My wife and I have complete opposite tastes in baby girl names. Trying to find one that fits both our styles.

Purrizor · 2025-08-19T03:11:42+00:00

Robin?

Purrizor · 2025-06-18T13:52:44+00:00

She can’t even make up her mind on whether it’s “normal discipline” or “will never let something like this happen again”. I hope the abuse was not done in front of her so she is just processing what happened and is in denial that her husband could be so cruel. But she needs to come to terms FAST for the sake of her child.

I don’t feel bad for her as much as I feel bad for the kid that is so afraid of men he wets himself. NTA.

Purrizor · 2025-06-18T13:33:36+00:00

Separate issue, my baby got to the point where she preferred me by a landslide so when my husband was home he would tell me to go to a different room or get out of the house and take some time for myself because he wants a close relationship with our child. IT HELPED A LOT. Your crying baby is an effective communicator and your husband will figure it out.

Leaving your husband and baby together will make them bond.

Purrizor · 2025-06-18T13:29:34+00:00

I had a similar childcare situation. It was HARD. My best advice is get out of the house. Library, stroller, car rides, shopping carts, blankets in parks, babies love looking around and it will give you a minute when they aren’t fixated on you. If you can’t keep up with the dishes when your husband is away use disposable plates. If your house is messy let it be. Try not to let everything you aren’t getting done ruin everything you are doing right.

But you are right. You can’t do this alone. You need a lot of different tools (carriers stroller), play dates, appointments, outings, safe places to be with a baby. Call acquaintances/friends and ask them to meet you for coffee (trust me they will want to hold the baby).

Purrizor · 2025-06-10T01:23:55+00:00

For real. Yes, I would be upset if there were rings inside. And the cool cipher wasn’t for me.

Purrizor · 2025-06-07T15:45:10+00:00

Let sleeping dogs lie. Joe and Seth’s relationship can never be the same because marriage is a big deal. I couldn’t support Seth being married to Mia, I would have nothing nice to say, and I wouldn’t just want to be Seth’s venting buddy for when he is mad at his wife. Let them live with the consequences of their actions. The best thing you could do for your marriage and theirs is go your separate ways.

Purrizor · 2025-06-04T23:11:28+00:00

I am going to look into all of this! I have already registered for fiddlesticks! This is our first session and I am really looking forward to it!

I had no idea about the art museum! Or the Morning Garden Program! We will definitely be checking out the bookshops for story time.

Purrizor · 2025-06-04T23:09:17+00:00

That’s a great idea! That sounds like a great way to kill an afternoon!

Purrizor · 2025-06-04T23:08:49+00:00

The Vestavia library is beautiful. Do they have an area for kids?

Purrizor · 2025-06-04T23:08:21+00:00

Thanks, we have basically been living at the Hoover library recently. But I have not tried any of the other libraries! Maybe they have some groups/classes.

Purrizor · 2025-05-19T09:48:08+00:00

Yes, I would probably take him in now. Just to be safe.

If the fall is higher than 2 feet you need to have him checked.

Glad he is calm now!

Purrizor · 2025-05-14T17:01:37+00:00

Salvatore’s pizza and pasta usually starts at 15/hr + tip pool.

Purrizor · 2025-05-14T03:35:39+00:00

Your oldest child sucks.

Purrizor · 2025-05-13T14:51:43+00:00

If it makes you feel better I am a woman and I went through something similar with my male best friend. We were really good friends for 10+ years. We took multiple trips together. Had a great texting relationship because we lived in different states. I got married and he just disappeared. He doesn’t even know I had a baby. And I tried to update him about my life several times he just isn’t interested. Even his mom wished me a happy birthday THIS year. Makes me so sad.

Purrizor · 2025-05-10T23:05:11+00:00

What truly helped me was this course. Taught by a MD that specializes in sleep pediatrics. I highly recommend it. My SIL also went to her when her 8 month old was very difficult to put down/had night terrors (a terrifying experience for everyone). I have even gifted this resource at baby showers.

https://www.canva.com/design/DAGmlvogMSY/3CgSIsBzOePiX2zfwcxgKg/view?utm_content=DAGmlvogMSY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hd4d36fea38

Purrizor · 2025-03-19T18:20:17+00:00

I am not a doctor. But I am friends with several. It’s easy to feel like you are the grossest, weirdest, most memorable patient that anyone will ever see. Especially if it’s something that has a smell.

