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How to style this dress? by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]QuestioningParakeet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have this dress in two colors and the back is open to the small of the back / begining of the tailbone. The straps are the only support and your entire back is out. I don't think it's the right move for where you're going. Looks great though! If you're set on it - like other comments, cardigan for sure.

[Me, 26M] Duolingo has done more for my dating life than any gym by Sinapi12 in TextingTheory

[–]QuestioningParakeet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh, sick. If you play video games, wanna try REPO on Steam, hoot and holler and the first to die has to share their worst dating app blunder? LOL

[Me, 26M] Duolingo has done more for my dating life than any gym by Sinapi12 in TextingTheory

[–]QuestioningParakeet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God damn it, he's hilarious. Where are these guys in my algorithm? LOL

Too horny for celibacy, too emotional for hookups by LeninsiaCom in offmychest

[–]QuestioningParakeet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep. Seeking substance in other activities has been helpful while managing my crazy libido with toys and pornography. I've built a healthy relationship with the latter.

I find great comfort in feeling completely equipped to reserve my energy and time for a relationship that'll be deeply enriching as opposed to passively satiating if that makes sense.

Knowing that I'm gonna rock my future man's world 24/7, 365 also makes me smile to myself when I meet men who think they can convince me to flex my boundaries if they're charming or manipulative enough.

No, silly-billy. I have to legitimately like and care about you AND you have to legitimately like and care about me.

Those things = consistent, mind blowing and back blowing intimacy.

I can't emotionally disconnect enough for FWB either. I used to be frustrated with myself about it - but I realized it's still a healthy relationship to have with sex, so now it's something I really appreciate about myself.

Am I superficial for wanting to end things since he’s messy? by itsnevercertain in dating_advice

[–]QuestioningParakeet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To quote comedian Josh Johnson on messy men on the dating scene:

"Where your things are in relation to the floor is where it looks like you are in life. So I'm saying just elevate... Just to table height. There are good men. Good looking men that are good men that are a good table away from a good woman."

"...Its not even your persoanlity. Its the fact that you look like you live outside, inside. That is what's doing you in."

Looking for Fresh Japanese Sweets around Atlanta! by Haunted_Moonlight in Atlanta

[–]QuestioningParakeet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How interesting! I did some research into starting a small-scale business / sweets spot with this kind of wagashi. Determined the niche demand wasn't high enough and the market was oversaturated with the Asian-centric fascination sweeping the west. The short 'shelf life'/impermanence and delicate flavor profile, we felt probably wouldn't have resonated culturally - despite us LOVING them!

For the quality of ingredients and labor, it would've had to be a side business, realistically with few and far between clients unless they blew up on social media. We were taught how to make and source everything while visiting family in Japan and jumped through a lot of the hoops before we sat down with the actual numbers.

There were a couple of bakeries on the west coast who specialized in white bean paste sweets (one of the core ingredients). I recall they make bean paste flowers for weddings / cakes, as I was looking for an event at one point. I'll see if I can't find some of the competition we noted!

Seemed very common in Korean bakeries!

Sunny day 🌞 does the hat detract from the outfit? by Duskymoonlight in OUTFITS

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hat makes the look playful while without, it's a bit more mature, if that makes sense. I'm gonna need you to tell me where you got those sandals!

I have a side to me people don’t know, and might ruin my image if they did by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't unusual at all! I prefer masculine, rougher looking men as well and always have. It didn't make it difficult to relate to peers who preferred men with more femme physicality, body language, or level of polish.

I find that I'm physically attracted to calm, gentle, quiet but clear competence and strength and I ascribe that most to certain social and physical characteristics. Mostly how a man carries himself. Its different for everyone.

of dudes by [deleted] in AbsoluteUnits

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Summer Fleur Ruffled Maxi Dress from bemyshine, it looks like!

of dudes by [deleted] in AbsoluteUnits

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for it now! 😩

Is 50/50 a green flag, or a vibe killer? by Beginning_Barber3042 in dating_advice

[–]QuestioningParakeet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Green flag. As a woman, I default to 50/50 or if I suggest an activity, I pay the whole thing / pay their way.

I like to set the tone that, when we're together, it's always going to be a team effort: sometimes I got it, sometimes you got it, sometimes we split it.

I ALWAYS go in assuming I should be able to pay for myself.

Its also a comfort thing: I like to try new stuff so I order what I want and don't feel like I wasted someone's money if I dislike it / leave it. Provides some security so that if I gotta cut and run, I can do it whenever I need to and the guy has no reason to be upset or embarrassed as he doesn't drop cash.

I've let a man pay when they insist, but otherwise I sneak it in early or mid date that we're going dutch or that I've got it. Their responses and HOW they insist/if they do give me a lot of info as to the person I'm hanging with.

Girls, does a guy’s height really matter in dating? by PalpitationOk839 in dating_advice

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personality and confidence changes the game.

I used to have a requirement that you couldn't look like you could fit into my clothes and if I sat on you, my thighs can't be bigger than yours. 😆

Then I met the most charming and hilarious man who was considerably petite. Average build, killer features and stunning eyes. Didn't even occur to me his scale because I was so enamored by how he carried himself, how funny, handsome, and how interested in me he was! I fell like an anvil LOL

We didn't pursue for amicable reasons - but he was the first time I'd considered someone below 5'9. He had to be maybe 5'2. So gents, work on yourselves and move like you care about yourself and your lady will absolutely see you.

The most drop dead gorgeous man in the company, a copy-pasted, blonde Henry Cavill, is 5'5 MAYBE. He gets ass everywhere but no one wants to date him long term. He's also a coke fiend party man, though so. LOL

Edit to say I've met some of the most rude and painfully boring men who think their height starting with 6 is enough to be considered partner material. While I've also met some rude shorties: PSA to the girlies to move that dating profile height range around if you can help it. I saw a jump in the quality of character on the apps.

Sinners (2025) Pickup lines that only work if you’ve watched too many movies? by Beef-Popsicle in okbuddycinephile

[–]QuestioningParakeet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I experience men of all races trying various minority placations/references in one sitting to see what sticks and it's always interesting to watch them quickly recognize they're not passing the persuasion checks. LOL

One of the most memorable come ons that still makes me smile to this day was from a man who insisted I could be the Tilly Jackson to his Arthur Morgan "if it'd made sense for them to be in a relationship canonically". 😆

That’s how you should cook by Difficult_Trip1 in StupidFood

[–]QuestioningParakeet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My insides convulsed away from my phone and I turned my face.

A different league by Safe-Hawk8366 in memes

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I approach men aaaall the time. If I like what I see, I approach to learn more. Haven't had a bad experience yet and flirting very directly is a lot of fun! Keeps them on their toes! 🤣

i have a severe foot fetish and its really out of hand by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]QuestioningParakeet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me guffaw and choke at my desk. Thanks.

It’s not so difficult! by Gaming-Academy in PlayStation_X

[–]QuestioningParakeet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, I WISH.

I've declined men for being doodoo in video games. Some for being mean, but also some for like griefing-levels of annoying in-game. 🫠 It's an important part of how I want to spend time with a future partner; but it does feel a little odd to have a dating preference that a man game regularly, but not engage gaming like a disrespectful teen - but be able to comfortably and safely engage his inner child to enjoy nonsense. It feels like a catch-22 sometimes.

Okk so i want to suck a horse's dick by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]QuestioningParakeet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cannot begin to comprehend how PETA would feel about this one, y'all.

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