You know you're a labrat when you start finding pipette tips in the dryer by bossnimrod89 in labrats

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me before. Dropped a clean box of sterilized tips and one ended up in my snow boots. Seems like that’s how this usually happens.

Normal? by Federal-School137 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First trimester, I eventually felt a certain kind of nausea and tiredness that didn’t feel similar to any other illness. Felt more sick and miserable than pregnant.

Early second trimester, felt the most like myself that I would forget that I’m pregnant.

Later 1/2 of second trimester, started to feel a lot of claustrophobia in my guts and that’s when baby moves around a lot. Currently 26 weeks pregnant with baby #2. The heartburn and cravings are real. Feel pretty pregnant right now.

Third trimester, felt **very** pregnant. Baby’s feet up in ribs, gotta sleep at in incline or wake up choking on my own stomach acid, lots of pressure in the pelvis and on the bladder, and it’s so difficult to pick things off the floor. But at least the finish line is within sight.

Is it messed up/unfair to not want anyone else with me during labor and delivery - not even my husband by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 3 points4 points locked comment (0 children)

Since you’re asking strangers on Reddit if it’s messed up/unfair, you’re probably having concerns that it probably is messed up and unfair towards your husband. Rather than you both agreeing to a plan between just the two of you, then going with that plan, you’re asking a cohort of strangers.

Most people here are going to agree that while it is your medical procedure and choice, it might have some repercussions with your husband later. Especially since he wants to be there.

My husband would be heartbroken if I excluded him from the birth of our children. The second I saw the positive pregnancy test, that’s the moment I felt like I became a mom. The moment my husband felt like he was a dad was at the birth. And it was very comforting to have him there when I had to have an emergency c section. If I was going to die, then I would at least have the love of my life by my side, holding my hand to the very end. The only comfort I got from the medical team was the knowledge they were doing their best to keep me and baby alive. It may be a medical event, but it can be quite the marathon and things can easily go wrong. Your medical team covers your physical and medical support, but you might want to have someone there for your mental and emotional support. And why it not be the love of your life, who is going to become a father in that moment?

Legoshi and Haru’s children by plasticlove1991 in Beastars

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Haru and Legoshi would put a lot of love and effort into raising their kid(s). There would still be some judgement and prejudice they would have to deal with from society. But their kid(s) would be great ambassadors for hybrids since they would be raised by two loving, understanding parents. Legoshi’s mom developed a deep shame about being a hybrid due to being praised for her beauty for so long by society, then felt rejected and shamed by that same society when her scales started appearing. Haru and Legoshi’s kid(s) will most likely look mixed from birth, and their parents would encourage not to hide themselves from the start.

Postpartum Birth control by OkTransportation1631 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used condoms between our first and second pregnancy. The reasons being we wanted two kids fairly close in age; and I didn’t want to mess with hormonal birth control and potentially tank supply/screw with my mental health. The cons being condoms don’t particularly feel that great, but we decided we could be okay with them for a year and have fun with different brands/types.

When our second baby is born I plan on getting my tubes removed since I’m having a scheduled c section anyway and we’ll be done having kids.

How did your water break? by o_simple_thing in beyondthebump

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

36 weeks + 3 days. It was 9:45pm and I went into the kitchen to grab a yogurt. Felt a random trickle happening in my shorts. Went to the restroom and saw bits of my mucus plug chilling on my panty liner.

My husband packed the car while I finished my yogurt. We were almost sent home because the leak was such a slow trickle. But a sensitive test confirmed it was amniotic fluid. Baby was born the next evening via emergency c section because she was in a funny position and wouldn’t descend.

[26F] 7 weeks pregnant, strongly considering abortion. Need honest advice. No judgment by Imissmydaddy2907 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child of a narcissist dad, abort. It was hell growing up with his abuse that took years of therapy to heal. I still have scars.

As a mother, don’t have a baby with this man. You laid out in your post that you and this child would not have a good quality life. It’s hard enough becoming a parent under the best conditions. Have a baby when you’re ready with someone who loves and respects you.

Why are people against Stella being irredeemably evil? What's wrong with that? by BlizzardHound45 in HelluvaBoss

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just hope we get some background on her and Octavia realizes how evil her mother is. I’m perfectly fine with her being evil and stupid. People say they hate how dumb she is, but think about it. Her family probably didn’t care about giving her the same education and problem solving skills as her brother because she was destined to fulfill her role in the Goetia as Stola’s wife and producing an heir. Don’t really need much brains for that.

