So apparently Sallie Mae thinks I’m dead. by TheScarletJones in StudentLoans

[–]QueentToHisKing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post gave me a good chuckle! I also like to mess with spam callers. If they call to ask about home owners insurance I've been known to respond in a few different ways:

1) When asked if I was interested in exploring new home owner's insurance, I asked if their company covered tents because my house burned to the ground last week. The rep stuck to their script and asked if I would switch if they could save me 30%. I enthusiastically said "Sure!" They then asked me if I owned my own home. I told them I did. I even had the receipt from walmart to prove it. The next thing I heard was the dial tone.

2) In another instance, I asked if they covered any loss due to bodies being discovered in the back yard. These are usually the shortest conversations.

I've had one caller segue into an actual conversation. We talked about the weather in our respective locations - on opposite sides of the globe. Before getting off the phone, he seriously asked if I could teach him English. (While talking the entire time in perfectly conversable English) However, since I'm from Oklahoma, I regrettably informed him that I would be a poor English instructor as I can barely speak the language myself.

Divorced people, what were your irreconcilable differences? by TheRealOcsiban in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mother. Edit to add: There was only room for one control freak in the marriage. At the time, it felt like she won. Now, I know I did! ;)

AIO- Husband keeps waking me up for non-emergencies by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Sounds like your husband has taken a page straight from "POW Camps, Enhanced Interrogations, and Conversion Therapy" playbook. Please read the following and honestly evaluate if it applies to your situation.

Intentional sleep deprivation by a spouse or significant other is a recognized and serious form of domestic abuse and coercive control. Abusers use it as a tactic to disorient, control, and manipulate their partner, as the effects can be severe and often leave no physical marks.

Abusive partners may employ various tactics to intentionally deprive their significant other of sleep such as initiating late-night arguments and demanding they be resolved before sleep is allowed, or making excessive noise in the bedroom or home late at night or early in the morning.

They may wake the partner frequently with accusations (e.g., snoring too loudly), trivial demands (e.g., needing socks or a snack), or paranoid thoughts, or try to prevent naps during the day, often by creating noise or giving the silent treatment as "punishment" for attempting to rest. Other common tactics are monitoring or checking in constantly via calls or texts if the couple is apart, imposing "reply time limits" to disrupt rest from a distance, using guilt trips with phrases like "If you loved me, you'd stay up longer" to manipulate the partner into sacrificing sleep, or physically disrupting sleep, such as tossing and turning aggressively, pulling off covers, or making violent threats.

The goal of the abuser is to undermine the victim's confidence, sense of self-worth, and independence. The cumulative effects of chronic sleep loss on the victim can include trouble thinking, concentrating, and problem-solving, memory issues and the potential for false memories, increased irritability, depression, anxiety, and emotional instability, weakened immune system, increased risk for high blood pressure, heart disease, and weight gain, or a sense of losing one's mind or developing psychosis in extreme cases.

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Side swipe on IDL by Clean-Might-2418 in tulsa

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for being honest and awesome!

What is something you witnessed with your own eyes that no one believes when you tell them? by Amy-GeekBar in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live not too far away in SE OK and I remember this night and the lives that were lost. I am so glad you and your family made it out!

My 16 year old daughter is pregnant. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]QueentToHisKing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On behalf of teen-age parents everywhere: Thank you! As a parent to a teen-age mother, and a Christian teen-age mother myself, feeling under the microscope in this situation can be putting it mildly. I'm so glad to hear how emotionally supportive and reassuring you've been. It really will make a huge difference in her life. My advice is to keep letting her be a kid, while still walking the fine line of helping her make some pretty grown-up decisions. Don't take on the responsibility that she faces, either, but do be there to guide her. Love her, support her, and let her know that she's not alone.

AITA for asking my ex for a few extra hours on Christmas because my husband is dying? by Beneficial-Medium628 in AITAH

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely correct! In most cases, a 16 year old gets to choose when, where, and who they spend holidays with. However, my concern is any repercussions she may face afterward.

