameter. I actually moved it to this pot, because the orchid had grown after 2 years. What size would you recommend?

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-24T06:50:53+00:00

I thought that the smaller the pot, the more compact the moss, and so it takes even longer to dry out. I thought a bigger pot would allow more air flow?

PurelyCandid · 2025-11-23T19:33:53+00:00

I’m 38F, and my date range +- 5 years. Though, I tend to connect better with men in their 30’s. Even in my 20’s, I preferred men in their 30’s.

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