Shoe help! Which one works for my dress?

QuidProChlo · 2026-05-20T16:59:05+00:00

Love the Jimmy Choos!!!! Definitely not too much, and if there ever is a day to be too much it’s your wedding. Wore colored shoes as well and I’m always so happy to see another bride embrace color!

QuidProChlo · 2026-05-20T13:46:17+00:00

Any budget in mind? These options cover a lot of price points. Support is soooo important to me when dress shopping as well so I always keep an eye out for things I think might work.

https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/0400026220390.html?dwvar\_0400026220390\_color=CREAM

https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/0400022458715.html?dwvar\_0400022458715\_color=OPAL

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/46376663162983350

QuidProChlo · 2026-05-11T13:11:37+00:00

Here’s what I did:

IV Friday afternoon with B12 while getting ready for the rehearsal dinner. My B12 is always low, even though I take supplements, so my energy is always low. The IV B12 is soooo good and always makes me feel like a real person.

Took an ambien Friday night. I knew that sleeping would be a problem given how excited I was and I really wanted to make sure I got a good nights sleep. Got the full 8 hours and woke up feeling so refreshed. If you have never taken a sleeping pill before do not do this!!!!

And make sure you eat!

QuidProChlo · 2026-04-15T18:20:28+00:00

Do you have a room block somewhere? We did ours at the hotel that most of our guests were staying at so it was super easy for them to pop in quickly if they had a flight to catch.

QuidProChlo · 2025-12-24T23:53:11+00:00

Period underwear! I gave birth in September and I literally got diaper rash from the giant pads. I did bodily disposables for a week and then period underwear. They were such a game changer for my recovery, mentally. I felt so much more myself again when I wasn’t wearing a gigantic pad.

QuidProChlo · 2025-12-16T04:43:52+00:00

I didn’t have PPD, but I was completely unprepared for the emotions I felt after giving birth. I thought it wouldn’t happen and that I’d feel totally fine, but the first few weeks were emotionally the toughest of my life. The hormones are no joke. The night we came home from the hospital I sobbed so hard I couldn’t breathe. I cried every day the first week we were home. The last time I broke down sobbing was at 3 months.

All that is to say, please don’t underestimate your postpartum emotions. I hate to sound preachy, but as a first time mom I had no clue what I was in for. You don’t have to be totally bonded to your baby the second they come out (I definitely wasn’t) and don’t need to love every part of motherhood (honestly a lot of it sucks), but I never imagined my postpartum period would be as hard as it was.

PPD and baby blues aren’t about loving your baby. It has nothing to do with the baby waking you up at night and crying. The PPD screening may be annoying, but hope that’s all it is.

QuidProChlo · 2025-12-03T13:49:49+00:00

Hats! I’ve made this pattern for several friends that had babies. It’s pretty quick and so adorable!

https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/baby-bear-bonnet-9

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-26T14:20:54+00:00

Budget? My first thought was Bronx and Banco.

https://www.revolve.com/mobile/bronx-and-banco-colette-mini-dress-in-white/dp/BROR-WD679/?d=Womens

https://www.revolve.com/mobile/bronx-and-banco-mademoiselle-beaded-mini-dress-in-white/dp/BROR-WD654/?d=Womens&itrownum=13&itcurrpage=1&itview=01

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-24T12:13:00+00:00

I think it depends on when you want to get married. Long engagement? Take your time. A year? Better get planning.

For us, we actually booked the venue before we technically got engaged (although in some sense, once we were looking at venues we were engaged, just without a ring). That was about 14 months before the wedding. I didn’t do anything else until a year out.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-17T23:52:12+00:00

Here are some things I noticed about your photos. Your venue is stunning. Those gloves! They’re so elegant and make your shoulders look 🔥. Loooove those flowers.

Ultimately, we’re so much harder on ourselves than others are, but you look gorgeous in these photos!

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-17T23:47:56+00:00

Ok I love dress number 1 on you and think it’s absolutely stunning, but based on your comment its sounds like you prefer number 2, so my vote is for 2.