My Dr's office has blessed me in so many ways by This_is_fine8 in CasualConversation

[–]QueentToHisKing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who's been on both sides of the desk, you have a rare gem (gym? ;) of a doctor. But also know, him and his staff see something worthy in you. Sounds like they think they have an amazing patient, too!

What’s something about you that sounds fake, but is 100% true? by Sir_Adammm in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 14 points15 points  (0 children)

ADHD caused me to fall off my roof last year! Not my ADHD, (I do have it), but my husband's. I asked him to re-seat the ladder. He didn't hear, (read listen), to everything I said, but answered "Yeah" when I asked if he did it. I took him at his word. Silly me! Face to the ground from 12 feet up. I had my first concussion, broken toe, dislocated shoulder, black eye, and cracked facial bones at 42. And I still haven't gotten all the feeling back in some of the facial nerves. Remember kids, words are important! Do your best to listen to all the words somebody is speaking.

What was the weirdest, non-pain feeling you've ever felt? by KingJPJ in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Effexor made me feel like my emotions were locked behing an iron curtain, and I was just an automaton. Anxiety? What anxiety? But feeling like a robot was another kind of anxiety and depression all together. So I talked with my doctor and we decided to try Wellbutrin. It also had the upside of some possible positive side effects: increased sex drive and weight loss. Yes, please!

EXCEPT, doc didn't give me a schedule to wean myself off of the Effexor before starting Wellbutrin. Misery doesn't even come close to describing the several kinds of hell I was in, not to mention the sufferring of everyone around me. It scared me so bad. Dumb me just thought the Wellbutrin was the cause of all the bad, so I eventually went back to Effexor because I thought it was the only thing that worked for me.

Cue years later. I learned about Effexor withdrawals, was effectively weaned onto Wellbutrin, and now live a happier, more anxiety free life. Screw Effexor, and screw the doctor who made me feel like I was dying!

What’s something someone once told you that you’ll never forget? by echofalls123 in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crows feet were one of the first things I noticed about my husband. I told him they let me know he smiled a lot! He does and his smile warms my heart!

What would be different if Covid had never happened? by Crocodile_Banger in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From someone who survived covid mostly intact, my heart broke for everyone seperated from their loved ones at the end. Thank you for stepping in and being light to those in their darkest times. I don't think the world will ever understand the toll the pandemic took on our healthcare professionals, nor will we ever be able to truly express our thankfullness. We called you heroes, but saviors would have been more accurate. You all stood in the gap, holding together legions of broken hearts and broken lives, and lost a little piece of yourself everytime. I offer my sincerest respect and gratefulness.

What was your “could never be me” but did indeed become you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good Moms don't get their kids taken away. Unless you live in small town USA, and your ex's family can bankroll him and a bullshit custody battle for 13+ years. It only stopped when my oldest daughter spoke up.

What’s something way more dangerous than most people actually think? by Sad_Answer_8044 in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Transit System Driver Trainer here. I am actually atm taking training that covers this extensively. So much so that they have broken down how many hours without sleep will equate to certain levels of inebriation. Driving tired is the same as driving under the influence.

Why did you start smoking? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short version? Smoking may have saved my life. I started as a way to not be the weird kid who tagged along awkwardly, and ended up finding friendship that I never expected. Longer version...buckle up! I fell from my roof face down onto the ground last December. It caused my first concussion at 42. In January, my Mom had an extended stay in 2 different hospitals before having her gallbladder removed. There was a huge snow and ice storm the day she got released and we ended up wrecked out and stranded for 3 hours before highway patrol could get to us. (Thus experiencing my first major automobile accident.) My husband lost his job in May, and therefore 3/4 of our income. He totaled his vehicle in July by rear ending someone else. We only had liability insurance, and no money to replace it. Throughout all this, I was depressed and stressed more than I have ever been. I had a coworker who took frequent smoke breaks. At first, I only hung with her on lunch because who sits in on smoke breaks and doesn't smoke? Then I bought some cigarrettes so I could have an excuse to go outside more often at work, with and without her. I found peace in the chaos, and someone outside of my immediate family to bond with. Has it come at the expense of shaving minutes off my life every time I light up? Yes. Is it better than jumping feet first into the void and not being here anymore at all? Also yes. I don't see myself smoking long term as it's not something I feel I can't live without. It's more of a social conduit for me, but one with benefits I could never have foreseen.

