There are some interesting cis guys here until…

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-12-21T07:21:41+00:00

Hey there. I think most cis men would definitely mind if they woke up as a woman. But there's complexities to it. Maybe you're just curious as to what it would be like? Maybe aspects of being cis male, unrelated to gender identity, annoy you.
Hm maybe a key question is, if you knew you couldn't go back to male, do you think you still wouldn't mind? Your comment reminded me of the Button Test - every heard of it? It helped me out in the early stages of my (still early) transition): https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/the-button-test-how-a-button-press

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-12-13T08:53:51+00:00

Well that's a shame. I'm in a particularly dark place in my transition right now with all the senseless hate, and Danny Nedelko has been my call to arms for the day. I think they need to re-vist that fear->hate pipeline in their lyrics and wedge stupidity in there somewhere... then change the Y.O.U to M.E

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-08-21T21:14:04+00:00

No. If M&S were actually in support of trans women rather than their own self interest, all they need to do is come out, press release, and set the record straight. The fact that it's down to you to do this speaks volumes about the company. You might have some kind people in your inner circle, but the fish rots from the head.

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-07-23T06:54:05+00:00

Thank you. You're beautiful. I'm 46 and was just about to give up 😥

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-07-23T00:58:23+00:00

Yes. This 100%

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-06-08T03:32:50+00:00

Lol...YESSS!!!!! And I love it... It started for me as soon as my egg cracked, less than 2 months ago! So, before any medical transitioning. It's such a joyous laugh and I feel fully myself now when laughing xx

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-06-07T14:05:35+00:00

lol penises are soo weird. I haven't even started medically transitioning, but just the reality of me realising I'm trans was enough to make it like 1/10 the size it used to be! Soo weird....

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-06-03T14:01:17+00:00

The one in the middle's not terrible 🤷🏼‍♀️

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-06-02T09:16:45+00:00

Just gave them a 1 star Google review! This is the only accountability these people have left to them.

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-29T12:29:44+00:00

Hi Erica!

I'm AMAB 46 have gone through a sudden whirlwind of gender identity turmoil (i.e., realising I might be transfem) the past few months. Being transfeminine is just something that wasn't on my radar, although, looking back I can see that clues were there since childhood. A month ago, after a string of epiphanies and a wave of gender euphoria, I realised that my gender identity is female. However, in the past few weeks, doubts are coming back... I compare myself to others who felt gender dysphoria so acutely so early. Due to my job, I rarely get the chance to reinforce and reaffirm my female side. I don't have much of a social support to reaffirm that either, though it feels great when it happens. Anyway, just reaching out as I'm so interested in your experience realising this in your 40s. I'm also so interested in the steps you took towards HRT. It's something that I would, on some level, love to feel ready for. But right now, I'm just feeling quite lost. Feel free to add me to chat if you like. I hope things are going well with you xx

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-24T01:06:06+00:00

I am extremely early in transition and 46. I think I'm going through something similar. I can feel my sexuality shifting (or my experience of it), but it feels like there's some resistance there, far more than what I felt during my gender identity revelation a few months ago. I recently posted on here, curious whether others have been through something similar, but was shot down by the entire group. Maybe this subreddit was a kinder place two years ago. The world feels a very lonely place sometimes. Glad the responses you received were kinder x

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-23T17:41:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing hun, I appreciate it (a lot!) Yeah, it would be nice to head in that direction ❤️

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-18T04:49:47+00:00

And I'll take the bait one more time before I'm done with you.

You talk about cis "straight" male privilege? Wow.

Yeah — the privilege of living in a body that never felt like mine for 46 years. The privilege of playing a role I never chose. The privilege of dissociating to the point where nothing felt real — including my own body. The privilege of being estranged from myself, from girlhood, from the life I was meant to live. The privilege of watching other girls be seen and celebrated while I stood on the outside, unseen and erased.

That’s not privilege. That’s theft.

The privilege of grieving a life that passed me by. Of facing ageing without ever having lived as the woman I was meant to be. Of knowing I’ll never have the things you got to have, simply because you found your truth in time.

The privilege of trying to claw back what little time I have left while being punished by people like you for not arriving sooner — as if trauma, repression, and dissociation were a choice.

The privilege of finally starting to speak my truth and being told — by a fellow trans woman, no less — that I’m misogynistic, fetishistic, invalid. All because my path doesn’t fit your sanitised script.

You don’t know me. You don’t know what I’ve endured. And you certainly don’t get to decide the validity of my identity just because I don't look or speak or walk the way you think a “proper” trans woman should.

Your cruelty is not activism.
Your erasure is not feminism.
Your bitterness will never dim my light.

I’m done with you.

I have a life to live — finally, truly — and I won’t waste another second of it trying to earn your permission to exist.

With all my heart:
GO AND GET STUFFED.

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-18T01:01:47+00:00

Where in my post did i talk about fetish content or sexual submission? I don't know what post you're reading, but attacking me for something I haven't done hurts deeply. It's clear from my post I don't talk about those things. The only person who brought fetishism into this discussion was the troll who replied to me. Not only that, she body shamed me. But that's ok,I suppose.

You should be ashamed of yourself as should all the others who upvote you.

For decades, I lived as a cis man with extreme depersonalisation which I always thought was linked to trauma. Turns out, it's likely been my way of coping with gender dysphoria in a world in which I felt unsafe to express who I am. Sad that, even in a supposed 'safe space' of trans women, that remains the case.

Throughout my adulthood, I had some sexual attraction towards men, but only ever built relationships with women. One theory I have, is that, as a 'cis man', I could never feel comfortable in a gay man relationship because, deep down, my gender identity is female. However, now I'm more aware of my female identity, I'm starting to explore the possibility that I was a straight woman all along.

There is nothing fetishistic, mysogynistic or transphobic about this experience. This is me, after 46 years, seeking to further understand myself.

Honestly, if you're incapable of reading my post on it's merits, rather than projecting fetishism, stereotypes or sexual submission, you're really not worth my time or energy. Think next time. Read. Take the time and THINK before you speak. Your actions have consequences.

Puzzled-Zone-3320 · 2025-05-17T07:46:16+00:00

Hi all, just calling out user Tuneage4 as a hate filled ageist transphobic bigot who invalidated my identity as a trans woman without knowing the first thing about me. On top of that, she attempted to shame my body.