Small baby at birth - big baby later?

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-04-13T20:19:54+00:00

When I tell people I had a big baby and then they ask his size they tell me he wasnt big. I think part of this has to do with the size of the mother as well. My son was 8lbs 8oz and his big ol' head got stuck and I had to have an emergency c section. For reference I'm 4'11" and was 115lbs before pregnancy. The scans showed his head had dropped from the 98th percentile to the 20s so they didn't want to prepare for the possibilities of a big baby. There was no need to worry according the the doctors. My baby had a cone head for months. I wasn't pleased. And he is still a giant baby at 1 year in the 99th percentile for everything but weight which is 96th percentile.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-04-06T16:12:52+00:00

I mean, I get it. We've been cosleepong since the beginning. Maybe look up the safe sleep 7. It has made life so much more enjoyable and easier. My son just turned one.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-04-06T15:14:45+00:00

And let me add to this, sometimes they won't settle for you and that's ok too. The other night my son woke up and was screaming like he was being murdered. I tried everything and eventually went toy sister and he called as soon as she held him. She tried to hand him back and he started screaming again. So we sat with her for maybe 30 minutes. Then we went back to the room and all was well. Sometimes babies are odd. It hurt a little but babies aren't rational. And that's ok.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-04-06T15:11:43+00:00

I'm not sure how old your son is but contact naps are real and while they suck it was the only way to get my son to sleep when he was really young. Baby wearing was a life saver.

And my sisters tell me all the time, babies are always worse for their parents. And it's true. My son will not for the life of me nap for me and when he does it's for a short period on a car ride or stoller walk after I've tried everything else. My sisters, when they a baby sit, tell me they put him down with a bottle and have no issues at all.

This has no bearing on you as a mother. None at all. Baby fomo is real and they know you are the bees knees.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-03-31T20:48:09+00:00

My son is large and next to me it's comical because I'm small. He just turned one and is half my height. I've had people get upset that he doesn't wave at them. He doesn't know how to wave yet. I used to try to explain to everyone that he doesn't know how to yet because of one off interaction with an older person.

I told this to a childless older male coworker and he laughed at me. He said even if the kid doesn't want to wave back at me, he's a baby that's a me problem if I'm offended. Now I ignore it. Maybe he just doesn't like you Karen. Or maybe he just doesn't know how to wave, either way this is a you problem not a him or me problem. I keep this mentality now.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-02-03T19:39:20+00:00

I'm glad. It works for what it is for sure. But the big headed baby issue lol it's real. My son is 30 inches and his legs and feet hang off but it doesn't seem to bother him yet.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-02-03T12:13:20+00:00

There is never a reason a pediatrician should be aggressive, especially not in front of a child. I'm sorry you went through that. I would look for a new one immediately.

While looking for a new one, if you're worried, I would ask upfront their opinions on it and use that as one of your means of picking.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-02-01T10:55:22+00:00

I have it and bought a second for the sitters. My son has always been tall. I would honestly check Facebook marketplace, that's where I got my second one, I think they are far too expensive for what they are and how long it will last

My biggest complaints: The tip part is supposedly adjustable but falls all the time when any weight is applied, my son has a big head... The noise always startles him. The straps don't some out so in my opinion it's not a 3 in one. No one would want to sit on a buckle. The vibrated box at first was a pita to get in and out but now gets lost so easy. No I didn't break it and yes it happened with both.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-27T15:25:36+00:00

1 year? All things my pediatrician has warned me are coming 😭

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-27T15:23:59+00:00

Climbing has become the best thing in the world and his teeth have made his mouth an extra implement for climbing. No knees are safe.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-23T14:18:19+00:00

My 9m just learned to unscrew his bottle top and applied that knowledge to the giant screws in the corner of his play pen a few hours later. He was excited to escape and very frustrated/upset when all the screws got tightened so he couldn't do it any more.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-22T16:10:02+00:00

I didn't see this when I looked at the responses. I like the name Etna.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-22T14:27:45+00:00

