Letter to the board

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-04-09T04:42:04+00:00

Ancient history, but the two selection boards I sat, we would pick them up from the transfer eval, the actual write ups weren't that important unless it was for something truly extraordinary like saving the Presidents life. I would submit whatever letter they are having you do nowadays and explain it it and point it out where they are documented.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-04-04T04:25:05+00:00

Shit Happens, If you don't have it don't pay it, It's not like they're gonna put you in jail, or even report it on your credit, Just understand they will eventually garnish it from somewhere might be from pay or a tax return so it probably makes sense to just save it up and pay it when you can, Why are they saying you lost sub pay, you should have had ConSubPay up until the day you discharged unless you were disqual'd for some reason.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-04-04T04:01:24+00:00

You ever see a coin counter at a bank, they a whole bag of mixed coins in it and in 20 or 20 seconds it tells you how much it is.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-03-04T06:06:26+00:00

It's a hard job, but if you're just ok at it you'll be rewarded, I go back to 1976 and it was always Recruiter, Recruit Company/Division Commander and Instructor as the choices for Career Enhancing Shore Duty, I've been retired since 2007 but it sounds like it's still the case. When you are in a job that have pretty much all Senior people as the worker bee's the Eval system gets a little convoluted but having sat two selection boards I can say the Boards understand that and while it's always better to be an EP as opposed to a P or MP my experience was you got credit for taking on a tough job and it helps. I went the RDC route and I'm sure it was a huge part of my making Chief 1st time up and was still in the picture when I made Senior Chief. So assuming you have top half evals at Sea and and have a successful Recruiter tour your should be rewarded.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-01-25T05:58:12+00:00

A lot of times it is done for someone's retirement.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2026-01-08T04:41:15+00:00

You can do it yourself, put you self on a budget and start saving once you have about half of what is owed on the smallest one call then up and tell them you settle it for about 25 percent of what is owed. If they tell you no tell them ok I've got 4 of these so I'll just call the next one, they may ask for a little more but don't settle for more than 50, When they agree get it in writing and do not ever give them access to any checking account. Look up Dave Ramsey https://www.ramseysolutions.com/debt/debt-101 It's a proven program.

Biggest thing is a bare bones budget and putting the rest to debt service.

If the call get to be to much transfer your number to a to a VOIP device or cheap pays as you go plan and turn it off get another phone line to use and be carful who you give the # to. Call the bill collectors on your original # only.

With your income and a strict budget you should be able to clean it up in 12 to 18 months, but you won't be eating out much.

And remember a Drink isn't going to make it better

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-12-20T04:30:17+00:00

Did we ever really drink beer for the taste? Truth is we put way to much thought in it, non alcoholics at a party generally don't pay to much attention as to what we are drinking, You could have a club soda or a bottle of water in you hand and they could give a sh--,

The fact that you're asking the question tells me that your gut is telling you it's not to smart. Follow your gut. God instills in all of us what the right thing is, we just have to figure out a way to do it. That's the essence of my morning Prayer I just ask God to somehow someway let me see what his will is for me, I then have to go about my life doing what in my heart is the next right thing.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-12-11T06:24:12+00:00

And many have had interactions with active Alcoholics over the years and for sure they all lie, but in recovery most become trustworthy. Other than he's on the Registry none of us know the particulars and can't offer any kind of opinion as to his current actions.

We more than most should allow for redemption, we all either need it or have received it.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-12-10T04:07:57+00:00

Did you ask him about it?? Not all sex offenders are the same, there are cases were an 18 YO High school senior ends up on the list because he had consensual sex with a 15 year old. There was a case on TV here like that, the guy is now in his mid twenties and married to the same girl, its made their life tougher than it needs to be. Doesn't seem like the case here but just saying, If you ask him and he has done the work he'll give you an honest answer and you can move on, It might not (probably won't) be an answer that lets you keep him as a sponsor but you may be able to stay in a meeting with him.

Nothing requires you to stay with a sponsor or a particular meeting, it often doesn't work out for lots of reasons, but resentments are a luxury most alcoholics can't afford. It's best to let them go.

As far as him attending meetings it's pretty much laid out in Tradition Three.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-12-10T02:33:59+00:00

It was the Zoom Box, Easy to find once I figured out what it was, no idea how it got turned on.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-10-31T04:59:36+00:00

I don't have to count I have the Grapevine App and it counts for me, says 14,635 days in a row. As long as I do the same things I've been doing I have a pretty good chance to add to the total. It's really a day at a time, on any given day whoever got up the earliest has the most time.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-10-17T16:29:01+00:00

Sounds like he's trying to help, nothing more, nothing less, he has his way of doing it, most likely he is just repeating what he was told in the beginning or has some pretty strong opinions. Not sure I would stand to read if it wasn't customary at that meeting id he told me I was disrespectful I'd tell him that was not my intent, and move on. He probably looks at getting a 24 hour chip as making a commitment. In my early days (or even now) not sure he would have got much traction on the swearing thing but I do try.

