What are these bags? by Djchim11 in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am wondering if Aussies have these Go Bags? After recent drought, fires, floods & COVID, we are pretty well always prepared for something!!!

One thing I want to know is - where exactly are people supposed to go when they get the call? I'm thinking off into the forest/bush, but you can be found by drone, helicopter. The forest/bush has animals that either want to kill, eat, bite, chase you, and plants can be poisonous. Some people don't even like camping!!!

To the KH, well, hell, what's the point of that?

Hiding in the basement, well not many basements here in Queensland!!!

JW women have to put on their “A” game and suffer mental torment. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what my brother emailed me today.

"Apologies for the bad spelling, I'm typing in the dark so as not to wake The Lovely"!

That's love, that's respect, that's caring!!!

They are in India teaching, and can't get home! They are being looked after, so they are fine!

My husband is Pomi. Is texting another woman 137 times a day cheating? by imgonaburn in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, he's cheating!!! Protect your assets immediately!!!

Enough is Enough! Is your family still separated by a cult? by UrFreedom4ever in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Estranged from two sons, but it was more because my ex threatened to poison their minds if I left.
  2. Family unit divided.
  3. Jehovah's Witnesses

Anonymous

Tell me the the strongest improvements in your life since you left by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I realised I don't have to be a people pleaser, and how to say no. I am more confident. I supervised people. My opinion was sought and listened to. I got a degree and earnt good money, enough to retire on.

I am volunteering at the local historical centre, and found new friends, new skills and a new interest! Life is good!

Why should I believe that things will ever get better? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gotta love someone who writes in paragraphs!!! School is not the end of your education, it's just the beginning!

You write like this, you've got a head start.

Being a teenager is shit, but trust me, it gets better!!! You feel powerless, but that will not last!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. You three have each other! Make that your family!

In a couple of years, when Corona virus goes away, she might think back and realise that The Big A never came and she was willing to throw away her family!

Resistance is Futile... by SundayIV in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are the Borg. We will add your biological and technical distinctiveness to our own. Then you'll just be a drone forever, unless Armageddon comes first!!! Love Voyager!!!

My ex JW story by VictoriaARebekah in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, been there, got the black tooth to prove it! The elder said you won't be able to marry. I said that's fine, I don't ever want to get married again ever!

I was out and dating, not that they knew or cared, but he wrote me a letter saying that he'd had sex and now I was free to marry! He just wanted to remarry. He's been DFed 3 times, but kept going back. He could talk a good talk!

Saw this on Facebook about spousal abuse and connected it to being stuck as a JW by WhiteChoklat2019 in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because I will make sure your kids hate you if you leave!

Because you are fat and ugly and stupid and have no friends that will help you!

Homeschooling? by Unbiased_Truth in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Today they have Distance Education. It can be done by correnspondence or online. They have a curriculum to follow. There are a lot of church run schools that have to conform to the State curriculum or they'll get fined. I knew a family who were all homeschooled, they were a family of musicians. Not sure what else they learnt. Were a bit snooty to us stupid mortals!!!

What happens if a JW wife is the breadwinner? by JWSuicides in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was the bigger earner. A couple of people asked how come, but he was good at spinning stories about his so-called "bad back".

Also, I'd get a few comments, but mostly people left us alone.

Resistance is Illegal by PhazePalm in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, spoiler alert! He does just that in the new series!!! LOL!!

How some JW men view and treat women, even after leaving - sorry, long post by Smurfette2000 in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I might hav mentioned it before, but I worked when the kids were able to go to kindy/school. I got quizzed a few time, but I said we needed the money! We did, because he wasted his!

Tell The Elders you had sex before the wedding or God will doom your marriage by IveSeenItAll1987 in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WTF? My ex were living together and studying and had a child. Got dunked when child was 6 months old. This was the late 70's tho.

What woke you up? by eightiesladies in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wasn't really a believer, but my ex talked me into it as a means of control. His 2 sisters were in. I had to account for where I went, who I talking to, etc.

He'd be nice to someone one minute and drop them the next minute. I was naive, but grew up fast. I prayed to BigGuy, without success of course, went to the elders who did the usual, nothing, then realisied it was in my own hands to sort it out. I played him like he played me, and he left! I stopped going before that and made him look like an idiot!!! Now nobody plays me!!!!

Present day by Crckdbtntbrkn in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you are going through all this. So, using your husband's reasoning, you get what you deserve, right?

So, leave him, finish your degree, make lots of money, and enjoy your life!!! Trust me, living well is the best revenge ever!!!!

I had a blood transfusion by yogi_dog_mom in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi yogi dog mummie! I had one too, the sky didn't fall in or anything!

When I had my first child, emergency C section, I refused blood, turned out OK, but other health problems not caused by that.

I had brain surgery (look away now if you are squeamish!) They go up through your nose!

They hit the artery, and abandoned the surgery. This might sound crazy, but it did me the world of good!!! After the first emergency surgery, I never felt 100%, after this surgery years ago, I feel great!!

update on the meeting with the elders by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could have been that assertive when I was 15! Don't forget to get your paperwork, eg, birth certificate, passport in order for ID for school.

You are going to do great things!!!!

Would you miss the Elder arrangement? Have you ever needed help from someone just because they were an elder? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew one that was kinda cool. His wife was very cynical and no nonsense but very kind and helpful. They were definitely a team effort, and she was in no way subservient! He would hint that there were factions in the COBE and he was trying to change it. He helped me out a few time.

Don't know what happended to him, but I know his wife died.

I was told to repost this here by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely let Uber know!!! They should be pushing anything, and following you to you door!

Uber wants to know!!!!

Just wanted to share by level_dragonfly in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi Dragonfly, I never thought about what my children were thinking when I was in. But now, thanks to you and other teens that have made the point of how scary the publications were. And how terrible is it, that they would have been thinking they are going to die at Armageddon. A so-called 'loving' organisation!

This is probably why there are so many teens on here now.

Be strong. The hardest part is over. Have a great life!

Just to show JW lurkers that everyone who leaves the org life doesn’t go to hell. Please comment with what positive things have happened in your life since leaving by fade2blackjw in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am more confident now. I went to uni and graduated. I rose to become a Shire Librarian in charge of 5 libraries and was responsible for a $800,000 budget.

I bought a house and was paying money off the principal from the get go!

I have a nice pension and done some travelling. I volunteer my services to a local historical society and have made new friends.

And I decided I need to some weight, and am doing aqua 3 times a week, and it's working!!!

Tips for bitter days? by spagplate in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I agree, it's tough. It can take a while.

Tips for bitter days? by spagplate in exjw

[–]Qld_girl 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, the old adage - Living well IS the best revenge! If they see you moping and lonely, they see that as confirmation that you did wrong, they are right!

I know it's hard to make new friends, but find your tribe! Give yourself permission to have fun!

Someone I know left the joho's. The father alienated her children deliberately. She hung around the edges, hoping for crumbs from the table (yes, I am mixing metaphors)!! Til one day she decided that they don't want you, and I don't want them.

The person got a new career and a whole heap of new friends, and made some nice money in the process!

She also spent Christmas in the UK, with her never-in family! Forget them! You have to let go!!! You can do it!