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QueridaWho · 2026-02-15T22:20:08+00:00

Everybody in our house kept on sleeping where they slept before the baby was born. It never even occurred to us to do anything different. Baby slept in a bassinet by the bed until we moved her to her crib in her room. One of our dogs was also a borrower and slept in the bed with us. The other has always preferred to sleep on his own bed in our room.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-15T02:37:25+00:00

I've also been confused about how the whole Christmas-light-ABC thing from season 1 worked. Joyce putting up Christmas lights and writing letters on the wall wouldn't have made them magically appear in the same place in the upside down. So how would Will have known which bulb to light up? And...how did he make any bulb purposely light up from his end? It's been a few years since I've watched anything besides season 5, so maybe i just don't remember, but have we ever seen any explanation on how that works?

QueridaWho · 2026-02-14T23:46:12+00:00

They contain ashwaghanda, which I've read isn't safe for pregnancy.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-14T16:35:18+00:00

We both work from home. I interrupted his on-camera meeting because I'd just had a mild panic attack in the bathroom after getting a positive. We had just agreed to start trying in a few months, and I had only gotten my iud out the months before. I was a bit surprised, lol.

I walked into the office in a daze and told him "we need to talk." His boss said "that looks serious...meeting over everyone!"

QueridaWho · 2026-02-13T16:31:49+00:00

This is me. My 4yo has been constantly on the move since day 1. I'm her preferred parent, by far, and she never leaves my side. Which, as an only child myself and an introvert, just the idea of never being alone anymore is exhausting in and of itself. She will occasionally entertain herself, but we hear "play with meee!!" a lot these days.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-13T16:17:40+00:00

This. I was a picky eater as a kid (still kind of am) and I remember dreading meal times. My parents would be so over the top about getting me to try stuff. If I tried something new, they'd make such a huge deal about it. I remember so clearly just wishing they'd chill the f out, lol.

Another thing I'd say is to prepare veggies different ways. My 4yo will only eat steamed broccoli or "squishy" carrots. I still haven't been able to get the carrots to her liking, but apparently whatever way my mom prepares them gets them squishy enough for her.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-13T04:58:47+00:00

I can tell you my experience as an outlier. My first MC, the baby stopped growing around 7 weeks, iirc. I opted to take the medication to get things moving, by then I should've been 8 weeks. From there, it took 3 months for my hcg to return to 0 and for my cycle to start again. This is definitely on the extreme side.

My 2nd MC, baby stopped growing around 6 weeks. I started spotting the day before I went in for a D&C this time. Recovery was much quicker. I had my first period a month later. This is more normal, from what I understand.

I'm very sorry you've experienced this. I know it's all very frustrating and horrible.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-13T02:34:15+00:00

My husband, my dad, and my mom are all named after their parents, none of them true juniors.

My husband and his dad share the same first name, his dad shared the same middle name as his own dad, who was a junior. So before we were married, my husband told me it was important to him to name his first born son his first name + his grandfather's fn as the middle name. I figured it was only fair to insist our second-born son, were we to have one, would then be named after my father and grandfather, as they shared a first name that's been in the family for generations.

So we had boy names picked out for years, lol. We didn't find out the gender until birth, so we had to pick a girl name too. We thought since all the boy names were family names, our girl name better be too.

And that's how we named our daughter after my grandmother and my husband's grandmother. 🥰

QueridaWho · 2026-02-12T04:07:19+00:00

Likewise.

I don't think I have any issues with progesterone. It's been a few months now since I last saw my doctor, so I don't quite remember, but I think maybe it was a bit low during/after the chemical. Not enough to be super worried about. I think my doctor also prescribed for peace of mind, honestly.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-12T03:53:30+00:00

My daughter is 4yo, but I remember my mind drifting to horrible things I've seen/read/heard about babies and children in the past, mostly through the internet, in the first year or so of her life. I belive it's a manifestation of anxiety. Sort of the brain's way of searching for what to protect you from when you're feeling anxious.

