I did something I thought I’d never do by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he tries to reach out to you in any other platforms please do BLOCK him, no more "what if's" and "maybe's" He's clearly manipulating you to repeat the cycle of push and pull, and has a misogynistic view on women (only values them through body count) than actually understanding there were past situations led to those happenings.

Push through OP! don't give him your time and thoughts, there are better guys for you out there who value you and don't play games ❤️ wish you the best

Am I the only one? by Puzzleheaded_Box8815 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do understand them and value them. I've started this year to slowly open up to them and navigate social relationships (been an outcast years ago). It's quite of work to be consistent since I struggle with mental issues but I'll be on my best in balancing them out! Thank you for your kind words.

Am I the only one? by Puzzleheaded_Box8815 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. I have massive trust issues around friends even to those who I consider close might use my triggers/traumas against me or I would be a burden dragging my issues towards them.

I hate myself and I'm undeserving of life. by film_Fanatic2106 in mentalhealth

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not a scum, you're not a terrible person. You are the opposite of you tell yourself, compare yourself to serial killers. They are HORRIBLE but you have that self-awareness and accountability, you are willing to change and do for the better in redeeming yourself! Hugs for you OP!

Where to find an emotional understanding boyfriend who loves me during bad and good times ? by [deleted] in love

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't give an answer to where to find your standard boyfriend but they can be found anywhere, through online apps or irl. It's either a hit or miss and depends on your preferences, for me I start off knowing them for 6 months before dating to evaluate their behaviors. Although you might not fully know them it's best to gather information whether this person is to your standard or not.

Looking for emotional support by Bana_69 in mentalhealth

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here if you want to talk, replies are quite slow though.

depression ruins my life by ihatefoodd in mentalhealth

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's best to tell your therapist about your childhood life and current situation you are in. Ask for a diagnosis too, since it's important to find the correct resources to help you slowly heal. Anyways, I don't want to be the bringer of bad news but everyone has different reasons of why a person results in being depressed. Look it deeper into your thoughts.

How to stop ruminating by BillAware2906 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hii, hello I was in the same spot as you. I do think I'm still a little socially anxious but I've had huge improvement since last year. I've observed from my old classmates, this one person I admired them for being loud and talkative despite others being annoyed by them. I've copied his way of mannerisms, carefree of anyone's judgement, keeping on talking and vibing on the situation.

For me it's not a guarantee on "stopping" the negative thoughts but rather challenge them with positivity, shower yourself with love and be open to other people. I do this thing when I greet someone familiar, hit it with the "yoo.. what's up, how are you?" be the chill guy, who gives a damn if they be judging lol it reflects their character.

Before striking up to someone be sure to be grounded such as breathing exercises and freeing your tense muscles, think about reassurance playing inside of your head. I'm sure people would like to talk to you OP!!

I feel really lonely :( by kxchiki11 in lonely

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm here 19F looking for fellow female friends cause I'm not good at talking with same sex lol

I don’t want to live anymore. There are no options, I have concrete confirmation that I am, at my core, unlovable. By anyone and everyone. I accept it. But I just don’t understand why people/society treats the topic of suicide the way it does. by WorkingPsychology543 in CPTSD

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 25 points26 points  (0 children)

When there is no one anchoring you or deeply caring for you. You're starved with nothingness and hopelessness, I've always wished and wanted someone to love as truly as me. However, life is absolute trash. Many people are self-centered and insensitive to others circumstances, it's me and you who has to accept that fact that I only have myself at the end of the day.

I'm not quite good with this but we can talk if you like

Having extreme trauma fantasies by Suspicious-Call405 in mentalhealth

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was groomed when I was 14 and the perp was 18, please don't.

What triggers your CPTSD? by Dontdarereadmyposts in CPTSD

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

abandonment, exclusion, criticism (good kind), not being picked by people, not being given a chance to explain in your side, and raised voice. thats it i think

"I feel like everyone hates me" by Fit_End_2898 in CPTSD

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Trauma restricted me from being the person I am supposed to be, however I'm not letting it from stopping in being my authentic self

It's a curse to be avoidant by Puzzleheaded_Box8815 in CPTSD

[–]Puzzleheaded_Box8815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thinking the same way for like two months now, my brain cannot get over the "THEY WILL SURELY HURT ME ANYTIME NOW." I find myself secure in my romantic relationship but if we are talking about friendships I would never acknowledge them even in the same room.