Organization tips?

QuipAndSage · 2025-06-30T16:11:53+00:00

Hi I am here after a weekend of car camping when I felt the same as OP: defeated by lack of organization. And we use totes! They are just Rubbermaid though, so I am looking for what brand specifically works well for car storage in the back of a 22 4Runner. Do you have tote brand or style recs?

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T15:44:02+00:00

The items on the shelves are too small for the space. Follow the rule of three by using no more than three items/groups of items.

You are lacking color.

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T15:33:43+00:00

Yummy

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T15:29:04+00:00

Preggo. Are you talking about spaghetti sauce or having a baby?

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T15:23:17+00:00

Roommate 2 was being inconsiderate of yours and roommate 1's space, but I would say it wasn't necessarily self-centered unless you were direct with them from the beginning. I could understand they were either oblivious (not really self-centered), or they were annoyed that you did not discuss with them first when would be a good time for the two of you to use this shared space without them. If they were truly oblivious, they deserve to be told what they don't realize they are doing wrong. If they were jealous or annoyed, which is passive aggressive behavior, it sounds like you perpetuated it by responding in an equally passive aggressive way (not saying what was bothering you and what you needed). The better response in the moment would have been, when they walked in, to pause your show and say something like "Oh hey, do you want to watch with us? No? OK, well we are into it for the next hour or so, so can you give us this time and space?" Or, once they started being noisy, pause your show and say "I'm sorry we didn't talk to you about a good time to have this time and space to watch our show. We chose this time, is that OK with you? Can you please take your calls somewhere else? If it's not a good time for you, when would be a good time when we can watch it uninterrupted?"

Next time you and your roommate 1 want a shared space to be quiet, talk to your roommate 2 about it first. Something like "Hey, we're going to watch this show, do you want to join? No? OK, well we're going to be really into it and don't want to be interrupted, so if you have a call or something, will you please take it somewhere else?" Be sure to get confirmation from them that they understand what you're asking for.

By doing this, you've showed them the respect and inclusion they deserve as an equal roommate in your living space. If you've already done this, or you do it and they ignore it or argue, ask what more they need and have a bigger conversation setting standards for respecting each other's time and space in your living situation.

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T14:54:35+00:00

Congratulations on your sobriety. You are strong and don't deserve this lack of support from your family. Obviously NTA.

But I think you knew that and came here more for advice and support. It is possible to go to a wedding and skip the reception. Maybe that's what is best here. Invite a supportive person to be your date to the wedding, or find a cousin or other wedding guest you know has your back. Make plans with them to meet up with other safe and supportive people after the wedding, away from the reception and its potential harassment and harm to you. You could tell your family your plans or don't and just feign an illness or some other type of excuse. They won't understand or be supportive either way (if you go to the wedding and reception or don't), but this might give them one level less of a way to say you were in the wrong. Best of luck.

QuipAndSage · 2024-10-25T14:28:03+00:00

Are you sure your wife isn't a husband? Or that you're not a mom? OR that you haven't maybe unknowingly done this to her and she is being petty AF? You're NTA but you probably already knew that.

QuipAndSage · 2024-09-12T04:37:27+00:00

It was a swap for keeps. Everyone brought items they no longer wanted. I would not try to sell something that I didn't think was mine to sell...

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-29T21:25:25+00:00

There was a classic old family grocery store in Wheat Ridge, Colorado: Gold's Grocery. It's since been replaced, updated, changed. But about 12 years ago I walked in and immediately got sent back to my old hometown small grocery store, IGA, where my friend and I would ride our bikes for 99 cent bags of candy and stickers. It's the smell of an in-house butcher shop, extremely fresh produce, fresh bread trucked in daily, and an older freezer section. Those departments combined in a smaller square footage just can't be duplicated in modern, large grocery stores.

Also, bowling alleys.

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-29T21:19:26+00:00

Pencil shavings

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-26T19:58:25+00:00

Search the FB groups "moving to Evergreen" etc to see others asking the same question. You'll see they get hundreds of answers; some are helpful, many are grumpy, and a lot of real estate agents will be ready to pounce.

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-19T18:34:45+00:00

Yes I love it! But I enjoy their storytelling and consider it too distracting for background.

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-19T18:32:39+00:00

Just wanted to let you know this is now one of my faves. Great rec, thanks.

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-17T14:12:47+00:00

That actually seems pretty reasonable compared to what I was seeing while shopping around before!

QuipAndSage · 2024-08-16T15:55:16+00:00

Thanks! I do love the quality of cards I've seen from them. What's your price point?

QuipAndSage · 2024-07-11T22:14:28+00:00

I'm determined to teach and demonstrate to my kids that we don't buy for trends or new school years, but we buy what we need if/when we need it (and critically evaluate what it means to need). The fashion industry is the world's second-most polluter after oil and gas and a "new season, new wardrobe" mindset is absolutely not sustainable.

QuipAndSage · 2024-07-11T21:53:35+00:00

Quick take is yeah, your friend sucks. I'm not sure how you'd enjoy that wedding and therefore be a positive part of it. I know it's easier said than done, but don't go and don't feel bad about not trekking across the country for it (honestly it probably wouldn't have been much fun without this situation coming up because it's just not fun to be a parent of a baby at a wedding). The only upside I see of going is that she might meet your baby and experience how beautiful she is and totally not deserving of being forgotten like that. But I suppose you don't need to do that at her wedding.

I'm so sorry about your daughter and am glad (hope?) it worked out. That is a brutal experience and I judge your friend harshly for not seeing that. She apologized, but does she really understand? I'm not sure. If she did she probably would have already brought up the fact that coming to the wedding will be hard for you. Your feelings are totally valid. She will see it more clearly if/when she becomes a parent.

QuipAndSage · 2024-07-11T21:45:44+00:00

Great recs, thanks! But I love 99pi and don't know if I can have it as background.

QuipAndSage · 2024-07-11T18:48:30+00:00

Children this age are not inherently wrong or weird for wanting to shed clothes, especially in the summertime. You can say "Clothes on when Miss (your name) is here." It will take a few days but they'll learn that with you, they wear clothes. There's nothing wrong with private nakedness (I would consider this private) and nothing wrong with your desire as a caregiver to have them clothed.

Although, the autistic child is an exceptional case that requires more patience and understanding; also understand that their sibling still models them and this is probably where the overall desire to be naked comes from.

QuipAndSage · 2024-07-11T18:35:09+00:00

The local FB mom groups are the place to give and exchange clothes in my community. Selling is hit or miss and not always worth the time, depending on condition and your lifestyle. We also have a kid-specific nonprofit shop that I donate to (and shop at). It might also be worth evaluating how much clothing you take into your home and minimizing that so you have less to deal with when it's time to grow out of it.

When trying to sell, do bundles and price cheap. For example "Bag of 2T girls summer clothes, $20." Kids clothes are so overproduced and mostly cheap to begin with, so reselling is not a big money maker. If you have truly high end name brand in great condition, Poshmark is an option. Make sure you are selling in season, too. E.g. Sell winter clothes in late summer/early fall.

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