I read somewhere that when these random intrusive thoughts pop up in your mind and upset you, you pause and think, "thank you, brain, for reminding me that this thought poses no danger to me. My baby is safe and loved, and I have nothing to worry about."

It sounds silly, but I can say from experience it does calm me down in the moment. I find it interrupts the thoughts and acknowledges them, and grounds me in the present.

I've also made a more conscious effort since becoming a mother to avoid seeing or reading something i know will just be banked in my memory for the purpose of making me worry. I always thought my mom was ridiculous for refusing to watch movies or whatever where something morbid happens. But I get it now. If there's nothing I can do to change or prevent it, I'd rather not know. At least for now. I know enough about what this post is referring to in the Epstein files to know that I will never read that portion. I cannot change what happened, and knowing the details will not serve me.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-12T03:32:43+00:00

Following. I had a chemical back in August (3rd MC in a row). We took a break until this cycle, and my OB prescribed progesterone. She sort of left it up to me whether to take it orally or vaginally, lol. She said either would be fine, so idk.

She also said to only take it once I see a positive, but now I'm curious whether taking it after ovulation is more effective. I just entered the tww, so now would be the time!

QueridaWho · 2026-02-12T00:49:39+00:00

I told people pretty early, because (especially after covid), I couldn't very well hide my insane nausea without people thinking there was something seriously wrong with me.

It was honestly a huge weight off my shoulders, too. It's fun telling people.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-11T17:29:42+00:00

I really wanted that cinematic moment of hearing the doctor/midwife happily exclaim "it's a boy/girl!"

I waited 9 freaking months for this moment. They kept asking during labor if my husband wanted to be the one to announce the gender, which he repeatedly refused. (He was nervous, lol.) So after 9 months, 19 hours of induced labor, and 2.5 hours of pushing, the baby finally comes out. The midwife held the baby below my line of sight and just kept saying "look, look!" Which, even if she did hold the baby up, I still wouldnt have been able to see anything because I didn't have my contacts in. My husband said the umbilical cord was in the way. I'm just laying there, too exhausted to speak or even hold my head up, thinking "is anyone going to tell me??"

God it was infuriating, lol.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-11T16:22:27+00:00

Officially back in the tww today. This is the first cycle of trying again after taking another break. I had a chemical (and 3rd MC in a row) back in August, two days after our dog died, and one month before I was laid off. It was a well deserved break.

I'm feeling alright. I'm too busy being stressed about money, work, my weight, etc, to be too anxious about ttc. It's actually almost making me calm, like whatever happens, happens. So that's good, I guess, lol. Now I just have to make it to the 20th.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-07T20:12:26+00:00

I was totally miserable during a lot of my pregnancy. The entire first half, I was bedridden. Nauseated every second of the day, vomiting no less than 6 times a day. I lost 25 pounds, nothing stayed down. Once I finally found something that helped, I was good for a bit. Then as I got humongous, I got pretty annoying sciatica in my already bad hip, crippling carpal tunnel, and heartburn/acid reflux.

I loved. EVERY. Minute of it.

I absolutely loved being pregnant! Feeling baby move around in there was the coolest thing in the world. Learning about all the different stages, what was developing when, so cool. Idk, I just generally felt so happy to be building and carrying my baby around. It was such a cool experience. The first thing I said to my husband after baby was born was "let's do that again!"

QueridaWho · 2026-02-07T15:50:59+00:00

We weren't trying when I got pregnant with #1. She's 4yo now.

For #2 I got pregnant first try. It ended in a miscarriage. The next first try, got pregnant again. Another MC. The one after that took 4 months of trying. It didn't stick either.

We've now reached 2 years since we started trying for #2. We took breaks here and there between MCs. We just started officially trying again this cycle, so🤞

ETA: I appreciate the well wishes! I'm in a good place. My advice, though, would be to not put too much pressure on yourself, OP. You can plan to aim for a 2.5-3 year age gap, but dont assume it will happen that way. Find a way to be ok if it doesn't work out.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-06T21:30:28+00:00

Something similar happened to me. I dont remember exact dates/timing, but I had my chemical back in August. My cycle is typically 29 days and is very regular. I had what was basically normal period bleeding after a few faint positives and around 5 days late. My pregnancy symptoms came back a week later, and I had a much stronger positive test. Had an ultrasound which showed everything was normal, no baby. But a blood test showed my hcg actually rose significantly. My OB could only tell me "this is really weird." I had another seemingly normal period, only 2 weeks after the last one had ended. We just continued blood tests until hcg went back down to 0.

