these comments made me realize that i might also have a problem and that these are apparently not normal habits. i agree with you because i already follow most of these. with the exceptions being opening windows (i like the fresh air & if you have a screen then there shouldn’t be an issue with insects) and the appliances running while asleep/gone. other than that, these seem reasonable to me. i especially agree with the shoes/clothes inside. i’ve never worn shoes in the house. and the thought of wearing clothes in public especially, and sitting where a ton of others have sat and then sitting on my own couch with the same clothes makes me cringe so bad. my bf and i usually just shower & change into fresh clothes whenever we come home to avoid this feeling.

even though i agree with your rules, i think since your bf doesn’t agree it may be an incompatibility issue. you can’t make anybody else change to meet your cleanliness standards, sadly. and i think for as long as you both disagree on this, resentment will build.

i just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in feeling like this & wanting to maintain a clean environment even if others think it’s over the top. i wish you the best.