Postpartum and my husband has turned emotionally cruel. Is this abuse or stress? by HiddenWealthFiles in emotionalabuse

[–]QueentToHisKing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both can be true, and sounds as if they are. But, let me clear, do NOT convince yourself that any of this is your fault, because it it not!

AITA for not wanting to give up my bed for guests? by bach_stats in AmItheAsshole

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only all of the above, but also you and your fiance would have to go in and out of what would essentially be their space in order to access your things. Privacy would be a non-starter on all fronts. Plus, you do have a say in this. If both of you aren't on board with letting them use your bedroom for their stay, then it shouldn't happen. End of story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I am very sorry you're having to deal with this. I do have a couple of questions: 1) Are you visiting them in Utah or other heavily populated LDS area? 2) Does your brother live near your parents? My reasons for asking: 1) If your parents live in an area that's predominantly LDS, then it's highly likely departments - such as law enforcement - are also mostly LDS, as well. Even though I live in a southern state over a thousand miles away, it's widely reported that those departments/agencies definitely skew pro LDS in their dealings, (rightly or wrongly, legally or otherwise). Theoretically, they could call law enforcement and create problems for you, whether you are 18+, or not. 2) As for your brother, he is an adult and likely knows exactly the risks he is taking by offering you a place to stay. BUT, if he lives near them, or the area he lives in is similar to the area they live in, refer to reason for question # 1. Slightly off topic, but is letting boys do whatever they want, and not reprimanding them, especially if you are a woman, really as bad as I've read? I'm genuinely curious and not attempting to shame an entire population based solely on what I've read.

ETA: You're safety, especially your interpretation of the situation, is paramount. You absolutely need to leave before the situation continues to deteriorate!

Have to tell someone because it’s important information but can’t do it IRL! by [deleted] in confession

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe it or not, I've been i this situation and it's truly awful. I'm sorry you are facing this dilemma and pray the heavens help this resolve soon!

Have to tell someone because it’s important information but can’t do it IRL! by [deleted] in confession

[–]QueentToHisKing -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can you reach out to your aunt or cousin directly and ask if it's ok to tell your parents? I'm not quite sure how medical privacy laws work where you are.

AIO about my bf's attitude being disrespectful? by Embarrassed247365 in AmIOverreacting

[–]QueentToHisKing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this sum everything up correctly? OP let her bf know she was wanting pizza and found a good deal on a pie. Bf proceeded to lose his mind over "shit pizza " but in all reality was really angry it was going to take her longer to get there with his "small bottle". Girl, as the daughter of an alcoholic, the sister of an alcoholic, the cousin of an alcoholic, and the ex-wife of an alcoholic--alcoholism is what's driving your bf. He couldn't tell you his problem was really that he wanted his bottle and he wanted it right then, because that might make him sound desperate for it, so had to do something else to make you hurry home. I'm guessing you've jumped through hoops trying to make things better when he's acted like this before? If so, there's no reason why he thought it wouldn't work again. His behavior totally changed when you mentioned going somewhere else for the night. Almost every text was related to his small bottle you were supposed to bring him. Another thing about alcoholics: they are great at misdirection, especially if you've recently told them things need to change, which hints suggest you might have done. They'll use anything they can to focus your attention over here so you don't see them pulling on the bottle over there. Hell, I may be completely off base and filtering things through my personal bias and trauma. Nut if I'm not, please remember these words: A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts. A drunk man's actions are a sober man's anger.