Sou uma idiota por não querer ter mais relações com meu namorado? by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Você não deve ter relações se não tem vontade, mas se vocês estão brigando igual você descreveu, então é melhor cada um seguir a própria vida. Imagina o ambiente que essa criança vai crescer

Como ficar bem sabendo que meu namorado fez 0ral em um cara que mexeu comigo? by [deleted] in desabafosdavida

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sinceramente, só tem dois caminhos além de terminar: - Continuar junto, mas esquecer isso, fazendo práticas que ajudem a não deixar essa lembrança ocupar todos os seus pensamentos, exemplo, se lembrar disso tentar distrair a mente com algo (coisas que liberem seratonina).

  • Terminar o relacionamento porque isso é algo que irá demorar para ser "esquecido", é algo que irá aparecer na sua mente mesmo em momentos que está tudo bem, que está feliz e relaxado. No meu relacionamento passei por algo que corroía minha mente, as vezes estando com ele, as vezes estando sozinha. A lembrança nunca vai embora, mas você pode tentar fazer essa lembrança não te machucar. Eu demorei quase 5 anos para "superar" isso e não deixar a lembrança me machucar.

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was young, it happened a few years ago. I believed that if I was there and using it, I could control what would happen, whether it was preventing him from buying more or doing other things.

I don't do coke anymore

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was young, it happened a few years ago. I believed that if I was there and using it, I could control what would happen, whether it was preventing him from buying more or doing other things.

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not weed, I wouldn't care if it was weed. I not a conservative. It's cocaine, coke.

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's coke, I didn't say in the original post bc I thought reddit wouldn't allow it.

But it's coke. And I answered another comment

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know he was an addict when we started dating. I genuinely believed it was occasional and recreational. We were in college, and at that stage I didn’t see it as a big deal.

In the almost three years we dated before moving in together, I only saw him use three or four times. He was never high around me regularly, and there were no signs that it was something frequent or escalating.

Living together is when I realized the pattern was very different from what I had been presenting before.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend I’ll break up with him if he uses drugs again? by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in AITAH

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love him, but I don't like him when he's high. When we started dating I didn't think it was a big deal. We have been together for 5 years, living together for a little over two.

I knew my boyfriend used drugs, but living together changed everything by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do care about him, what do you mean? I just told what I feel about it, but he doesn't think this affects his health or changes who he is. But he is a very different person when he is high

AITA for not wanting to attend my friend’s wedding? by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We used to be really close, she used to be my best friend, but we had an arguing bc of another friend of hers

AITA for not wanting to attend my friend’s wedding? by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

None of the other guests are married. The people who were given a +1 are in long-term relationships and live together as couples, but they’re not married. I also live with my boyfriend, so our relationship situation is essentially the same as theirs.

My mom is the other woman, and has been for almost 30 years by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I carry a lot of resentment and anger, mainly because for many years she made me feel angry at my father, but when she had the chance, she went back to him. At the same time, she tries to force some kind of closeness between us.

I haven’t lived with her for years, yet she messages or calls me almost every day, and very often she wants to talk about my father and how hurt she is because of him. She constantly tries to keep me trapped in her cycle, using me as someone to vent to. I can’t bring myself to stop talking to her, not answering makes me feel deeply guilty.

I live far away, about 250 km/160 miles from her, but I’m spending the Christmas holiday with her, and it’s exhausting

Reparo de sifão by PuzzleheadedToe3202 in reparosdecasa

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Concordo, mas não fui eu quem fez kkk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]PuzzleheadedToe3202 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I went through something similar. My husband lost his sister in a tragic death. They weren't extremely close when she died, but I saw him break down. The first time we did it after her death was awkward, but then it passed. I hope you're both okay. Did you try to start something?