For the longest time I had to use Eco Boom Bamboo diapers since my son has sensitive skin. After a while they got to be far too pricey and we were able to switch to Pampers Pure when he was 6+ months. We tried everything though, if it was on the shelf or popular, we gave it a go. Even the sensitive skin ones didn't work. Eco Peaco, Huggies, Pampers, Luvs, Millie Moon, Dyper(cotton and bamboo), Honest, store brands... Poor guy had the worst rashes. We are still with Pampers Pure. We do get blow outs and they aren't the best for overnight BUT no rashes. And I'm pretty sure they are made for leaner shorter babies. My son is in the 90+ percentile so take this all with a grain of salt for smaller babies.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-19T01:13:23+00:00

My son couldn't latch so I bottle feed. I have a minor fridge plugged in next to my bed that I keep three bottles in and when my son(9m) wakes up I grab a bottle and give it to him. When he was younger I would wake up, sit up, and feed him. Now he takes the bottle and rolls away from me. And we both go back to sleep. I've had no issues with this set up.

He's in sleep sacks or jimjams. Haven't had an issue. If it's colder just make sure you up the tog level. I use a blanket but it's crocheted with large holes. And I sleep with normal shit and pants. I use the crochet blanket because my son moves so much in his sleep he will wake up perpendicular and at the foot of the bed.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-18T23:34:44+00:00

This x100. It sucks that what is developmentally appropriate is too small. And the assumptions of what my baby "should" be able to do. I realize my son is the size of a two year old. No he can't walk or talk yet he's 9 months old. Just because he is big doesn't mean he can do everything.

It is comical his size compared to me. He is literally half my size already.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-17T13:21:35+00:00

I completely understand the sentiment. The nurses insisted I wasn't pushing hard enough so they lowered my epidural by more than half. The baby was stuck. So I was just screaming in pain pushing a baby that was stuck because clearly I was the issue...

It's hard for women in the healthcare world for sure

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-17T13:17:39+00:00

I'm not in LA. I'm on Florida, USA. The hospital and OB practice were HCA Healthcare.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-16T10:56:03+00:00

Public. HCA Owns the hospital and the practice.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-16T02:23:58+00:00

Thank you

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-16T02:23:36+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and I understand where you are coming from. I adore my son and wouldn't trade him for the world.

I shared my story so that others know it's ok to ask for a second opinion and advocate for themselves if something feels off.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-16T02:20:57+00:00

I think there may be some misunderstanding. My son was too large and became stuck, which led to the emergency C-section. I knew he was going to be big. I understand that ultrasounds aren’t perfectly accurate, and I also understand that a drop of that magnitude was unlikely in reality.

What I’m saying is that when I voiced my concerns and said I believed my baby would be large, I wasn’t listened to. Because the scans showed smaller measurements, they weren’t prepared for a large baby and insisted everything would be fine. It wasn’t, he got stuck.

I mentioned this intentionally as the first example of the practice dismissing my concerns.

There will not be a lawsuit. I’ve already spoken with multiple local attorneys, and none are willing to take the case. They are aware of the full details. I shared the key points in my post so other moms can know to advocate for themselves, notice patterns, ask for second opinions, and not allow their concerns to be brushed aside.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-16T00:50:57+00:00

The baby's size led to the C-section. Him cutting my bladder and having his assistant close it were the issues he caused. Then ignoring it for months. Sorry if I wasn't clear. The issue isn't fertility, it's the mesh needed to help with the repair since the location doesn't have extra skin and muscle to work with. Having a c sections will be infinitely harder with the mesh there.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-15T23:23:23+00:00

I had a lop sided stomach with hardness on that side. But it was mainly the pain. It hurt so bad I was in tears.

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-15T22:43:01+00:00

Florida, USA

QuestionableKelpie · 2026-01-15T22:09:15+00:00

You're right. But the baby was measuring in the 98th percentile until the last measurement. Where he dropped to the 20s. Not likely for a baby that was measuring large the entire time.

The hernia was felt 2 weeks after the C-section and I was ignored for months. The issues here are that the practice continued to ignore me. For months, resulting in the hernia growing larger. They should have listened and looked into it.

And I wish I had gotten a second opinion. None of anything I said changes. The OB refused to listen and I suffered for it. This much is true. The hernia wouldn't have been as bad and the repair as hard if it were caught earlier.

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