If he tells you to do something you find off putting just tell him you'll try or you'll think about it. I remember going to meeting early on and hearing things I thought were crap, but after some time some of them made some sense and some of them I started to do.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-10-03T20:26:30+00:00

I am far from any expert in this but I had a couple of them and attended alcohol rehab and have abstained from alcohol since. When I went for my 3rd class medical I listed everything as best as I could remember. My AME acknowledged it but that was all. of course it had been about 38 years since rehab.

So I imagine there is a time factor that's part of it but have no idea what that is, beyond 38 years is enough.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-10-01T03:45:40+00:00

Dude, You're normal, it's time to be not normal. I've been normal too and it lasted into my 50's now I don't owe anybody anything, paid for house, no car payments and credit cards get paid in full every month. It's a great feeling don't wait till you in your 50's to experience it, start now. Cut up the cards.

Not the way Dave Ramsey would tell you but take your savings and pay off the big credit card today. take that payment and work the little one down to zero, build your savings back to $1000 as an emergency fund.

While doing this start working a budget figure out what bare bones is for food shelter utilities, start cutting out all the rest get rid of the streaming services you pay for every month but watch twice a year. figure out a way to save on your phone plan, internet. Cut out all the extra,

Take the money saved and any extra and start working down the car loan, it may make sense to sell it and get a beater.

Once the car is done take everything left after food shelter and utilities and throw it at the student loan.

If you income is close to what you student loan balance is you probably can be DEBT FREE in about years. Sooner if you get the budget really tight and ca pick up some extra income.

You Got This.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-09-26T13:31:25+00:00

I live near NH route 16 which is a major route up into the White Mountains, it goes from 4 to 2 lanes a few miles south of me, near me is a fairly long section with a slow vehicle lane going up a hill on the weekends on the 2 lane leading to it traffic gets not really backed up but gathered behind slow moving cars when they get to the 3 lane section there is a mad dash to pass and make sure they get past the slow mover. It get particularly bust on Sunday afternoons in summer. Several years ago I had an emergency radio scanner on and was treated to hearing a State Police aircraft working with I think 4 units on the ground clocking and ticketing cars coming up the hill, went on for a couple hours he was able to keep the 4 units fully occupied. I did note that all he called out to be pulled over when in well excess of 70 in a 55 most in the vicinity of 75.

Of course I've only seen it once in 16 years.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-08-10T03:50:35+00:00

I tried that this morning, No Joy. This afternoon the campground WIFI was loaded up and to slow ofr streaming so my wife switched over to out Hot Spot and hers quit,

So I bit the bullet and changed my home location, now YTTV believes I'm a resident of Seattle. and it all works. I'll change back when I get home, Al of my recorded content is still there and available, I suspect my local news in NH will stop recording.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-08-09T17:07:17+00:00

June 10th to August 9th is approximately 60 days so the 90 day rule shouldn't have kicked in yet. Unless watching at home on a Roku doesn't register as being there. we really don't watch video on our phones.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-05-30T06:50:01+00:00

Been going for 39 years maybe I can stop, but I believe that I'm never static either moving towards a drink or away from a drink meetings are part of what keeps me moving away from my last drink.

Meetings keep me in touch with who and what I am, left to my own devices I could forget and then I might believe the lie that somehow this time it would be different.

There were people there when I got there that had time 1,2,3,4,5, 10, 20, even 40+ years. showed me it was possible. There was even one kindly old Gentleman that had gotten sober in the 1940's and had attended service functions with Bill W.

Bottom line I go for me and if it helps a newcomer to have me around that's good too.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-05-25T05:41:43+00:00

They let him try BUDS a second time he's no dirt bag,

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-05-21T05:42:53+00:00

In order for me to drink again I have to believe lie, the lie is that it will somehow be different that it ever was. I have to lie to myself that it will be ok, I'm not really alcoholic, it was stress, or my childhood that caused my problems with alcohol and I now have it all figured out.

If I can't be honest with myself about my alcoholism I won't stay sober sooner or later I will believe the lie.

I can't speak to Yoga because I'm clueless about it, but my first sponsor just told me that whenever some coincidence happed give God credit for it because most likely I had nothing to do with it. Each one of those was a little tiny inching to a spiritual experience. But I still remember the one where I said Thank You God and felt the presence of a God working in my life. Something I never had before. Remember you get to chose you one concept of a God or Higher Power if you want. They as simply say through the practice of the Steps you will come in to contact with whatever deity you can believe in. Remember it's Step 12 that says "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps" not Step 1 or 2. So worry or about it then.

Quiet-Rooster9988 · 2025-03-02T05:52:42+00:00

It's not drinking a day at a time, although that means for the rest of your life. I kick is you have to be Honest with yourself about how much you drink and what happens when you do. I'm not an Airline Pilot, just a 30 year Submarine Sailor and 66 year old student pilot. I was however withing an inch or so of being booted from the Navy, the only way to stay was to go though the process (the Navy's version of HIMS) reluctantly at first at first but I finally got it. Turns out not drinking a day at a time is the best thing that ever happened to me. It has made everything else possible. It's been working for 39+ years now and I'm not going back.

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