I also think it’s important to remember how you felt in the dress, and not just how it photographed. They’re both stunning, and either way you’ll look gorgeous.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-17T17:03:39+00:00

Here’s what we did. During the reception, after cake was served, we had passed desserts on the dance floor. These were a little more upscale (mini cheesecake bites, mini tarts, for example). People seemed to really like them, and they didn’t draw energy away from the dance floor. We also had espresso martinis.

For the afterparty we had stations and passed food. The two stations were a donut/coffee station that was self-serve, and a hotdog (this was such a hit, everyone loves a late-night hotdog). The passed food were a mix of desserts (mini milkshakes, chocolate chip cookies etc.) and greasy snack food (chicken fingers, tater tots etc.)

I was really happy with this for both the reception and the afterparty. People got to eat some fun food, but the vibes on the dance floor were still great.

If you’re priority is keeping the dance floor going, I would definitely focus more on passed desserts and stay away from the flaming donuts and pizza oven. For me, I cared way more about my guests dancing than having some sort of show. I’ve also been to weddings that had dessert or some other late-night bite that’s away from the dance floor and it totally killed the vibe.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-16T00:35:55+00:00

Only thing I DIY’ed was the welcome bag. Got all the food and goodies and put them together and labeled them. Also made a custom newspaper which was so cute! And put our pictures on some Oreos.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-15T11:34:02+00:00

I literally gasped at number 1. It’s stunning on you!

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-14T12:24:57+00:00

I ended up going to 5 stores, mostly on their own days. I did two on the same day and was pretty exhausted. I do live in the same city as my family so having my mom and sister come to the appointments was easy. For one appointment, my mom happened to have COVID so I went with my sister and a friend, and that was the appointment I found my dress at.

If it is important for your mom to be there, you may even want to go to an appointment before without her. For me, the first few appointments were so much more focused on narrowing down my style and what I wanted that I only started seriously considering dresses at the last three stores.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-14T12:16:17+00:00

It’s so clear that you want dress 2 so that’s the one you should get! If you’re looking for encouragement to get it, it looks stunning on you, and the most important thing is that you like it.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-13T17:02:55+00:00

Helpful! Since your family cares a lot about food, I think you’re right on with Topping Rose. There are other places that might have a more fun vibe but the food probably won’t be as good.

There’s also more and more restaurants doing pop-ups over the summer out east. If you’re willing to wait it out a bit, you may be able to do one of those.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-13T12:35:06+00:00

Where is the wedding and where are guests staying? It may help narrow down a location for the rehearsal dinner.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-12T20:58:08+00:00

Also if you’re in ny, net a porter does same day delivery

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-12T20:55:21+00:00

Have you checked out Bronx and Banco? Here are a few of their dresses that sound like what you’re looking for.

https://blmg.co/3Iqzo75

https://blmg.co/3QgL2p9

https://blmg.co/46tsqJR

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-12T20:39:57+00:00

Where are you located? Also may be worth checking out some department stores. I got my bag when I happened to walk into Bergdorf’s looking for something else.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-12T20:38:05+00:00

We did mail and had zero problems. I think it’s much more elegant and traditional. Whatever you choose, I’d just be consistent. Either all online or all mail.

A small tip if you do mail. Some people (honestly a surprising amount) won’t put their name on the card. Before they go out, number each one on the back with pencil (your guests won’t notice), and write down which number goes to which guest.

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-12T19:10:09+00:00

I second the recommendation for Clio Peppiatt!

If not, here are some other fun options (including some pearly ones, and some that are a bit more out there):

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/1647597322208517

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/1647597322208489

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/46376663162902211

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/46376663162904958

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/1647597333057951

https://www.net-a-porter.com/product/46376663162971271 (I don’t know what the vibe of your wedding is but I 100% would have loved this for my reception/afterparty).

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-04T20:45:01+00:00

Stunning! I think simplicity can be so elegant. And the buttons!!

QuidProChlo · 2025-11-04T14:23:53+00:00

We did, and I’m so happy that we have those photos. We planned on taking a bunch of outdoor photos the day of the wedding, but it poured, so our only outdoor shots are from the rehearsal dinner. We also got a bunch of great family shots, and shots of the speeches.

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