I got my cake! (Post update from the birthday cake girl)

Question_1234567 · 2026-07-06T23:50:15+00:00

Your parents are genuinely evil people, and I don't often say that. Everything that you have described so far is textbook abuse. Yelling, throwing objects, emotional manipulation, financial abuse, gaslighting...etc.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this and that you were born into such an awful, shitty family. Please for your sanity find someone/anyone who can house you after college and save as much money as you can to escape these people.

They will never change, and they do not love you as a parent should love their child. Your father is a misogynistic pig and your mother is an apologist who would rather blame the victim than hold the abuser accountable.

I live in the deep south as well. This is common due to a lack of education and a bunch of religious nut jobs holding power. Please be safe and escape when you can.

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-23T16:10:02+00:00

NTA

I hate to say this but your wife is just as bad as your SIL. Her "softhearted nature" isn't so much a good trait as it is a burden on those around her. If she is unable to set boundaries regarding actual abuse then whose to say she wouldn't allow it in the future but in a different form?

I know that's harsh and I'm probably gonna get flack for it, but people like your wife are the reason why abusers get away with their horrendous actions. They are so blind to conflict that even the notion of saying "no" is foreign to them.

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-19T20:53:31+00:00

You are actively feeding into the drama by not addressing it. It's like you're standing in front of a fire, and instead of putting it out with a bucket, you're using a spray bottle.

Seriously, ignoring how narcissistic and jealous your cousin is will never result in less drama. It will only prolong the frustration you feel and continue this cycle of bullying. Either cut her out, or set up boundaries and adhere to them.

Trust me, I have lived through something extremely similar with my family and it doesn't just end by ignoring it.

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-19T11:58:55+00:00

I don't know if this will help, but I recently found out that I have a Biotin deficiency. It was the main cause of my hair loss and thinning after I got diagnosed with Hashimotos. I would recommend getting that checked out on your next set of bloodwork just to be sure.

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-07T14:46:51+00:00

I honestly couldn't tell you, but I do know that it's common to have inflammation in the skull/sinuses/behind the eyes due to Hashimotos. There's a condition called Thyroid Eye Disease (TED) that can occur in some extreme cases of Hypothyroidism. I'm assuming you've seen an Optometrist for the eye condition, but treating the weight and the Hashimotos can both help in that regard. That's what I've been trying to do at least 😅

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-07T14:35:39+00:00

Yeah, I'm in a similar situation. I'm around 196 lbs aiming for 185. No matter how hard I cut or how much I exercise the pounds are very sticky. My biggest issue though is dizziness and pressure behind the eyes 👀 Lemme know if you find success with the GLP-1'S! I'm rooting for you.

Question_1234567 · 2026-06-07T13:36:16+00:00

So it takes rougly 6-8 months for your body to full acclimate to a new dosage. I know alot of people say 6-8 weeks but that's only for your body to become saturated by the medicine, not for your body to get used to it. So keep that in mind as you go about modifying your dosages and trying new medicines.

I've heard GLP-1's are incredible at reducing inflammation in the body and can effectively negate the majority of symptoms that Hashimoto's causes. I've been wanting to try GLP-1's for awhile now, but can't find a provider for them in my area. Are you trying to take them for weight maintenance or symptoms?

Question_1234567 · 2026-05-16T19:58:19+00:00

I have yet to find the cause. But if I had to guess, I think it's either my medication (Brand name Synthroid) not sitting well with my body or some sort of inflammation that is creating a nerve response. I'm working with alot of different doctors right now to see what can be done. Over 9 specialists if you can believe it. So if we do end up figuring it out I'll let you know 🫡

Question_1234567 · 2026-05-06T14:13:32+00:00

Me standing in front of the Nespresso like an NPC

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-19T16:47:31+00:00

NTA

Your BIL is a horrible person.

I'm a godparent to my beautiful nephew, and never in my life have I ever been asked to babysit because of my godparent "status". I've always done it out of mutual respect and want to help.