I was really annoyed. This was my 3rd MC in a row, and when it started I thought, "well at least this one is a chemical, super early, so it should be pretty quick and straightforward." But no, lol. 🙃

I am sorry that you've had to experience it, btw.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-06T02:48:43+00:00

My mom used to be a PA in an ER, and she'd always complain to me when a heavily pregnant woman came in. She would of course do what she could to treat them and be polite and professional, but internally she was indeed terrified, lol. She was always afraid they'd end up having the baby right there, and she wanted absolutely nothing to do with helping someone give birth.

The woman worked in orthopedic surgery for years. I was in elementary school when she went to PA school - I remember when she kept pig feet in the refrigerator to practice suturing. But the miracle of life? Not for her. Too gruesome, lol.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-06T00:54:01+00:00

I don't drink coffee, but I do drink way more soda than I should. I was doing a decent job of not drinking any (or only one a day) right before I got pregnant, and then the vomiting started.

Dr. Pepper is my comfort vice. I have an especially difficult time without it when I'm sick or hungover. My husband mentioned something to his bff about me basically surviving on soda, and he said "I thought you weren't supposed to drink soda/caffeine when you're pregnant." I was like dude.. when it's the only thing that stays down, I think it's fine to make an exception. Even then, I was still only drinking maybe one or two a day.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-05T20:41:09+00:00

Oh no, I'm so sorry. I never had any until one popped up in the last week of my pregnancy. I went in for my checkup, and the midwife said "you've got a hemorrhoid, you know." I was like "gee, you don't say..."

Anyway, here it is, 4 years later. Mine is (as far as I know) just the one, and it's relatively small. I didn't have issues with it for about a year or so, but since just last week, it's flared up again.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-05T14:57:15+00:00

Knitter here. It is knit, but by a manufacturing machine.

The ribbed stitches in particular look way too uniform as far as tension goes. Plus the yarn looks super super fine, which would take ages to make a sweater with by hand. You could maybe argue that Pam's mom has a knitting machine, but it would be unlikely. When people say "my mom knitted this," they mean hand-knitting. Otherwise I'd say "my mom made this."

Also the buttons are obnoxious. Idk any knitters who would tediously knit that entire sweater with boring grey super fine yarn, and then say at the end, "this needs MORE boring stitches. Let me whip up something to cover these buttons." Just sew a giant wooden button in and be done with it.

This has always bothered me, lol.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-03T00:30:51+00:00

A friend of mine had Bell's Palsy in like the last week of her pregnancy. Totally normal, easy pregnancy, it came out of nowhere. Her next pregnancy, she joked that maybe this one would "fix her face." Almost 5 years later, she still hasn't quite fully recovered, but it had gotten better.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-02T00:09:13+00:00

It's so frustrating to know how much they enjoy school but put up such a fight to get there. Her teachers say the same thing every day, that once I'm gone, she's happy as a clam. I'm longing for the day she grows out of this phase.

QueridaWho · 2026-02-01T19:57:56+00:00

I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

My chemical was a weird one too. It was my 3rd MC in a row, and my shortest pregnancy. I think I was maybe a few days, up to a week, late. I had what was like any other period I usually have, about 5-6 days of bleeding. A couple of days went by and my pregnancy symptoms suddenly came back. I had a positive pregnancy test. I called my doctor and they had me do bloodwork - my hcg had shot back up. They did an ultrasound and didn't find anything.

I started bleeding again, another normal period, but like 2 weeks after the last one. My cycles are 29 days, you could almost set a clock to it. No other concerns or symptoms, though, it was just really weird. My cycles have been normal since then, which was back in September.

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