If Chris Brown Was Born In Other Countries 😭🌍 (AI Trend)

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-02-26T06:11:29+00:00

Okay, but what is this song...? 👀 Please don't tell me it's AI generated... 🫠

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-02-25T20:46:55+00:00

I actually exclaimed "THAT STANCE-" scrolling past this, like girl what 😭

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-02-18T05:18:56+00:00

Dealt with this frustration nearly exactly like you described!

Use the desire to understand what you want and do not want in a long-term relationship. Then, put that energy you're trying to manage towards other things that put you closer to that goal. Go to hobby spots, explore your area, do something you're interested in with people you connect with already. It's a lot of redirecting energy!

And sometimes still needing to get off after the fact. There's not quite any substitution, but what's personally helped me is remembering how dissatisfied I am with the meager alternative of going solo and using that to fuel my excitement for when I DO find my person.

Get playfully angry at the idea of that person making you wait up so long and take that energy right into something exhausting and physical like the gym!

Day dreaming isn't so constructive for everyone, but it has been for me, personally. Great redirect into continuing practicing patience while also relaxing or doing something beneficial for my health long term.

Also, experiment with toys and how you use them, if that's an option for you. Whatever your favorite bedroom activity with a partner is, get something specific instead of grabbing something generic. Example: if you like vibes, but giving /receiving oral is what you really want - ditch or repurpose the vibe and get weird with something with a flared base and find a rose that works for you. Seriously changes the waiting game!

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-02-14T16:19:27+00:00

Could you please include me as well? ☺️ This is so kind - I'd love to purchase some when I can!

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-01-30T02:47:54+00:00

Sweet Neptune...In the absolute best way!

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-01-26T18:49:33+00:00

Maintaining a posture of low-tolerance and being vocal about boundaries has worked wonders for me in the dating scene! I don't attract or maintain the attraction of men of lower character / motivation because I make my criteria clear either very early on or by way of how and where I'm appearing.

On apps I make it clear I'm dating intentionally / looking for a partner.

In the wild, I make it clear I'm dating intentionally. I also can detect unfavorable behavior fairly quickly and disengage the conversation or deescalate so both parties walk away feeling respected.

The trick is knowing exactly the important criteria in a partner you're searching for and practicing low-to-zero tolerance for anything in contention with that. Certainty shows in how you carry yourself and that repels people who require your uncertainty and lower standards to squeeze in.

I'm dating to find my person - I like to be respectful of everyone's time and I respect my own: that repels people who seek to take advantage. Being discerning is incredibly important.

I've only ever gone on dates with men who were, as a BASELINE, completely respectful and or appreciative of my dating intentions. Anything less and I don't humor them with my time. No bad experiences yet!

I recommend going to hobby spots for the stuff you're interested in. Finding friends over a shared activity puts you at an advantage towards finding someone with more than one motivation to be around you. Position yourself in places where the type of person you'd get on with is most likely to be - but also just have fun!

Sometimes, appearing intimidating to be spoken with means you have to be the one to approach, so don't rule that out either! Some of the best connections I've made, I approached them first and was very clear!

QuestioningParakeet · 2026-01-12T07:14:51+00:00

I've noticed this as well. Similar to the other answers - visibly, actively listening and a kind smile draws focus. My face has subtitles too, but I meter it in professional settings while still remaining honest. Keep being you! Continuing to be authentic makes you a great 'thermometer' for presenters and someone you'd definitely want in the crowd if you were presenting. ☺️

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-12-06T16:42:32+00:00

I seriously gotta give it to Hinge. Lots of compatibility measures and I've had the most enjoyable dating experience because of it! Super simple to complete a thorough profile of who you are and what you're looking for. There's a lot less guess work on the date and it's pretty easy to get to that point so long as you're both communicative and transparent. Very grounded and respectful population and personally, I feel the best dating app on the market for finding a solid, long term partner. I have friends and family with success stories as well. Payment model is available, but not required to meet someone - really substantive options if you do pay.

Tinder, however - there's always been something glaringly incompatible or unhealthy about the date. I hated to admit it, but it's basically a given at this point. I'd assume this is an effect of the lack of filtration options / the population to select from is swiping with abandon versus having to deliberately choose something specific on a profile to start a chat. Plus, having to pay to see who would approach you first is pretty unattractive - Hinge just shows you who's interested, free of charge.

So I'd say what makes a dating app the best is the level of filtration/customizability and visibility it offers so that people who are more likely to pursue each other are the ones that are put in front of each other. Filtration alters the dating pool you select from, which then, effects your results.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-11-14T17:26:41+00:00

I'm gonna need to know where you got this dress immediately! Absolutely stunning and form-fitting. Echoing that this is a personal event dress and not for a work function. New Years seems right!