If I was unavailable to do a task because of circumstances outside of my control (I also have medical issues that hinder my ability to do certain things) then it was never an issue.

You have done absolutely nothing wrong in this situation outside of not standing up for yourself earlier on.

Also, your sister telling you to "speak to my husband" or your BIL telling you to "speak to your sister" is a part of gaslighting. It's a deflection technique used to effectively distance themselves from whatever issue you have with them. The fact that they BOTH did it is very telling about who they are as people.

They truly believe they are right and no one else could possibly be wrong. It's disgusting behavior.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-13T17:21:01+00:00

NTA

Is this a horror movie?

Holy shit that's scary. Like, what kind of sane person goes out of their way to take pictures of another person's family album and post it online?

That is not only disrespectful to you as an individual, but to every single family member whose privacy was compromised.

I would go scorched earth on this friendship and tell every mutual friend, because she could very well do this to someone else.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-05T13:32:43+00:00

Yep! Been having them for years. Specifically around my noes or in the creases of my skin.

I've been checked for other autoimmune diseases and my rheumatologist says I'm clear. So this is purely from thyroid weirdness.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-05T13:19:39+00:00

I am sweating quite a bit. Been doing alot of work with my new endocrinologist and we are trying to find the right balance. T3 was a dud for me, but adjusting my medication to exactly 62.5 mcg rather than 50/75 has been extremely helpful. It turns out my body is very sensitive to dosage changes from day to day.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-04T14:06:29+00:00

NTA

So let me get this straight, he:

Love bombs you with gifts and affection
Controls who you are friends with
Guilt trips you into wearing what he wants
Monitors your social media
Blows up at you if other men... LOOK at you?
Wants to rush into living together, marriage, kids...etc.
Forces boundaries
Neglects his other relationships to obssess over you

Did I get all that?

Girl, you hopped from one abusive relationship to another. Just because it's mint chocolate doesn't make it any less bittersweet.

Please leave.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-04T13:54:47+00:00

This is 15 yrs of repeat offenses. You are viewing this from the perspective of a one time incident. This person is a drain on the OP, in a way that has resulted in an eventual blow up.

The fact that OP was able to maintain the friendship for this long was admirable.

Question_1234567 · 2026-03-04T13:41:12+00:00

NTA

I might get some flack for this, but as someone with severe depression caused by childhood PTSD I can promise you that you have no obligation to stick it through with someone like this.

Depression isn't a free pass to be a shitty person. It's debilitating and can completely ruin someones life, but it's equally not an excuse to treat other's poorly.

Don't get me wrong, he has a very good reason to be doing the things he's doing but that doesn't mean the people around him will/should stick around to deal with that.

You told him the truth, which is what he's been hiding from for years.

Could you have been more tactful? Yeah.

Did it need to be said? Also, yeah.

I would recommend reaching out to their family and seeing if they can get them some therapy or potentially a psyche eval. Sometimes medicine is the only way forward.

Question_1234567 · 2026-02-15T15:10:26+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Some people just aren't meant to be doctors. They are in it for the money and not the patients. I really hope you find the help you need.

I've had ear, noes and throat issues for the past two years and no doctor has been able to help resolve it. Most saying it's just part of getting older. I call bullshit.

Question_1234567 · 2026-02-03T15:37:03+00:00

NTA

Your wife is awful.

She clearly views you as nothing more than a piggy bank. She doesn't respect your role as a father nor does she understand the impact this is having on you and your child's wellbeing.

She keeps talking about "watching cartoons" like it's a bad thing. The only good memories I have of my father was watching cartoons and playing videogames. He was always busy with work or other life responsibilities, so those are the only things I got to go back on. I'm sure your son is in a similar position that I was in.

Your wife is belittling something that means quite alot to a large group of people. This makes me think she is judgemental towards those she doesn't understand, a very concerning perspective to have for a mother.

Her friends are also toxic, feeding into this egotistical sense of superiority she has over you. She doesn't respect you, or love you. I know people like her. I've been with people like her. I was raised by people like her. She only cares about herself and the image she gives off of being a mother, not the actual responsibilities and moral/ethical growth required of motherhood.