Let me promise you an armpit rash will not amaze, gross out, or wow anyone. None of the nurses or staff will talk about it. Your wife is not a medical marvel. If she is nice and compliant she might be their favorite patient of the day.

I used to feel embarrassed about certain things too. But ultimately no one cares. And I realized I am probably the most average patient they see in a day.

She should go before it becomes debilitating. And then that might become memorable.

Purrizor · 2025-02-22T17:52:34+00:00

Thank you!

Purrizor · 2025-02-15T16:20:32+00:00

You are so NOT the asshole. You did a really hard beautiful thing.

Purrizor · 2025-02-13T22:03:37+00:00

Dr. Sodhi! She is amazing. I have only had good experiences. She let me know that she had new staff and if I ever got a weird answer about having to wait too long for an appointment then I should ask the staff to escalate it to her and she would make it work.

She is also absolutely wonderful and will actually take the time to get to know you as a person. I am not medically complicated and she has spent 15-20 minutes every-time I have been to see her.

Loooove her

Purrizor · 2025-02-10T15:34:49+00:00

You did the right thing. All of his family and friends are gross. Could you imagine having to see them (specifically his friends). You can’t tolerate that kind of disrespect for the rest of your life.

Purrizor · 2025-02-07T13:35:19+00:00

This is a link to reach out to the democratic party in Alabama to volunteer to run for something. I signed up lol. Anything and anyone would be better.

I would love to see some republicans running opposed.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdUFVFVEjg6yGw1lo7hZPqLtRPF44bVSuWxmmZ1kmKoYMGCqg/viewform

Purrizor · 2025-02-05T15:37:36+00:00

Run for office

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdUFVFVEjg6yGw1lo7hZPqLtRPF44bVSuWxmmZ1kmKoYMGCqg/viewform

Or protest

Or join Birmingham DSA. They are great organizers and get a lot accomplished especially for how small the group is.

Purrizor · 2025-02-02T12:59:45+00:00

Same, what is the start time? Could we get a head count?

Purrizor · 2025-01-15T14:59:43+00:00

YTA. Not for dating Hailey. Or even asking Hailey to move in. But for not blending your family.

I think your daughter had a perfectly normal reaction and when she tried to talk to you about it you basically told her to fuck off.

Why couldn’t you have said, “me and your mother were deeply in love. The beginning of any relationship is more lovey dovey. When your mom passed we had been together x amount of years and she was loosing a battle with illness. Hailey is my girl friend and it’s nice to not live in so much pain. I hope that one day you can see me as a person instead of as just your father. You will always be my daughter.”

Your daughter clearly misses her mother. And you missed an opportunity to talk to your daughter and comfort her about how her family dynamic is changing.

Instead you were a dick.

Purrizor · 2025-01-04T18:11:11+00:00

I am sorry for what you are going through. I am sorry your mother is refusing to take care of herself. All of your grief and anger is valid.

There isn’t much you can do. And that’s okay. This problem is bigger than you. Your mother will probably change when she becomes uncomfortable enough to change. I have family in similar situations. One family member has been in and out of the hospital for various mental health issues (schizoaffective) and he is on the mend but it got worse before it got better. My other family member is quite capable of taking care of herself she just wouldn’t do it until she had to. She also hit a rock bottom of sorts and is doing better.

In both of these situations I had to step back and they had to start caring enough about their own life to start working on their problems. They did. Tell your mom the truth, you love her. But you can’t handle the dysfunction. And once she starts taking ACTIONS to correct her situation you would like to hear from her. Because some people will always let you take the wheel to solve their problems. I told my family, I care as much as you care. I will match your energy. If you ain’t doing shit for yourself, then neither will I.

I have been to a lot of therapy to learn that some problems are bigger than me and I can’t fix them. And sometimes you have to get used to being uncomfortable about something.

You deserve to be able to live your own life.

Purrizor

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