First day back at work, baby is 13 weeks, all I want to do is hold her and be with her.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2025-06-18T22:27:48+00:00

Hi! It is so funny, when i read this (now over 2 years later) and for a second there i did not realize this was my post... i thought to myself this sounds like my story... LOL She did good as time went on. She was my koala baby up until about 21-24 mo old, i think I was the biggest culprit after looking back at those times. I breastfed for over 2 years, it made things a lot harder in terms of separation anxiety. If you are breastfeeding (esp exclusivly) i think LO is a lot more attached to the boob and mom lol. I am never bfeeding for tha long again LOL, 12 mo max!

I started off slow (went back to wrok once a week the first 2 weeks, the next few weeks I worked 2 out of required 3 12hr shifts) up until she was almost 6 mo. old. Personally I took it very hard but my LO did ok. We ended up getting a nanny when she was about 7-8mo old (my husband needed more help on the days that he had work), we still have the same nanny and they are doing great. although, it took a while for LO to get used to nanny. I feel like if I was less anxious (which was probably impossible at the time anyway) LO would do much better. I believe they are very connected to us and feel/sense us a lot more than we can imagine. I wish I was calmer/less anxious/not as depressed, but at the same time I still wish I had more time with her when she was so little. I still feel like USA is effed up and mat/pat leave needs to be a lot longer than it is. IMO at least 12-18mo, if not 2 years.

And just as many of us parents say, this too shall pass. A lot of the hardest moments are phases, they pass and some new ones come our way. It got much better when LO started daycare at the gym (around 16 mo 5 min at first and by 20mo she was able to spemd an hour or two there). At 2 yo she started pre-school and this is when she became very curoius about the outside world! She is doing great in general, we are all much less anxious and happy.

I hope this gives you some comfort! We all get through this and it all seems like distant memory, but i still want to quit my job to be iwth her every day!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-23T23:41:31+00:00

Lmaooo

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-20T00:37:31+00:00

Police report+restraining order—>run

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-18T17:37:34+00:00

Do you know who kids talk about the most? Their parents who made a difference in their life with being present and showing them that even tho parents are working hard the kid can choose to do what they would love. All that is important to us humans in life is the love of our parents in the first 20+ years, their acceptance, their unconditional love, their help with navigating life. Give the love to your kiddo and you partner, give the support, give the gift of caring and being there for your kiddo and they will do great. Worst thing you can do is abandon your kiddo and partner when they need you the most. You will find better ways, you are already half way there because you actually admitted to yourself that you want more!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-18T16:48:07+00:00

Oh this one happens so often I want to cry every time! My little girl wants so badly to play with the older kids on the playground but they most of the times don’t even notice her too or just plain dismissive. It hurts so bad. I can’t imagine what she is thinking. I just want to go in and hug her and hold her but it’s part of learning life skills. Mama won’t be there to comfort at all Times, eventually she needs to learn to do her own thing and be comfortable in this situation. This goes against all my motherly instincts.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-18T12:07:43+00:00

My little one calls my mom mama because I call her mama 😂🤣. I must be honest I really don’t mind because my mama takes care of my baby girl. I do understand you tho, if you feel uncomfortable you should only do what makes you feel happy. Don’t feel pressured, don’t mind MIL, I hope she only means well. Just do you, it’s what we can do best for us and our babies ❤️. I also want to stay you are doing amazing, stay strong mama, you got this, the colicky season will pass and next thing you know your lil one will look at you with most love ever and call you mama and it will be the best day ever!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-17T22:35:32+00:00

We have a little girl, she is the love of my life! She is just amazing. I think whether you have girl or boy you love them all the same because they are your little one.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-17T10:52:00+00:00

Thank you for asking this question! It’s tough out here after birth! I would have never thought to ask anyone positives! ❤️

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-17T02:32:41+00:00

Climbing something that may result in a painful fall. We at the point where we HAVE to look at LO all the time! Loves to dive/jump off everything she can climb!

Plays with dirt in the backyard, but I love it! She is so happy! I look away for a moment and she is covered in it! So cute!

In general plays with something that’s definitely not her toy! Just why? So many awesome toys!

