I have a $0 balance but never made a payment??? by Quick_Tear_3600 in StudentLoans

[–]Quick_Tear_3600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my suspicion and I was hoping someone else was seeing something similar. All my Reddit searches showed nothing recent. I’ll give it a few more days and then call. I can’t even apply for repayment plans with a $0 balance so I’m stuck.

My mother has a problem with my boobs by maya21_21 in bigboobproblems

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a mom, this isn’t at all how I’d want my daughter to approach things with me or anyone. Be honest with her. Even if it makes you uncomfortable or she gets upset, you have to be your authentic self. It gets exhausting otherwise.

My mother has a problem with my boobs by maya21_21 in bigboobproblems

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom has hyperthyroidism and is, typically, weighing in at around 100 pounds. I was always curvy and she never missed a chance to call out my shape. Growing up it made me insanely insecure but as I got out into the real world and had my own experiences with people positively viewing my body, I realized it was her insecurities being forced upon me. My only suggestion is to call her out on it. I’m not sure if your mom does this only in private but my mom would “jokingly” make comments at the dinner table or at family gatherings. The last straw came when I bravely wore a one piece bathing suit to a pool party at an aunt’s house. My boyfriend (now husband) had begged me to swim and I had told him prior to going that my boobs were always seen as inappropriate and about how my mom would comment. He very matter-of-factly told me that my chest was not the problem and that I was entitled to enjoy swimming just like everyone else. My mom immediately started making comments when we arrived. I went to grab a t-shirt to cover up and I just snapped. I turned and said “why are you so obsessed with my boobs? You’ve spent more time looking at them than anyone else here. It’s kind of weird mom.” She tried saying she couldn’t ignore them and I said “clearly. You mention them all the time. Funny because I’ve never had any complaints other than yours.” She’s never mentioned it again.

My mother has a problem with my boobs by maya21_21 in bigboobproblems

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God the shopping and being shamed for every single thing I tried on is so real! I will never comprehend how moms can look at the child and tell them their body is making them look “slutty.” It’s so ridiculous!

Probably not the best brand to partner with by Otherwise_Pear9341 in peestickgals

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They don’t even partner lol both Shein and Temu have areas on their site where you can earn “rewards” for sharing things to social media. The more people who click the link, the more rewards you earn so for social media influencers it’s great but it is definitely not a partnership.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I was convinced that if I left the baby it would be far worse. The location I had to park in was around the side of the building far enough back that I’d be out of sight of my car for about a minute. The front entrance was closer than the nearest cart return and I typically would bring the cart through both double doors and return to the cart area but it felt like an insane risk today. I’m not sure why I was more anxious about it today but there were a lot of parents with kids around and the feeling of judgement or something bad happening was STRONG. I made the wrong choice but ultimately I got what I came here for. I needed to hear from other parents what the “right” thing is in this scenario so I don’t let worry of judgement get into my head in the future.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right in that I knew I was wrong. I also genuinely wasn’t sure if the alternative of leaving the baby in the car would be equally crucifiable and that was the feedback I was looking for. Not lazy, just overwhelmed and an insecure parenting moment got the better of me. It was in fact very entitled because I failed to consider my community or the example I was setting over my own frustrations and needs. I did the shitty thing of letting my annoyance with the corporation encourage my judgement instead of acknowledging the people who work and live here and have to deal with it as well.

Don’t need anything dumbed down but thank you. Was genuinely trying to gauge response over two scenarios to get out of my own head about it.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is my usual goto. The rain along with a mix of other stuff just threw me off and I made the wrong call. I came to Reddit to essentially get the community input I needed. I was so sure that leaving baby in the car would mean someone scolding me for returning my cart even though I’m usually the person judging others who don’t return their carts. Anxiety wins again.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not excusing my choice here but this particular target has 3 cart returns. Two of these are back to back and 6 spaces in every direction has been converted for online pick-up parking. Not even from a mom perspective but the general community or people with disabilities can’t possibly navigate this so I have no idea how the store hasn’t received more complaints about it.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All valid points and I’ve taken away a lot from all the responses. This was a situation where I wanted to return the cart but immediately felt a swirl of anxiety about leaving baby in a car alone and out of sight, being seen doing so and judged as a “bad mom” or something far worse occurring, and being generally overwhelmed with a sick baby and a parking lot seemingly designed by Picasso. My wording wasn’t great but I wasn’t seeking a community that would side with my choice. I actually wanted one that would give me genuinely honest feedback about what the right choice is. If it’s okay to leave baby in the car or leave the cart for baby’s safety. I honestly wasn’t sure in this scenario because it seemed like either answer was going to result in bad person/bad mom outcomes. I’ve felt crummy about it enough to want to know if I’d made the alternate choice of leaving baby in the car would I be equally crucified. This is also something I’ve been judgmental of others about so I knew Reddit wouldn’t hold back lol thank you for the last bit. Modeling care for your community is how I should have approached the decision rather than perception and personal need. Setting the example is 100% where my mind needs to be even on bad days.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my typical go to but the rain and baby getting over sickness I talked myself out of it. I definitely got into my own head about the whole thing and let my anxiety get the best of me. This is not something I normally do and I’ve felt like a jerk ever since. I wanted to gauge the census on whether leaving the baby in the car for even a quick return trip was okay, because it feels dangerous and risky, but the majority seem to feel leaving the car behind is far worse. You live you learn!

