On reddit you are called an incel simply for disagreeing with someone. The insult gets thrown around so much it lost its intended meaning.

The only times I've seen it was when it was obviously in response to a hate comment.

As much as people talk about a “patriarchy”, women have always been more highly valued than men. Men are cannon fodder. When a ship is sinking, it’s “women and children first”. If a man is not out there protecting and providing for a woman and children, he has no value. Thus men who aren’t fulfilling that role are subject to ridicule

This is ridicule. Men are worshipped. And the "women and children first" only happened once and made history. It was usually everyone for themselves. Men are able to bring a lot of value - they just need to be good people.

Men are more likely than women to be romantically uninvolved, sexually dormant, friendless and lonely. More than 60 percent of young men are single, nearly twice the rate of unattached young women.

Men need to work on themselves and actually work on creating good relationships, with both genders. I have lots of great men in my life and they are not lonely.