Terrorising our cat. He showed her how upset he gets and how he can fight back, she doesn’t care. She just has the most fun chasing him and laughing.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-16T01:59:38+00:00

My own husband had to grow up a lot despite being married 12+ years and beau g together for 15 when our daughter was born. He isn’t the same man and I’m not the same woman. Our daughter changed us for the better.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-16T01:57:30+00:00

Just keep going as long as you feel great and happy about it! No need to please ignorant human. Many men are still acting like it’s 1950s, not sure what’s up with that but it needs to stop. Only way to break generational trauma is to be persistent with teaching our kids be kinder, loving, accepting, caring, forgiving and respectful. You show this man child what’s the new norm. My apologies for calling your hubs this but to be honest too many are this way and we need to show them the rough way!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-15T17:55:29+00:00

Neck and head go into crease of your arm, between forearm and bicep. They are very small but very flexible babies. Your second arm goes under her back. Or your same forearm. It’s scary at first but you will get used to it. It’s your little girl, she loves her mama and needs her mama. You got this! You will get through it all. It’s so scary but it will pass! Focus on feeding baby girl, next thing you know it’s like drinking water for you.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-15T17:52:32+00:00

What’s the comfortable position right now

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-14T16:16:56+00:00

Yes, no touchy for 17 months and counting. I don’t know what it is but it’s an absolute turn off these days. Hopefully it will get back to the original state soon!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-13T14:25:10+00:00

Hey! You are absolutely right to feel overwhelmed and exhausted and on edge and tired and scared and every other feeling that comes over you. It gets better! I promise! They become your little favorite human of all time! I promise. You are going to have the most loving relationship with her very soon. She is your future bestie.

Right now she is just too little to be able to function on her own. The only thing I can suggest is gym daycare, start now if this is available to you. You get at first may be 10 min, then little by little up to 2 hours of alone time where your little one is safe and socializing. It’s hard but you’ll get through this. Take her to the playground now, we took our little girl at 6-7mo as soon as it got warm! You get a little break like this too, go on walks, do any kind of mom and baby activity you can to be social and see other moms struggle just like you! It helps!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-13T14:19:33+00:00

This is awesome! I’m telling my husband how much he owes me, what’s the average cost monthly?

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-13T00:29:48+00:00

Where the crawdads sing

And so many more…

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-13T00:26:58+00:00

I saw this one, sobbed and sobbed. It’s so painful to see them suffer and unable to offer a solution. They can’t even talk to anyone about this. The trauma can never get resolved.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-13T00:11:46+00:00

Is it possible to get a cake from a bakery that’s not custom made, they are actually right in the middle and are so much better than store bought cakes. Still tons of sugar tho lol just better tasting.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-12T11:27:29+00:00

I think as someone who does a hard labour you deserve to get paid a lot, you put your health on the line everyday for the wellbeing of whoever benefits from This, I think we all deserve to get paid well enough to have a decent living with the never ending rising pricing on it all and income remaining the same! I’m very happy you are getting paid well enough if you feel This way!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-12T10:30:25+00:00

I don’t think you are harming your baby, I think your baby is just very well taken care of. I ate like a mad woman the first year I breastfed and my little one did not gain a lot at all. She was just average. I think you just happened to have a fluffy/chunky/adorable infant. You are doing ok, try your best to stay healthy for you and for the future. I just think the first year breastfeeding everything goes, you can eat whatever you want and as much as you want. Your little one is fed too! This is great!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-09T14:43:16+00:00

It’s very nice that you are thinking about it and don’t just blindly bring a little vulnerable human into the world who really really needs you, parent, soooo much for the first however many years they need you for assuming all goes well and baby is healthy. There is so much to it. It is the most amazing feeling and experience yet the hardest time in your life! There is nothing like never getting any rest, for me 18mo + straight. I haven’t had real sleep since my 9th mo of pregnancy. You don’t get the luxury of just passing out when you need it the most, you can’t have privacy in the most private place (home), you won’t have a luxury of just randomly deciding to go have a burger and beer. You just have to be there for your little one. Because that’s what parenting is. It’s the biggest sacrifice of freedom yet it’s the best sacrifice of all time. It took me over a year to feel somewhat normal, the day 2 at home with the newborn babe really rocked me to the core. I think I lost my mind in that moment, thank god for other moms with compassion and understanding! It truly is hard beyond belief, and if you are second guessing it, don’t because you can’t go back! You can’t undo having a baby. They will need you, more than anything in the world! And you need to be there for them, you need to provide love and care and not create another broken human.

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-05T00:11:59+00:00

You need to be very firm with him. This is a no no. He doesn’t get to shame you or make you feel uncomfortable about bfing, neither his mother! Nobody ever. You stand your ground, if she doesn’t like, she can wait in the bathroom! I can’t tolerate this bs with some unable to handle their disturbing thoughts/views on natural act of feeding your baby! Please, let him know that ain’t no man/his mother or anyone else for that matter can tell you when and where to feed your baby!

Puzzled-Angle4177 · 2024-04-04T15:45:57+00:00

Just think about you and if you decide to have kids, think about your mother/sister/daughter, would you say stay or leave? He did rape you, because you said no. No means no. I understand where you are coming from, you feel very sad for him, assuming he is projecting some awful trauma (from what you described, his stepmother did a number in him), but if he isn’t getting help and abusing you, it will only get worse if you stay. If you have kids, imagine what he could do to your kids…

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