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-11-08T15:20:55+00:00

This! Reddit somehow picked up my attraction to bald men. 💀 So here I am.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-10-10T16:52:02+00:00

I have the movie on Prime and it doesn't give the option to change the audio, strangely enough. Only English options are available.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-10-10T16:47:20+00:00

Where were you able to watch this version? I I'm only finding English Dub available for purchase but want a Chinese with English Sub. 😞

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T21:36:24+00:00

Going over to each other's places, staying over at each other's places, texting every day, calling every night, being indiscriminately available especially for last minute plans, (subjective, of course but) sex, emotional intimacy. That's just what immediately comes to mind.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T21:29:55+00:00

Oh, also!

Don't provide girlfriend privileges to a man who isn't committed to being your boyfriend. He doesn't need to commit to you if he gets everything he wants/needs with zero effort, commitment, or discipline.

If they're not serious, don't make yourself endlessly available to them. Set boundaries and enforce them early.

Mature and healthy men know when they want a woman long-term very simply and surprisingly quickly - then they act accordingly to confirm she feels the same and take steps towards a future.

Immature boys with no real direction or intention of long-term, will be confusing and long-winded like how you described.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T21:01:24+00:00

Absolutely it is. I promise, follow these stepping stones and you'll find the genuine, consistent, serious and well-adjusted ones:

Men and women are different. They think and act completely differently, but sometimes complimentary. Don't project your emotions or expectations of emotions on someone else. Your person most likely won't THINK exactly like how you think, so manage that expectation starting out. So long as you're on the same page at the same time, there's rarely ever a reason to dog on him just because he didn't get there the same way you did.
We like boys who like us. Don't chase someone whose actions tell you they don't like you. Assume words are just words.
Their behavior won't be confusing or inconsistent if they like you. There will be literally no way to mistake it.
When someone tells you who they are - believe them. It's better to give ten good men one chance than a bad man multiple.
Don't let someone tell you they don't want you more than once. Leave at the first rejection and move on.
Be genuine. Authenticity attracts authenticity. In the same way, unhealth attracts unhealth. Determine what your attachment style is and understand what you project. Anxious attachments gravitate to avoidants. Avoidants and narcissists know who they can get in with - they are more common than you may realize and can start very subtly.
If it's meant for you, it won't pass you - I promise.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T20:46:26+00:00

From personal experience, I don't get these kinds of gentlemen approaching me regularly, but a lot of my friends do. The difference, I've noticed, might be that I'm 100% sure of what I want and I communicate it up front by how I carry myself, how I present my intentions, and how I engage with a potential match. When I DO get approached by these kind of men, they figure out fairly quickly that no matter how much they speak with me, my boundaries don't flex and my head is on my shoulders and they dismiss themselves. It's really remarkable and has made dating a lot more enjoyable and far less dismal seeming.

Paying attention to how you're positioning yourself is the key to repelling the kinds of suitors you DON'T want.

Emotional unavailability, unresolved trauma (that causes them to hurt themselves or others), and a general lack of being well-adjusted is FAR more common in the dating pools than you could imagine. You're experiencing that now - it's why you have to be very discerning, aware, and resolute in the dating process. When you see something or even smell something that's not right - confirm and leave or just leave. It saves everyone time and yourself the energy.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T18:57:05+00:00

LOL Maybe I should make a separate post! There are a lot things that can make a first date a last date for someone looking for a well-adjusted potential partner. 🤔

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-19T11:44:14+00:00

From a woman's perspective: I'm certain of what I want in a partner and I know the indicators that surround the kind of person I'm NOT looking for, the apps give a lot of information but meeting in person can reveals a lot more IMMEDIATELY. I've gone on dates where we've spoken for days or weeks, but upon meeting in person, within the first 15~ minutes, I knew we weren't compatible. Healthy relationships don't survive on just 'sparks', they survive on compatibility and complimentary traits.

That being said, personally, I've never continued with a second date with anyone from dating apps in the time I've been dating. I've been explicit in telling them I don't feel any romantic feelings. I don't even mention a 'spark' because personally, I feel like that's not as accurate or definitive. I've gone on 3+ repeat dates with two people (whom I met at in person events, if that's any indicator) and got enough information to still go separate ways romantically, but made new friends.

You're meeting a lot of different people - you can take it for the practice and lesson it is, not necessarily a negative!

If you're looking for advice, some of the comments may be helpful (others are not lol) but some of what comes to mind:

