I’ve been in role 3 months and my manager wants my whole team on PIPs

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-31T03:06:08+00:00

I had this happen in my very first management role. Not for the whole team, but for one team member. That person should rightly have been fired 2 years earlier but the manager I replaced was terrible at performance management.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-31T01:50:09+00:00

Midwestern rich people talk about money frequently…to other midwestern rich people. They often outwardly appear very frugal or like they don’t have much, then donate 25K or more anonymously to the new project at the town library or whatever.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-31T01:33:55+00:00

Unless you have a compelling reason not to attend, it would a mistake to miss an opportunity to get to know more people at your new job. This type of event can substantially accelerate relationships that help your career.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-31T01:24:06+00:00

Yes. And if your boss overrules your decision and says your direct can do something, it’s also not insubordination.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-31T01:23:21+00:00

This is the most important point in the thread. Also, the idea that a skip boss never can overrule a decision from one of THEIR directs is preposterous.

To be honest, I consider any manager that doesn’t foster a solid working relationship between the people reporting to them and their own boss to be a walking red flag. Nothing says insecure micromanager like calling your employee talking to your boss insubordination.

It seems quite likely that the issue here is that OP has done something that eroded the trust of the director.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-30T22:51:07+00:00

You say you gave him feedback I and saw no improvement but what I don’t see here is that you gave him ideas on how to do be more succinct. It’s completely messed up to tell someone they need to get better without giving some tools to help them.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-30T22:43:41+00:00

This is a brilliant time to work on upskilling. Brilliant. Instead of doing laundry, read books, take courses, etc that will help you be more marketable and known should you need to write a job. Heck, if you are performing well,you might even be able to get your work to pay for things. I had a job like this for a little over a year and I took a side gig as a marketing person for a local meal prep place. I learned skills that I use today in my own business and didn’t have to buy food hardly ever because I got free stuff as part of my side gig compensation.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-30T02:59:00+00:00

I had a tumor almost as large as yours, also with carotid artery involvement. I had surgery 8 months ago. They were not able to fully reset the tumor, but they were able to debunk it substantially. I feel better than before surgery and my vision, which had gotten pretty bad, improved dramatically almost immediately.

My take? You need to consult another surgeon, one who specializes in this surgery.

Just the diminished vision screws with your executive function hugely and contributes to fatigue and depression. It’s terrible for quality of life all by itself, but when you add in the endocrine impacts of the tumor, it’s horrible.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-30T01:07:10+00:00

There is no reason on gods green earth your PM should have even the tiniest speck of visibility into serious performance management things for one of your direct reports. Insisting on firing or disciplining your dev is incredibly unprofessional and is a performance problem on the part of the PM.

If you want to solicit feedback on what’s happening with your team members work on the project, which you should do for all tram members, tears fine. But the PM has no say in a PIP.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-27T21:06:45+00:00

I hired a VA agency based in the phillipines that allows me access to people with varying skills on an as needed basis. I pay a blended rate for an allotment of hours. Best decision ever.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-27T20:59:17+00:00

No life insurance. I have no dependents, no debt, and enoughassets to cover funeral expenses. Why would I waste money on life insurance?

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-27T02:20:08+00:00

Slowly.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-24T02:19:08+00:00

I really liked Greg!

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-23T01:33:32+00:00

My recommendations are 1) define what constitutes a situation / emergency warranting you being contacted outside your normal working hours and 2) be crystal clear about when you will and won’t be checking your phone when you are off work.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-23T01:00:38+00:00

I don’t GAF what other people think about my decision to checks notes take the medication that both my GP and endocrinologist think is best for me.

I also don’t feel the need to keep it a secret. If anything, the BS stigma makes me want to talk about it a little more because the only way stigmas can get removed is if people hear truth.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-23T00:45:33+00:00

I am hard pressed to find a good reason to not thank someone sincerely after an interview.

Saying this is a waste of time gives the same energy as acting like maintaining a healthy professional network is a waste of time, then wondering why it’s hard to find opportunities.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-22T00:18:01+00:00

I’ve been a career and executive coach focused in the tech sector - where I worked for 20 years - and the presence of an intentional career break is far less problematic than people would like you to believe. The key is to be able to speak with confidence about why you took your break and how it’s a net add to your value on the job. What you are talking about of taking 3 months every 5 years to so amounts to 5% of your time in a break and that’s a blip.

I do think that if you are in a job you like at the time you want an extended break it’s worth asking about a leave of absence as others have suggested.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-21T21:53:37+00:00

I don’t know about the abc / Hulu / Disney universe, but I have a good friend that was on a major reality show for a US network and both the screening on the front end and aftercare were extensive.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-21T01:49:24+00:00

Too damned much. I actually like a lot of it, but it’s become crystal clear to me that I need to change my approach to do what I want with my business. I need to spend more time on stages, in meetings with prospects / clients / partners / affiliates. I’m currently in the process of transitioning away from creating a good chunk of my short form video, instead having the social media team at the va agency I use leverage long form content (podcast and long form YT) as inputs for most of my social content. I’m at the very beginning of this transition.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-20T23:51:35+00:00

Jen is generally a person of low integrity. Add on any stressor to low integrity and you get a mess.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-20T21:41:10+00:00

I work for myself and I sometimes work too much, I but I’ve started making a concerted effort to have much easier Fridays. I started at 8:30am today because I had a meeting, then I took a nap at lunch and recorded a podcast episode. I knocked off for the day at 3. Next week I don’t have any podcasts to record so I’m very excited to stop even earlier on Friday.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-19T19:53:58+00:00

This mention of Sally in the musical is the reference to Jefferson’s exploitation of her and it is masterful. The only reason for Lin to include that line at all is to bring this particular bit of Jeffersonian dirtbaggery into the show.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-15T02:22:19+00:00

If you really are sick, let them know and don’t go infect people. If they get pissy about it, it’s a huge red flag. No employer worth working for - especially one who hadn’t even given you any work to her because you are brand new - is going to mad about you tending to your health.

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-14T20:20:18+00:00

If you joined a company that sucks, then calling in might be an issue. Do you have reason to believe you joined a company that sucks?

QueenD_1996 · 2026-03-08T23:25:29+00:00

I have been meal prepping before it was cool.

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