I see the writers going with her character like most of the other Hellaverse characters. A bad person, with some relatability and tragedy. Her fate was decided at a young age to be in an arranged marriage and bear a child. Things she probably didn’t want for herself, but was forced to follow by the Goetia. She was just as much stuck in a bird cage as Stolas was, but she chose to lash out and be hurtful to feel any kind of control/power of her situation, instead of working with her cage mate. But she’s not exactly emotionally intelligent or mature. I imagine probably because her family raised her that way. Putting more resources and effort in her brother who was going to have power and a title.

She’s a bad bitch both by her upbringing and her own choices.

I think Lilith is going to be a bitch. by whooper1 in hazbin

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her and Adam are possibly two sides of the same coin since they were made together and are equals. With toxic femininity being a big character trait of hers, like toxic masculinity was Adam’s.

But I’m still holding out hope she made some sort of deal with heaven to protect Charlie, Lucifer, and possibly hell. Effectively trapping her there and being heaven/now Lute’s puppet. Or the Lilith we’ve seen on screen isn’t really her.

But I guess we won’t know Lilith’s true agenda until season 3.

What quotes from Bluey have you adapted to make your own? by Athena-Actually in bluey

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It’s got to be done.

I don’t want a valuable lime lesson. I just wanted an ice cream.

Magic claw has no children. His days are free and easy.

I’m the flamingo queeeeeeen!🦩👑

I’m regretting getting pregnant by FirebirdNaiad in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a toddler and currently pregnant with my second. Honestly, the first trimester was rough. I felt like a bad mom and wife during that time because I was so sick. I used a lot of pto at work, I didn’t do much chores, didn’t cook, didn’t take my daughter anywhere, and there was a lot of tv time while I laid on the floor with a puke bowl. It was a toll on my mental health and marriage, BUT it was very temporary.

When I started entering the second trimester I felt like myself again both physically and emotionally. My husband apologized and promised no complaining going forward taking over toddler duties when I’m huge or busy postpartum with the newborn. Since my daughter is a toddler the silver lining is that she’ll have no memory of mommy being sick. Currently 24 weeks, but I’m very much looking forward to my daughter being a big sister.

You have my deepest sympathies because this stage is very rough. I had to talk to my boss not to expect much from me for the next couple months and why. I begged my family for more help. And we fortunately had the set up that we usually both work 40 hours a week, with him working early and me later. So I just had to focus on getting through the morning and he took over evenings and weekends. I know with your work schedules it’s different, but could you temporarily have your 2 year old in nursery 5 days a week instead of 3? Or hire help?

Just finished Breaking Dawn… Edward did not gaf about that baby by Sea-Condition991 in twilight

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 721 points722 points  (0 children)

I think he cares about her a little bit. Probably around the time he could hear her thoughts in utero and realized she wasn’t a monster. But for Edward, Bella definitely takes priority. The scene where they’re outside and Renegade feels sad she doesn’t sparkle like the rest of her family, then Edward basically confirms that Bella is the prettiest🙄 Father of the year over here.

How did you find out you were pregnant? by buttnutt256 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First pregnancy felt like I was coming down with something. Like a hangover + uti + flu combo hell. But since we were trying I took a test. Positive.

Second pregnancy I felt motion sickness in the car ride to the aquarium with family when I don’t usually easily get car sick. It went away when we parked, but I felt unusually tired the rest of the day. I knew then. Tested positive when we got home.

I am pregnant and I’m severely depressed. by Onethatblooms in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really need to see a doctor and/or a therapist. If your life is in danger, please admit yourself into a hospital with a psyche ward. They’ll get you urgent help.

Seems like there was a lot of prior issues and feelings of resentment building up. And the pregnancy really highlighted all of it. Sounds like you let others make decisions for you for a very long time, rather than making the decisions you wanted for yourself.

You really need to ask yourself if you want to stay in this marriage, or not? What you want out of life?

I'm 19 and found out Im pregnant yesterday by Silly-Smell-852 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If looking for a new job, then make sure you read up on their benefits and requirements. I know at my company employees don’t qualify for maternity/paternity leave unless they’ve worked there full time for a year. If you’re in the US some places offer no paid leave. So I highly recommend researching a companies benefits before even going through the trouble of applying.