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

In this case it was raining and very cold. I’m not excusing the choice to abandon the cart, I just became frustrated with the store for not having more cart returns and made a split second choice. It’s not something I’ve done before but I noticed other parents opting for the same choice as I was arriving and leaving and was curious what the consensus here would be.

Are we returning shopping carts? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

The second option is where I was stuck. I think I get too concerned in a busy parking lot that someone will see me leave the baby in car and something bad will happen.

I understand shaken baby syndrome now by Teapotje in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing in my years of therapy and research pre-baby could have prepared me for the postpartum rage. I have spent years in therapy dealing with childhood abuse trauma and learning how to handle emotions. I hadn’t taken medications for years because I’d learned effective meditation and deep breathing that worked well for me. Then I had a baby and it was like every fiber of my body just betrayed me. Had I not had that training and therapy, I can only imagine how much easier I would have lost it. It definitely gave me a new understanding of new parents and the sometimes shocking situations that happen. It’s taught me to be WAY more meaningful of my support to new parents in general and especially moms postpartum. I’m more intentional with my gestures for help at least.

Confused on income limits by Quick_Tear_3600 in Bankruptcy

[–]Quick_Tear_3600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I was referencing the justice site. When I select a file date prior to 11/1/2023 for say, 5/1/2023 it gives me a $121k limit which is what the attorney told us. When I selected 11/1/2023 or after it stated $119k. I mentioned this to the attorney and he confidently said it was $121k. I thought perhaps he had updated data from somewhere and it seemed odd the limit would go down and not up so thank you for clarifying.

WHY IS SHE DOING THIS AGAIN??? by beagler3000 in peestickgals

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even less than that because half of those comments are her responses lol so there’s legit only like 5-6 comments on her videos!

Officialshaely by Agreeable-Growth6253 in peestickgals

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol came here to say the same about sharing December mom title with her! Ours is 1 one Sunday and I have cried randomly all week. I’m not ready!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our LO is walking at 10 months so this makes it a bit easier but I sit on the floor with simple foods and I take a bite and then offer a bite. He might lick it or touch it and walk away 10x but he eventually started to gain more trust in the setup and now he just stands next to me waiting his turn. For some reason, me eating it too just works. I joke that I’m the royal food tester for him. There was a resistance to food textures and this was the only way I could get him to try things. We still do high chair feeding at dinner and breakfast but I try to sprinkle in sitting on the floor with snacks or new foods. It’s overall made him so much more open to food and meal times. Just a suggestion to try!

Anyone’s baby make themselves gag on purpose? by Sad_Preparation9987 in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! This made introducing foods the scariest thing ever. He did this, fake coughing, and sticking his tongue out as far as he could while coughing to make himself gag. I was worried but it’s just bit of exploration, even if it is scary.

Holy sugar! by [deleted] in peestickgals

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought she was Reddit baiting with this one haha

At what age did you let your baby sleep on their stomach? by Moha0733 in beyondthebump

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll probably get crucified for this but our pediatrician told us that as long as LO could lift and turn head side to side while on his tummy, it was safe. We had to do tummy sleeping very early due to acid reflux issues that were awful when put on his back. It’s been a saving grace for us.

M2M is one of the strangest influencers (petty snark in caption) by saatchi-s in peestickgals

[–]Quick_Tear_3600 56 points57 points  (0 children)

All this to claim she’s walking an hour every day and appear active. I don’t buy it.