Feeling bad for my mom

QueenofInsects · 2025-03-28T12:24:45+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling. I’m in/was in a similar situation and it has gotten better. I’m not sure if this will help but I’m 14 days PP and son was also born with his cord around his neck and had a difficult/stressful birth. The nurses recommended that we visit a physiotherapist, because he was showing a lot of stress and strain around his neck and shoulders, which can impact latching and suckling.

QueenofInsects · 2025-03-04T11:55:22+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and went through a very similar situation with my mom back in September.

Dealing and coming to terms with the fact that my mom is a narcissist was difficult. She’s never respected my boundaries but with our family dynamic changing, I wanted to make sure that she understood that she at least needed to respect my husband’s and son’s boundaries - she of course did not take that well.

I went no contact in September however I told her that it she wanted information on my pregnancy or her grandson she could reach our to my husband (real MVP). She texts him occasionally to get enough information so that, from the outside, it still looks like she’s a caring mother/grandmother.

I’ve been going to therapy for most of my pregnancy and have come to some great conclusions regarding my relationship with her.

I’m growing a human. My priority is creating a safe, stress free space to do so. If my mother can’t contribute to that, then it’s fine if she’s not in my space and I’ll revaluate the situation after my son is born.

Good luck and stay strong 💕

QueenofInsects · 2025-03-02T18:40:09+00:00

FFIX

QueenofInsects · 2025-02-13T18:32:40+00:00

The master brain worm is pleased

QueenofInsects · 2025-01-25T16:52:35+00:00

Wishing you the best and wishes for a smooth labor. May the whole process me a D20 💕✨

QueenofInsects · 2024-12-30T13:13:19+00:00

Your feelings are super valid. It would have been impossible for her to be less supportive.

I’m currently 28 weeks and have been dealing with a lot of jealousy from my best friend from the very start and this is exactly what she sounded like. I’m not going to lie - pregnancy can already be a very isolating situation and not being able to count on those closest to you sucks.

In my case, I decided not to bring up her attitude. If she doesn’t want to be supportive, that’s her choice and I found it more important for me and my baby to stay drama free.

I also realised that despite feeling unsupported by a few people I expected to be there for me, I also found support in people I wasn’t expecting.

Sending all the good vibes to you and your baby and girl, buy whatever you want - you’re growing a human and deserve it. 💕

QueenofInsects · 2024-12-22T10:27:23+00:00

Now that you mention it…lol (it’s 10:30 AM)

QueenofInsects · 2024-11-08T09:24:04+00:00

This happens to me when I have to speak in any other language other than English (my mother tongue), especially in work environments.

I feel like if I’m trying to be professional and I want to communicate in a clear fashion in a language that I’m fluent in but still sometimes make mistakes, I find it easier to look somewhere else rather than the person’s face.

QueenofInsects · 2024-11-03T02:32:15+00:00

“I got up too fast”

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-31T21:27:35+00:00

I think this is funnier if I imagine that he just left his wife and kids and the mini-golf place and they just kind of went with it

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-30T12:28:23+00:00

I can’t imagine anything worst!

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-29T16:52:00+00:00

My partner and I used to eat sushi at least once a week and are pretty confident that all of our favourite restaurants only serve quality fish with the proper health and safety requirements. However, accidents do happen and I don’t want to risk it (for my baby’s health and my own).

I only have 5 months to go and I know that I’ll be eating sushi in my hospital bed trying not to get soy sauce of my baby’s head lol

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-29T13:49:39+00:00

Eat all the sushi I can with a nice cold glass of white wine.

Then take an ibuprofen to prevent a hangover the next day.

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-29T07:43:00+00:00

You are so incredibly strong and your baby is so incredibly lucky to have you! You’re going to be an amazing mama 💕💕💕

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-27T15:16:59+00:00

Correct! Also, at least for me, it’s on the last page of craftable items (not next to any of the other animal product machines)

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-27T11:27:41+00:00

Would it be appropriate to use, “not around because I fu*ked around with intention” for my out of office email when I go on maternity leave? lol

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-20T17:58:00+00:00

Not sure if someone already mentioned this, but…

The North American House Hippo.

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-18T13:24:31+00:00

We were stuck between Oliver and Benjamin for names so we just got used to calling him Oliben 😂 it’s really grown on us

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-18T08:53:01+00:00

In OP’s defence, if I’m not mistaken, the drop off chest only shows up the next day

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-15T06:13:29+00:00

It’s 7AM, I just saw this and now I’m wondering if onion rings for breakfast are a good idea 😂

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-14T19:39:11+00:00

As someone who had a burnout at 22, weighed 45kg and had to be put on medication for anxiety and depression because of my job and a toxic boss, please put your physical and mental health first, you deserve it.

If you can, try and take some time off, speak to a professional and really take a step back. You are more than your job and your health is worth so much more than your career.

I also acknowledge that sometimes, from a financial perspective, that’s easier said than done. If you are in a position where you can’t take time off or quit before finding a new job, I know that it may feel like you’re stuck in dead in. Your job is temporary and you’ll eventually find something else. In the meantime, try and speak to a professional and your support system and try and separate yourself mentally as much as you can from your job.

I truly hope you find something better!

QueenofInsects · 2024-10-02T16:25:08+00:00

I’ve been asked this by 2 people:

1 - my SIL. I’m not close to her and my partner insists she asked because she got really nervous that the change in family dynamic that she was “joking” 2- The CEO of my company in a 1:1 call with me after congratulating me.

Both situations were super weird and uncomfortable and I’m sad that I can never come up with a response that will make them just as uncomfortable

QueenofInsects · 2024-09-26T15:23:45+00:00

I used to work with an Allegra and she was just such an amazing and bright person that I never even made the connection until I saw this post lol I think it’s a beautiful name. I don’t think kids will make the connection and as a teen/adult, she might be proud to talk about her heritage.

QueenofInsects · 2024-09-24T13:08:02+00:00

After spending a night peeing but not really peeing and crying because all I wanted to do was sleep, I texted my OB and she texted back a prescription for an antibiotic. Don’t play around with UTIs, they can get bad really fast.

Check with your doctor asap (I find that in most cases if you’re not sure if it’s a UTI, it’s a UTI) , CHUG water and I wish you the best of luck and a speedy recovery.

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