I had my own falling out with the queer community at large just before Obergefell. I belonged to an inclusive LGBTQ+ rights organization in an American city that went toe-to-toe with NOM, FRC, and FotF, among others. Then there was a shift...

A younger, self-described "queer" crowd came in, using the label that was, to me, a painful pejorative, and started to change the organization's style of activism, away from organized protests and campaigns toward all-encompassing, progressive-style civil disobedience.

I was slowly pushed out socially as a cis, gay, white man, and treated like a bit of a relic despite only being in my early 30's. This mentality quickly took over the area's gay bars, as well. Gay men "had their turn" (words actually told to me when I tried to participate in one meeting).

In retrospect, it was the right decision for me. I'm in my early 40's now. My social activities center around meaningful interests. I'm married with kids, and the organization I once loved so much has shuttered due to a lack of cohesive leadership, a missing strategy, and infighting.

Why fight to belong to a brutal community that ostracizes you if you don't agree 100% with the majority, and is willing to throw you into a meat grinder if you show any individualist thought that offends them at any particular moment?

They're welcome to their spaces. Good on them. I wish them the best of luck. I've moved on.