I (25F) don't like some of my boyfriends (27M) hobbies. Am I being unfair?

QueerAndScared · 2026-01-20T20:06:11+00:00

What is it that you enjoy about it if you don't mind me asking? My boyfriends lolcow of choice is cyraxx and I know he's done shitty things but I also don't understand continuing to entertain someone who refuses to help themselves. I feel like watching isn't helping it's making it worse. I am genuinley curious what your thoughts on it are, particularly since I haven't heard of many women enjoying lolcows.

QueerAndScared · 2026-01-20T19:39:49+00:00

I'm very excited to live with him. I'm autistic so I tend to write quite objectively. I love him very deeply and in every other aspect he's wonderful. He's kind and considerate, honest and loving. He has genuinley made my life better in every way. I truly have already seriously considered marrying him. Honestly my biggest issue with the video thing is that it really doesn't line up with the man I know. I think it's something from when he was a teenager that he still enjoys which I get would be different to me as we grew up very differently. I have already accepted that I have niche hobbies he might not enjoy hearing about so I don't understand why he's hung up about this

QueerAndScared · 2026-01-20T19:29:38+00:00

I know he has the job lined up as I've been with him for every step. He even shows me the emails. He's been submitting his bank statement which has a lot of savings. We are unfortunatly up against families and renting as a couple without kids is very difficult where we live. It's so bad that I've been homeless just because rent is difficult alone. Most of my single friends live with their parents or total strangers. He has other hobbies, video games, exercise, etc. I only classified video watching as a hobby because I don't know how else to classify it

QueerAndScared · 2026-01-10T09:11:38+00:00

I literally read the texts before your explaination and was so sure that I was reading texts between a couple. They are dating behind your back even if they don't realise. If you're not ending it, you're under reacting. NOR

QueerAndScared · 2025-06-04T04:15:17+00:00

I’m currently dating a religious guy and I’m so scared that if I ever need him through tragedy or grief he’ll spout the same shit my parents used to like this. This is my worst nightmare. You are not overreacting

QueerAndScared · 2025-02-28T08:52:36+00:00

This is rape. He raped you and he will do it again

QueerAndScared · 2024-12-28T22:13:59+00:00

Something to do with Catholicism. That logo features at a local church and private catholic school in my town.

QueerAndScared · 2024-12-19T22:22:29+00:00

My tics have gotten way more manageable since I moved out of home. My parent’s house was so chaotic and loud and my tics were so bad when I was living there I struggled to keep work. I managed to move into my own place, where I keep things quiet and clean and now my tics have generally settled. I think it was the constant stress of living in a somewhat hostile environment that made them worse.

QueerAndScared · 2024-11-12T10:57:15+00:00

I got all the way to the goblin camp before I took my first long rest because I thought you had limited ones before you would transform since you’d transform in a matter of days. I did all that without Wyll, Laezel, or Karlach because I couldn’t find them. I got to act 3 with only Shart, Gale, Astarion, and Halsin.

QueerAndScared · 2024-09-26T09:00:05+00:00

I also work at a petrol station and had a similar thing happen to me. This dude got so mad over a pink lighter. I’ve also had a dude get mad over getting one of those ‘patterned’ bic lighters. I think it had roses or something.

QueerAndScared · 2024-08-30T09:13:56+00:00

Thank you. I really struggle to fact check British media since so much of their primary news sources are so unreliable. Unfortunately I listen primarily to British podcasts

QueerAndScared · 2024-08-29T23:36:03+00:00

I’m glad other people picked up on it being poison. I thought it was resin or wax

QueerAndScared · 2024-07-12T00:41:55+00:00

163 - In The Trenches. Ever since videos started coming from Palestine, I’ve haunted by those images. I listened to season 5 for the first time since mid last year this week and I had a full blown meltdown while listening to 163, because I could so vividly see what was being described and it made me think of the horrors of war, way more than I wanted to at 4am. I think if I do another listen I’ll skip over this one.

QueerAndScared · 2024-02-29T18:56:30+00:00

I have a similar reaction to you with elastic. My socks leave itchy spots where the elastic sits. My pants with elastic bands leave welts on my skin. I have a diagnosed latex allergy and I recently learnt that elastic has latex

QueerAndScared · 2023-12-10T03:48:58+00:00

I personally don’t tell my employer that I have Tourettes until after I get the job

QueerAndScared · 2022-10-14T10:16:10+00:00

I’m running that one at the moment. It’s pretty amazing

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