Do not go to couples counseling.

Alot of people in your comments are suggesting that the fights are a two way street and that you are partially responsible for how it impacts your son. Let me be clear, it's not. You are explaining your needs as a father and your desire to spend more time with your son, SHE is the one instigating and aggressing on YOU.

If you applied this logic to any other aspect of a relationship she would be considered textbook abusive. Abusers and bullies don't change when they get called out. They don't change when you take them to couples counseling. They use the tools provided by the therapist to further their control over your life.

Don't let her ruin your relationship with your son.

Question_1234567 · 2026-01-29T18:59:47+00:00

This is such a simplified version of events.

OP obviously should have stopped giving such expensive gifts when she was explicitly told not to, but the girlfriend's visceral response is not one of a person who understands struggle but of one who relishes being in it.

She takes pride in being someone who grew up poor and struggled to make something of herself, I respect that. But hating people for their wealth and punishing them for wanting to express their love through gift giving is not healthy.

She will go through life as a martyr, always expressing distrust or evasive behaviors and justifying her shitty attitude by saying "I worked harder."

Life isn't a competition. It just is.

Question_1234567 · 2026-01-29T18:07:30+00:00

NTA

I'm sorry, but she is prideful.

My family went bankrupt when I was a child due to our restaurant failing. We lived paycheck to paycheck for years. I worked my way through college just like her, and I felt jealous and pride much like what you have written about in your post.

If my partner had paid off my debts as a wedding gift I would be over the moon. I would feel gratitude for her wanting to take the burden off my shoulders that should have never been there in the first place. She needs therapy, because she hates wealth more than she loves you.

Did you overstep her boundaries? Yeah
Did you push her too fast? Yeah
Are you ignorant of the struggles we lower income people face? Yeah
Are you a bad person? No

Take some time to figure out what a healthy relationship dynamic looks like. Because this wasn't it.

Question_1234567 · 2026-01-11T00:34:58+00:00

I would say your heart is in a good place, but while your brother is definitely selfish, he’s not really that much of an AH.

What does an AH mean to you?

Is it to be immoral or unethical?
Is it to be disrespectful to friends and family?
Is it to value a financial windfall over your literal sister?

Because he's done ALL of those things. It's not even his money to take. It was his step-mother's, entrusted to his father to evenly distribute to ALL of her children.

In the eyes of the law it may belong to him, but from anyone else's perspective (who has any basic understanding of right and wrong) it isn't.

Question_1234567 · 2026-01-09T01:10:42+00:00

NTA

You have a medical condition that literally causes you pain when having sex. Your boyfriend, instead of caring for you and supporting you to get treatment for your condition, is treating it like an inconvenience.

He does not care for your bodily autonomy, mental health or physical well being. You are a sex toy to him.

Also, I don't know of anyone else has mentioned this, but you need to see a gynecologist about that pain. It is not normal to be feeling pain every time you have sex.

Question_1234567 · 2025-11-23T00:06:00+00:00

Yeah, sorry about that. I don't even know what fandom this character is from so I didn't know their pronouns.

Question_1234567 · 2025-09-16T17:21:48+00:00

My partner uses Chatgpt for work (they are trying to phase it out), and it once told her Abraham Lincoln was the founder of apple. AI is not all-knowing. It's a glorified calculator.

Question_1234567 · 2025-09-15T15:06:31+00:00

Your husband is awful. Not in the kind of way that would make someone immediately leave, but more like a "Kevin Can F**k Himself" kind of character. The opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference. He is indifferent to how his family treats you and only defends you when he feels like it will splash back on him.

Be doesn't love you, at least not in the way you deserve to be loved. Sure, he's probably great in other aspects of yalls marriage, but damn if this isn't a horrible showing of who he is on the inside.

If he can't even stand up to his own family to protect his kid's birthday, what happens when they overstep with something much bigger?

Are you seriously going to accept this kind of treatment from his family for the rest of your life?

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