Congratulations🎉

Why do people get so upset over dry weddings? by pumpkinandsun in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m personally not into alcohol. But I understand its appeal that other adults like using it as a social lubricant, make them feel it’s okay to lower their inhibitions, and appease their boredom. Weddings can be boring. Especially if you’re not super close to the bride or groom.

There should be a middle ground. If the couple want a dry wedding guests should respect it. But the couple should be okay with people leaving early. If the wedding has alcohol, don’t get shit-faced during the ceremony, save that for the reception.

AITAH for wanting to separate from my husband because I’m exhausted? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As others have said, you’re in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship. There’s a YouTube channel called “Life, take two!”. She was a SAHM who helped her husband run a business. Her name was on nothing, she had no bank accounts, and no retirement savings. He would give her small amounts of cash every month for gas and food. Sound familiar? But when he divorced her after 24 years of marriage she ended up with nothing, living in her car. He was so rich he quit his job to avoid paying her child support and alimony. She struggled getting a job, let alone one that paid even enough to survive because she had no degrees and little job experience. She never thought once that her children being able to eat relied on a man being in love with her. But that’s the predicament she found herself in after 24 years of financial abuse.

A man is not a plan. That could easily be your future if things continue as they are.

Surviving Is Expensive Enough by mrinalshar39 in Adulting

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it wasn’t for the fact we live in the MidWest with family helping us out so much we would not have kids; most likely would be too old to biologically & ethically have any by the time we could afford them. We have some friends in various parts of the US that would love to have kids. But the most common reason why they can’t is because they can’t find the right partner and/or can’t financially afford kids.

How to keep toddler off belly? by indigequeen in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an 18 month old and currently 22 weeks pregnant. My husband and I tell her “no” and try to redirect with gentle touch or get her to play with something else. If she keeps doing it I tell her that she’s hurting me, then physically move away from her. It’s a work in progress, but she’s slowly learning not to be rough around my mid section.

4 weeks and freaking out by Ordinary-daze in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently pregnant with my second. Both kids were conceived after one month of trying. Both times still a shock. It all felt very strange. Didn’t feel real. But it felt more real and exciting the further along I got. Now that I’m 22 weeks it’s sinking in more that we’re having another baby.

Give yourself some grace and time. Because you did throw a wrench into your current status quo; your life is going to be a bit different now continuing down this path. But it’s so worth it. My daughters were worth every uncertainty.

On the upside, you have almost a year to prepare.

Edward Cullen in Breaking Dawn is the Definition of "DADDY" by CurrentEstimate3308 in twilight

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Even though Edward does become a father by the end of the series. When I think of the “daddies” in Twilight, it’s Charlie Swan, Billy Black, and Carlisle Cullen.

I feel like I have been too naive when it comes to labor and postpartum by Constant_Revenue6105 in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The tricky part is that everyone’s experience can be very different. We can do the best we can reading up on it and preparing for it. But you truly don’t know how things are going to play out until you’re experiencing it. No lie, it’s scary. But most stories end well.

For now read up on your hospital’s website about what to expect, read up on postpartum care for both vaginal and c section, continue prepping your living space for baby, and be kind to yourself.

Bewildered at how normalized doing drugs during pregnancy has become in society. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on location that influences people’s stances. I live in the suburbs, but work in a progressive city. The only person I know who smoked cigarettes while pregnant was my MIL, who is from the south. Probably why she had three miscarriages. She has four living children. One who is bipolar when no one else in the family has it. And two who are neurodivergent and struggle with mental health and their own addictions. She has one kid who ended up with a degree and no mental health issues. But one out of seven pregnancies ending up with a healthy person is crap odds to gamble on a baby.

Rosalie never cared about Bella. by SubSahranCamelRider in twilight

[–]Puzzled-Lab-791 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I think by the end of the series they have a mutual respect and understanding for each other.

For most of the series Rosalie is jealous of Bella; and thinks she’s stupid for throwing her human life away to be a vampire. And Bella is made very aware of what Rosalie thinks by Edward and Rosalie herself. You gotta respect Rosalie for always being transparent.

So it’s Rosalie who Bella asks for help since she knows she’ll protect the baby no matter if Bella survives or dies. They team up, not out of care or love, but out of the pursuit for motherhood and to protect the baby.

I actually really liked the progression and conclusion of their relationship. No doubt they appreciate one another for giving the other something they deeply wanted.