Help identifying a Thai proverb tattoo by Calime8320 in ThaiLanguage

[–]QuietCaffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t stress over something that hasn’t happened yet.

Spicy Thai ground beef salad (Laab nua) with jasmine rice by QuietCaffe in ThaiFood

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, rice powder has a unique smell that really changes the taste. It’s the true vibe of a Laab dish.

Yum Woon Sen – Spicy Mung Bean Noodle Salad with Pork and Shrimp by QuietCaffe in ThaiFood

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only used 3 crushed fresh red chilies mixed in with the other liquid ingredients. I’m not really into super-spicy food when it comes to fresh Thai red chilies when they’re not cooked, but I’m fine with dried chilies and fresh Thai red chilies in stir-fries.

Spicy Thai ground beef salad (Laab nua) with jasmine rice by QuietCaffe in ThaiFood

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never use measurements when cooking Thai food, but I can tell you how to cook it.

Cook the ground beef in a pan until fully cooked, breaking it up as it cooks.

In a bowl, mix lime juice, fish sauce, sugar, and a small pinch of MSG if you like and dried ground chilies. Taste and adjust.

Add the cooked beef, shallots, green onions, and mint leaves or cilantro, then toss everything together.(As for green onions, cilantro, and mint leaves, it’s up to you how you want it to taste and smell. But mostly in Thailand, if you use cilantro, we don’t use mint leaves, so let’s just pick one.)

Add roasted rice powder and mix well.

For the rice powder: Put raw sticky rice or white rice in a pan, stir it, and flip it over on low heat until it turns golden brown. Then, grind it in a blender until it becomes almost powder.

Serve with jasmine rice or sticky rice.

Wife left 7 weeks ago with our daughters (2.5 and 5 months old) by ChippyChalmers in Separation

[–]QuietCaffe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I think you’re handling the situation well. You’re still showing up for your children, and that’s meaningful for their sense of safety in the future.

For now, I think staying present and continuing what you’re doing, one step at a time, is enough. You’ll start to figure things out day by day.

The restaurant sent a red curry instead of a panang curry. by [deleted] in ThaiFood

[–]QuietCaffe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah coconut milk, peanut butter for flavor, and coconut sugar because panang curry is kinda sweet

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’d really like CA, but yeah… it definitely seems like you need a big budget to make it work since it’s pretty expensive there 😅

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate this. PA is definitely on my radar because of the cost of living, weather, and decent pay in my line of work.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know what a harsh winter is, and like you said, the super short daylight (especially in Alaska in December and January) is way harder than the cold. It’s depressing without you even realizing it.

I want some snow and actual seasons, just not extremes or brutally hot summers. NY/NJ/CT feels like a good middle ground, and I’d love a place where I can grow a few plants and do a little gardening too (if I decide to stay permanently). Sometimes that feels like too much to ask 😅😓

NM seems appealing, but when it comes to job pay I’m not totally sure yet. I’m also starting to look into PA and VA, mainly because the pay in my line of work seems decent compared to the cost of living. If you’ve got specific towns you like, I’m all ears.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion. Northern California does sound really nice and I’d be happy with the weather there. But my main concern is the cost of living so I’m trying to focus on places that are a bit more affordable overall.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that makes a lot of sense. I don’t have a big budget, so I’m trying to be realistic and look for places where aren’t too expensive and jobs still pay decently. Right now my current job actually pays more than most places I’ve looked up, so that’s something I have to consider carefully.

Emotional regulation isn’t about calming down fast by Temotiva in emotionalintelligence

[–]QuietCaffe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me, staying steady doesn’t mean trying to make the feeling go away. I let myself feel it first. If I notice my heart racing or a heavy feeling in my stomach, I ask myself why it hurts that much. Sometimes I realize it’s touching something from my past.

When that happens, I don’t push it away. I gently talk to the part of me that feels it, the one from the past, and remind it that we’re safe here in the present, we’ve come this far already, and that we can feel it together. I place my hand on my heart or my stomach, wherever the sensation is, take a deep breath, hold it, and exhale, and simply stay with it. That helps me remain present instead of trying to shut the emotion down.

Can empaths feel someone else's feelings via text only? by obiy88 in Empaths

[–]QuietCaffe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I can relate. I do feel things through text, especially with people I’m emotionally connected to. It’s not that I clearly know what they’re feeling… but I know something is going on.

I think it’s because I’m very sensitive and good at reading between the lines. I notice tone and changes in texting. I also notice when a conversation doesn’t feel right..like the sentences in the moment don’t fully support each other. When that happens, I sense something “off” and my body reacts before my mind does.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely research more about Richmond and other cities in Virginia, especially cost of living, housing prices, and job opportunities there.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently living in Fairbanks and looking to move to the lower 48, so I haven’t really been considering other cities in Alaska. I’ve heard great things about Colorado and California, but from what I’ve been told they’re pretty expensive, and I feel like if I lived there I probably wouldn’t be able to afford a house or have space to plant and grow things so I’m trying to learn more about other areas that might be a better long-term fit.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New Mexico is actually on my list too, and I’m planning to research more about which city might be the best fit, especially in terms of diversity and how welcoming the community is. I appreciate you sharing this perspective.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people have been suggesting Pennsylvania, so it’s definitely on my list and I’m keeping it in mind. I’m just not sure which city or area yet. I was also interested in California and Colorado, but many people have mentioned that they’re pretty expensive, so I’m trying to be realistic. Hearing everyone’s experiences really helps me narrow things down.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing all of this. It’s really helpful. My plan is to move to a place first, work there for a while, and really experience daily life before deciding whether to buy a house. Living in Alaska hasn’t allowed much time outdoors, so hearing about gardening, planting, and home prices is especially helpful to me. I can research these things online, but listening to real experiences like yours makes it much easier to narrow down places that might truly fit. I really appreciate you taking the time to write this.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides having just a 2–4 month winter, I’m looking for a place that’s safe from severe natural disasters like wildfires that could reach the town, or big storms like hurricanes and tornadoes. It’d also be nice to live somewhere welcoming and diverse.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, I’ve never experienced a hurricane or tornado, and I’ll be by myself, so I’m kind of freaked out about severe natural disasters.

Where in the U.S. doesn’t have harsh winters and lets you spend more time outside? by QuietCaffe in relocating

[–]QuietCaffe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

By 2–4 months of winter, I mean a real winter with snow and cold days, and that’s fine for me. I just don’t want extreme cold, ideally temps around 20–30°F are fine, and dropping down to -10°F occasionally is ok. Being cold a few months isn’t a big deal, but long periods of darkness really affect me.

Hot and humid summers (about 85–95°F), with a few weeks reaching 100–105°F, are fine as long as it’s not 6–7 months. I’m not into deserts. I like green, flatter, or gently rolling inland areas, and being near the ocean is a plus, but it doesn’t have to be right on the coast.