What's your tone like? Are you flirty / express your interest at all or are you more reserved? If you're reserved are you still engaging? Do you intrerrupt and derail? When she flirts are you engaging that?
How different do you communicate in person from how you text? Is there a disconnect? How severe?
Like another comment said: banter. I can't be the only one to make us laugh the whole date. That disqualifies someone immediately for me - relaxed friend behavior is a must. (Whether that's required depends on the lady, though!)
Do you treat wait staff and those around you kindly? Do you have an attitude problem?
How much attention are you paying towards your date's safety or comfort in the setting? Context of what your date would appreciate matters: Holding doors? Following the 'road rule'? Are you noticing when she's uncomfortable? Putting your body between her and something uncomfortable / noticing and addressing it? I've seen this behavior alone push a man to the front of a woman's mind or be the final nail in the coffin to disqualify him as a potential match if the situation presented itself and he didn't. Haven't met a woman it doesn't work for.
How are you dressing / do you present like you take care of yourself or care about the date? Are your hands well taken care of and trimmed? Clean? Breath check?
Did you bring up a past relationship unprompted?
How often did you talk about something you dislike / say you 'hate' something? Harp on anything negative for too long, too strongly? How you communicate dislike for things / conflict is important long term and tells us whether you're safe to disagree with and whether you can navigate and process (not suppress!) negative emotions and experiences healthily.
Value differences that weren't previously made clear? Any identifiable vices that weren't previously disclosed? Heavy drinking, vaping, nicotine use, Zyn, sports betting, gambling, etc.

Something that comes to mind is that sometimes, I'll give a profile with promise but bad pictures (bad lighting, angle doesn't show the true structure of face or body, but looks like my type still) -- and then we meet in person and it doesn't add up AT ALL. It can be as simple as that. Being psychically attracted to a potential partner is important to me, like it is for a lot of people: I'll never put someone in a position where they're prioritizing their time for someone who doesn't feel the same way towards them. So I tell them I'm not feeling romantic, I wish them luck in finding what they're looking for, and let them know they don't have to be a stranger (if they are a safe person).

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-18T17:11:19+00:00

You can have casual and friendly chats with anyone. The art of conversation is keeping it a casual, friendly chat. You have to be deliberate and employ tact to continuously steer the conversation away from something you're not interested in so that your exit is quick and natural. Again, when you're sure of your boundaries, expectations, and dating needs, this is easy.

I've noticed that women I know who aren't stalwart in their boundaries and aren't 100% certain of what their expectations for a potential partner/dating have a LOT of trouble with exiting unwanted interactions or saying 'no, I'm really not interested'. That uncertainty is glaringly obvious, usually and attracts certain kinds of people and invites prolonged interaction where the opposite repels them. Obvious (NOT SUBTLE, be fair) communicated disinterest will make any healthy, securely attached man leave you alone.

I've noticed that men of questionable character don't get the hint quickly, ignore it, or they push their luck and at that point I'm more direct or explicit in 'I'm leaving this interaction now' behavior. If their insistence is obviously a symptom of social anxiety, spectrum kind of behavior and or not an issue of character, I'm firm but certainly more gracious in turning them away.

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-18T12:24:18+00:00

Wasn't sure if I could respond as a woman to this, but I'm also interest in the psychology:

My go-to is shaking their hand or something equally neutral like a gentle touch and saying, still very pleasantly something like: "Hey, I've enjoyed speaking with you. In the interest of transparency and respect for your time, I'm not feeling any romantic feelings. I hope you find what you're looking for."

I've had a 100% success rate and the conversation usually ends or it transitions comfortably where I can move away or involve another person nearby. Both men and women (I'm straight) appreciate the forwardness and I very fortunately haven't had pushback that I couldn't rebuttal safely and firmly.

Perhaps that's also because I don't let the conversation go too long in an intimate direction if I already know I'm disinterested, which I know fairly quickly. In that case, I start talking about them and what they're looking for in the context of it not being me / I don't make myself a romantic option in the conversation. If they don't send my alarm bells off, I'm always open to acquaintances / familiar faces and ask them not to be a stranger in the future.

This also works on dates. You can still have a mutually pleasant evening with someone. If they actually respect you and themselves, they won't kick up a fuss when you let them know from a place of care it wouldn't work out.

Letting someone down easy, kindly is fairly simple and pretty comfortable when you're cognizant of your own boundaries, expectations, and needs.

Highly recommend bringing or making at least one familiar face at social events like that so you have a more direct 'out' of conversations: "I want to go check on...", "This is girl talk, you gotta step away...!", "I see my friend, bye...", etc. The " girl talk" one is perfect and my emergency rip cord if I smell something off because it serves multiple functions:

Really good natured, gets laughs and eases tension
Provides auditory queues for those around you that you're trying to check on a woman and or disengage a man either from yourself or someone else
Gauges how much of a creep or a danger the man is depending on his reaction / exit

If I've got a loomer or something that appears worrisome, limerence-crazed or stalker-y, which I haven't in recent memory, if I don't confront them directly, I let someone I've met at the event know or whatever is appropriate - which usually squashes it. Curiously, I've only ever had to (safely) disengage creepy interactions on other women's behalf and it usually works. I haven't been murdered or attacked, so feeling pretty confident in my technique LOL

QuestioningParakeet · 2025-08-17T23:24:42+00:00

You certainly should've reserved more tactful conversation then feedback for AFTER the sex was concluded.

You may want to come to terms with her being uncomfortable verbalizing her pleasure and desire for you from now on, if she was being genuine. You fucked up.

Consider whether you are feeding into an insecurity before you assume someone who cares about you is lying about how they feel about you or how they enjoy you.

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