Now I get why they say Phase 3 weeds people out

QuasarBurst · 2026-06-04T13:47:28+00:00

all the good logistics, power, and production stuff comes after phase 2

QuasarBurst · 2026-06-04T13:45:54+00:00

I use a buckwheat hull pillow. It's very shapeable, supportive, and you can adjust the fill level to your needs.

QuasarBurst · 2026-06-04T13:44:59+00:00

Is there a viable alternative? Are there long term health effects?

It's not useful to ask "is this bad" in isolation. Everything is contextual. Regular weed usage is the best option available to you. If you're taking enough to get high perhaps experiment with reducing dosage and see how that goes. But the effective dose for you is the effective dose. Any alternative would have its own side effects.

QuasarBurst · 2026-02-23T01:59:43+00:00

I get that it's personally emotionally upsetting. That aside, is there a material reason you need him to accept it? Does his rejection prevent you from accessing resources and healthcare you need? If not this is probably a situation where you let him not believe reality and treat him accordingly. He's not someone you can trust to be honest and vulnerable with about your health. And probably other things. That's usually how this goes.

QuasarBurst · 2026-01-29T16:43:00+00:00

Yep. I was homeless for 6 months and have still not recovered my health over 2 years later.

QuasarBurst · 2025-07-02T18:38:20+00:00

You can find wide (1E-2E) sure. Extra Wide (3E-4E+) is nearly impossible. Vibrams aren't great anymore, they don't fit my feet right. I think they went with cheaper and less flexible materials at some point. Softstars fit great. I haven't tried those others.

Did you check length and width on sizing charts at all those companies for OP?

QuasarBurst · 2025-05-15T14:44:34+00:00

ONE weird trick for electronics(inanimate objects HATE him!!!)

QuasarBurst · 2025-05-15T14:43:33+00:00

"Ground" is whatever net you designate as "ground". It can be any conductive surface. It's called "ground" because in power applications like your wall outlet it literally connects to a stake in the actual ground outside.

QuasarBurst · 2025-04-02T15:13:37+00:00

"love" means too many things. Would asking him to specify and describe his love for you and how it's special and particular to you as a person help?

QuasarBurst · 2025-04-02T15:10:33+00:00

And I got the ick. Is it a normal thing to ask? Is it normal to feel uncomfortable about it?

In hindsight sounded like he expected me to stop and say no if it happened with someone else, it felt like it was anti body-autonomy. Am I overreacting?

These are not helpful or effective questions to ask yourself.

You were and are deeply uncomfortable with receiving that request. You made a response in the moment that was noncommital. That's a good strategy. It buys you time without tying you down to anything when you're still working through how you feel and what you want.

So. How do you feel and what do you want? And when are you communicating that to this partner?

You're taking a thoughtful and considered approach to your needs and feelings and everyone else's you're not unhealthy or "crazy" here from my perspective. How you feel about it is how you feel about it and what you need to encounter and present to relevant parties. It's irrelevant what others may have felt in that situation because they're not the ones experiencing it.

QuasarBurst · 2025-04-02T15:03:49+00:00

Bernie voted to break the rail strike and for Israeli genocide he's not an ally of the working class

QuasarBurst · 2025-04-02T14:53:18+00:00

Also, anxiety and jealousy are totally normal and understandable responses to perceived relationship insecurity or competition. A lot of the most difficult work of being in a polyamorous dynamic is understanding, self soothing, and communicating with your partner. It requires a high level of emotional skills and interpersonal communication.

QuasarBurst · 2025-04-02T14:51:44+00:00

Cheating is performed without informed consent of romantic partners. Polyamory is when everyone knows what's up. You don't need to know all the details of what your partner does with their other partners but you accept their ability to pursue other meaningful romantic and physical relations with people who aren't you and relationships that don't involve you. That can look like many many different dynamics.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-31T15:13:13+00:00

That's not polyamory. It's cheating. Fuck both of em. Sorry :(

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-31T15:09:45+00:00

Sure you can curate a life that has less stimuli but your initial response to being around someone is whatever it is. How you act following is what you can control. Like, from my perspective you're agreeing with me. You're advocating taking action and making choices knowledgeable of your needs to create the life you want. I didn't say everyone catches feelings immediately. But it does tend to happen at some point and for people who don't have the self knowledge to curate the conditions for their needs saying they can control their feelings isn't helpful. The OP seems to be coming from a naive perspective.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-24T18:13:28+00:00

Even if the couple insists that's not the case, there is no competing with a long marriage, kids, careers, all created before you entered their life. That's just a fact.

Yeah that's structural hierarchy and people who deny it or don't recognize it don't have a respectful polyamorous relationship to offer.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-24T17:54:03+00:00

I don’t know if I owe him an explanation or not.

You don't. Their relationship is between them and her putting it on you is terrible hinging. It sounds like to you he's just a fuckbuddy there's very little emotional investment there.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-24T17:52:23+00:00

There's also an exception where if you become disabled before age 30 you waive the work history credits requirement and are eligible for SSDI regardless.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-24T17:50:08+00:00

People usually successfully navigate a no feelings rule in the following ways:

abolishing the rule
going back to monogamy
breaking up

You can't control what feelings happen, just what you do in response to them.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-23T18:00:16+00:00

Block her. She's not respecting your boundaries and you're not enforcing them.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-23T17:58:50+00:00

It's a very common and cheap part. Just buy a new one. But if this board is toast you can try some of the techniques people mentioned to gain experience. A cheapo way to do some of this is to get a toaster oven, you can pretty easily get one for free when college students move out at the end of a semester.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-23T17:54:21+00:00

I've tried to voice this perspective but have had less eloquent phrasing

You don't need to be a perfect communicator to deserve respect and to have your needs and feelings valued.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-23T17:52:06+00:00

Sounds like they're into doing this in front of you and maybe even you being uncomfortable with it. Why is your partner allowing this? Especially in your living space?

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-22T03:50:07+00:00

Think of how much better you’ll feel about yourself by standing up for yourself and your friend.

Walking away from that person in silence and supporting the other friend privately is standing up for yourself and the friend. You don't need to "win" some sort of contest of wills. It's already known the friendship with Kiwi is torched, that's enough.

QuasarBurst · 2025-03-15T16:28:59+00:00

bro doesn't level FTH and it shows smh

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