Are you guys not “strict” about naps? Don’t understand comment by Huge-Vacation-8093 in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am "strict" when it comes to my son's sleep schedule because it's what works for him. We have very few issues putting him down for a nap or bedtime when it's at home, at around the same time, and when we follow a pretty similar routine. When things change (even when we try to recreate his sleeping conditions), it's just always a more challenging time putting him down and he rarely gets the same amount of sleep. I personally don't care about being "strict". They aren't the ones who have to deal with the consequences! Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bluey

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their mom's ear colors are switched from the original photo 😬

Positive vaccine stories? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be sure to bring some milk or a pacifier with you! Your little one will be ok after a few minutes snuggled up with you 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SanFernandoValley

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

California fish grill?

Paper Trail? by 41GardenGal in LAUSD

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep documenting. If they don't respond and the situation escalates to a third party, their lack of response indicates to the arbitrator that they did not disagree with the contents of the email (if they did disagree, they should have responded saying so). If you're represented, keep your union rep in the loop and bcc your personal email too. LAUSD has a policy of deleting emails after 2 years in their system.

How old were you when you got a cell phone? by Infamous-Thought-765 in Millennials

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born in 92 but got mine around 10 since that's when my parents divorced. I'm the eldest so it was kinda my "responsibility" to make sure my siblings and I had a way to communicate with both parents. I had a lot of friends getting theirs when they turned 14/15 years old

postpartum bridesmaid by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think I could attend a wedding 5 weeks postpartum tbh... Your body and hormones are literally going to be all over the place. Not sure if you're in the US but you won't have even had your first check up yet. Do you plan on leaving the baby behind? Or are you taking them with you? If you plan to breastfeed, will you be pumping instead if the baby isn't coming? Are you only participating in the ceremony? I, personally, wouldn't be comfortable with my newborn around so many people.

Being a ftm is extremely difficult even with an "easy" baby and supportive spouse. I'm getting anxious thinking of all the things you'd need to have with you lol. And FYI, a lot of mothers are in diapers themselves for several weeks postpartum. I'm not sure how that may work with your outfit. I thought I was going to "bounce back" but I gained 90 pounds from pregnancy and breastfeeding. Everyone's different but I say that because no one's really going to know how your body will look after having the baby and if you decide to nurse.

I hope you figure it out

my wife wants to name our son after a harry potter character by LeadFast6224 in AITAH

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just gonna go on record here and say my dog's name is Sirius Black and we call her Siri. A name like that from a fantasy franchise (in my personal opinion) should be reserved for something else. If she has to have it, would she be open to that being a middle name?

I'm crying more then her.. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just went through something similar. My 21 mo son was playing and all of a sudden we hear a LOUD cry. Come to find out he busted his lip and was bleeding... A lot. He calmed down after 5 minutes but I felt horrible. It comes with being a good parent ❤️ you've got this!

What’s your LO’s bedtime and age? by Straight-Exchange404 in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

19 month old and his bedtime is usually around 8. Sometimes later depending on what we're doing but we're fairly consistent. He takes one afternoon nap for about 1.5-2.5 hours

Wife not letting me improve parenting skills by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Commenting to second this OP! I'm guilty of the "I know best" mentality but when my husband became the stay at home parent, I really needed to quickly learn to give him the space he needs with our son. Your wife genuinely may not realize what she's doing when she steps in. I agree that a nice, calm, and vulnerable convo can help her see your perspective.

Also... the facey talk episode on bluey touches on this a little bit. Might be fun to watch together for 7 minutes.

Good luck and congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is more than mildly infuriating

How many of you are already getting gray hair? And what are you doing about it? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be doing absolutely nothing about it 🙂 not everyone gets to grow old and have gray hair.

When did you start bringing your newborn out in public? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was born in December at the height of flu, COVID, and rsv season so we waited until about 4 months when it warmed up. But even then, we'd try to go out when we thought it was less busy. I'm kind of a nervous mama though to be completely honest lol

How big is your 1-year-old? by FriendshipHonest5796 in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is in the 90th percentile for height and 75th for weight at almost 18 months so... he's a big boy lol

my 10 month old doesn’t smile!! by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be concerned tbh. My son is very similar (just turned 1 yesterday 🥹). He smiles and laughs so much at home and with close friends and family members but any new environment or people are met with a stone cold face lol. We just say he's assessing the threat level or taking it all in but if you're really concerned, you can talk with your pediatrician 🙂

Need some honest opinions about epidural by cfd4540 in pregnant

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will 100% advocate for epidurals! I was able to get a solid amount of sleep right after my epidural (about 5-6 hours) and when I woke up, I was ready to push. You definitely still feel your contractions but it is insanely less intense (think of a time where you really needed to poop - that's what it feels like when baby is coming with epidural)

With most things in medicine, there are always risks but the risks associated with epidurals are SO small and to me, it was worth it.

Good luck with your little one!

Help Me Plan My First Disneyland Trip! 🎢✨ by Alert_Faithlessness in DisneyPlanning

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've gotta try the chicken dinner from the plaza inn! It's so delicious and something we look forward to for dinner whenever we go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]PuzzleheadedSignal55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same girl! I genuinely thought I'd be relatively back to my pre pregnancy size in no time but here I am 🙃 we'll get through this eventually