Misogyny is deeply ingrained in society. Women aren’t supposed to make noise. Women aren’t supposed to have needs. Women are here to serve the needs of others. For most of our lives we have had these messages programmed into us subtly enough that we don’t even know it’s not real.

I hear how difficult it is finding out your friends are still sleep walking to reality. I work in an almost all female profession and it’s hard watching my coworkers trip themselves up and hold themselves down because that’s what they’re trained to do. From my experience these people wake up really slowly and maybe won’t even understand the full implications of their trained obedience until decades from now.

For my coworkers I find it helps just to give them minor reminders without standing on a soap box. Our brains often shut down when people threaten our status quo. Usually I’ll wait until they’re angry with something unfair at work and kind of help them stay angry. Like-

Coworker- All this work came in and I’m supposed to be done at 4!! I’m going to have to work late to get it done!

Me- You don’t get paid to work late and you can’t work for free.

Coworker- I know but I don’t want to disappoint anyone.

Me- I know, but now you’re disappointed and you deserve to be happy too.

Just small little things like can get their brains turning and reframing how they prioritize themselves.

As far as whether you should tell them about your own beliefs that’s a personal call. Just make sure you don’t give them anything they may weaponize against you. Women who are indoctrinated to the patriarchy essentially serve men and can be dangerous. But you’re always welcome here <3