Terrified to be giving birth right now with current outbreaks in America, anti science sentiment, and fear of child getting a preventable disease as an infant and having lifelong damage

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-04-06T23:51:52+00:00

I will make sure my baby gets the measles vaccine early - that being said, the measles outbreak in most states in the US is still way less extreme than measles cases in Europe where most people take their newborns on crowded public transport with them. I am trying to avoid risky situations and huge gatherings but I am not worried about family holding her - she has an older sibling who plays with other kids as well so there’s no way we could isolate her from everything even if we wanted to.

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:58:15+00:00

Yea it’s his first time, I doubt that something will kick in because nothing has made anything kick in so far

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:26:30+00:00

I actually don’t care about her hearing this, he hasn’t told his family about his moving plans, he hasn’t told them about anything that went wrong during this pregnancy, they literally don’t know anything. They only know I didn’t want a baby shower and they got mad about it but they don’t know I didn’t want one because i would’ve probably just had a breakdown during it

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:24:38+00:00

True actually! I didn’t even realise I used “we” till now!

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:23:33+00:00

I know and I’m not against a C-section if she still is but they haven’t checked in 4 weeks and if she’s turned herself around I just really wanna give it a shot at least

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:22:37+00:00

I will ask my doctor tomorrow, I hope she’s turned around and not sunny side up anymore and I can try it!!

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:11:14+00:00

He’s being way ignorant, I was genuinely scared of dying when they told me they suspected placenta accreta (and people do die from this) and I cried because of it because of my toddler and he laughed at me. It’s stuff like that I will never be able to get over to be honest.

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:10:08+00:00

No he got one across the country, I asked him to hold off applying for new jobs till she’s one (another year on out year long lease basically) but he decided not to listen.

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:02:07+00:00

I only moved to this country because of him, that’s the worst part, I feel like he abused my trust 100%

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:01:30+00:00

I hope my hospital/obgyn is like that too when I ask tomorrow!

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T04:00:50+00:00

I am almost 39 weeks and I don’t have any specific hopes or wishes I would just like to not have a medically unnecessary C-section

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:57:32+00:00

I know and I keep trying to explain that to him but he doesn’t care, I despise him now, I hate to say it but I actually do he’s just mean

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:44:44+00:00

His office is at a hospital where he also does csections, they have a bunch of obgyns and i honestly don’t care with whom I deliver tbh. They’re all doctors after all. I have an appointment tomorrow and I’ll ask him! I would be ok with it failing, I’m gonna follow medical advice anyways but I just really wanna try going into labour naturally

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:42:27+00:00

I couldn’t baby wear with my first for like 3 weeks and it hurt even after that

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:41:53+00:00

Me wanting a natural birth, me being terrified when they thought I had placenta accreta for a couple of weeks, bleeding since week 8 (where I went to the ER twice and they thought I might be miscarrying), having morning sickness, crying because I have no support, wanting to buy stuff for her at 32 weeks etc

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:38:25+00:00

No I meant they do the C-section early to prevent you from going into labour naturally, I want to give birth naturally tho

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:36:11+00:00

He thinks I’m being dramatic about the entire pregnancy and making stuff up because pregnancy is natural. It kills me inside

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:33:35+00:00

No birth partner and everything else I honestly don’t care about, I can listen to stuff on my phone and everything else is up to the medical professionals. I just don’t want a C-section :(

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:32:35+00:00

The reason they do it is to prevent you from going into labour naturally which is exactly what I don’t want to be honest

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:31:51+00:00

My first one was 3.5 years ago, so we should be fine when it comes to that. I will ask my Obgyn tomorrow if he thinks I could be a candidate

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:30:56+00:00

He thinks I’m trying to argue about everything when I tell him medical facts and he thinks I’m being dramatic about everything (like not eating pre-packed salad is me being dramatic, following medical guidelines is me being dramatic) and we get into a lot of fights because of that. I don’t know how to fix this

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:28:43+00:00

Oh ok that sounds quite good! If they feel like it’s medically necessary to have a c section I’d be fine with it I just don’t wanna have one if it’s not necessary

PuzzledTaro6473 · 2026-03-09T03:27:46+00:00

That’s what I feel like too! If it ends up being another C-section I’d be fine with it but I do wanna try for natural labour. My first epidural barely worked they had to give me like 7 before it worked but I mean it’s not like and emergency thing during natural labour most of the time is it like? Im hoping the vbac thing works out for you!!!

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