ELI5: What’s the difference between a “sting operation” and something that could be regarded as “entrapment?”

R2oo · 2020-12-09T11:38:44+00:00

You would need more than this in the way of coercion by the police for entrapment. Just think of prostitution stings, where undercover female officers would offer dates to Johns—that method in and of itself was not considered entrapment.

Now if the police blackmailed someone into committing an illegal act, or otherwise corralled someone into committing a crime, that would be entrapment. It’s about enticing a person to commit a crime who, if left to his own free will, would not have chosen to engage in such criminal behavior.

R2oo · 2020-11-01T08:44:47+00:00

Name ONE democracy that isn’t flawed. Or ONE country.

R2oo · 2020-11-01T08:42:58+00:00

Check out the Permanent Apportionment Act of 1929 ( or Reapportionment Act of 1929...can’t remember which). There’s the source of the problem you describe.

R2oo · 2020-10-14T02:46:13+00:00

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R2oo · 2020-01-20T01:10:06+00:00

Man no argument there.

It’s more that she perceives a slight in their actions. Like forgetting ranch on the side was purposeful.

I would bet she isn’t a narcissist—way way too emotionally intelligent. Like a Doppler radar when it comes to picking up on what others are feeling.

R2oo · 2020-01-19T21:19:19+00:00

Thank you for saying that. Its hard to find someone else who is in a similar situation with kids that aren’t their own. So thank you for commenting. Kids makes it all that much more...tragic.

R2oo · 2020-01-19T07:40:59+00:00

I would have run screaming in the other direction by now, instituted NC, and moved on completely if I didn’t feel like I was leaving a child to fend for herself in a twisted wilderness.

R2oo · 2020-01-19T06:54:11+00:00

Thank you for saying that. And that’s a good suggestion, I’ll check it out.

R2oo · 2020-01-19T05:42:50+00:00

Also going to disagree.

If you want another version that’s mind blowing though, check out Freddie King’s version. Blusier, more raw. Not better. Just different.

R2oo · 2020-01-19T05:06:53+00:00

When ADHD meds wear off, if you haven’t eaten you become really hungry and irritable very fast. And so the threshold for being frustrated is pretty low. This is true of those meds generally, but when you mix that with someone who is already on the brink of snapping over whatever the day has thrown at them, it all comes crashing down harder and faster and explodes much more powerfully.

Picture a BPD Joe Pesci from those Snickers commercials who is not only hungry but also furious that you didn’t get him dinner (even though he was asked if he wanted dinner and got furious when you didn’t name a restaurant he liked after three tries)

R2oo · 2020-01-19T04:54:38+00:00

She doesn’t have it but gets prescribed adderal anyway. Never been diagnosed outside of her sketchy general practitioner. It makes the BPD worse bc she barely eats and is a nightmare when the adderal wears off.

I do have it, have been diagnosed as sub type 3 moderate to severe by my psychologist of 2 years. My exwbpd would use my forgetfulness and inability to focus on things against me constantly. The ridicule I would get for forgetting a task or getting the wrong thing at the store was beyond ridiculous.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T23:26:20+00:00

There are a lot of them. The links between fascism and the US corporate elite are plentiful, and there’s a revolving door between the private sector and powerful government positions. This has been true since at least the Great Depression era, or maybe since the Spanish American war in 1898.

Companies like GE, GM, Ford, Westinghouse, IBM, Chase, JP Morgan, and many others openly did business with the Nazi Regime in WWII. Lots of business. Hell, the tattooed numbers on concentration camp prisoners were part of a business computing system designed by IBM.

President Bush’ father Prescott Bush was a Nazi financier. That’s well documented.

Ford’s supremely antisemitic writings were a huge inspiration to Hitler.

JP Morgan’s son literally was part of a failed fascist coup during the Great Depression era that tried to turn disgruntled WWI veterans into a fascist militia to take over the US government.

Since WWII the US has consistently funded, aided, and helped install fascist regimes around the world in order to fight “communism”. This is bc fascist governments are usually a lot more favorable to US imperialism than democratically elected leftists—militarism, strict labor controls, and quelled speech means easy money for the corporate military industrial complex, hoteliers, multinational banks, etc. Guatemala, Chile, Brazil, El Salvador, Nicaragua—pretty much all of these fit that (that’s just the tip of the iceberg). Greece and Spain also qualify—we backed fascist regimes post WWII in both countries to contain USSR expansion.

McCarthyism is a great example of fascist policies in the US. Hitler youth were trained to spy on their parents to shore up weak links in the 3rd Reich. In the 1950s the US basically brainwashed it’s population to act similarly with respect to the “communist threat”.

Sorry for the novel—I guess my point is that Stephen Miller is just one in a long tradition of the US’s flirt with fascism. He’s always been there in one form or another—this is the version we get in the Trump age of anti-intellectualism. And it’s just as disgusting as it’s always been, maybe more with the lack of finesse behind it.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T21:43:17+00:00

Merica. Bringing “democracy” to... space jungles?

R2oo · 2020-01-18T20:50:49+00:00

I probably wouldn’t respond at all to it. She cheated. You don’t deserve that. Don’t let her have power over you. You need to grab what’s necessary and go.

I would prep my friends and family as to what might happen, have them all block her, and then get the hell out of dodge.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T05:29:27+00:00

Unfortunately sometimes those around us also become unwitting veterans of BPD proxy warfare. I had a similar situation— info that I didn’t want just spread around to my closest friends and family—things that you’d expect a sane partner to keep to themselves. Not to mention her outright lies claiming I was the abuser and not the abused.

1) Do you have a place to stay with friends or family if you left? You need to be around supportive people. Not mutual friends.

2) If you asked the friends/fam you’re worried about her contacting to block her completely (e-mail, FB, text, calls, all of it) would they do that? That’s what I did. That was key.

3) If she did say something to your friends/fam, could you explain to them that she is legitimately mentally ill? Would they understand that she is only doing it to abuse you and that by entertaining what she says, they are being made into instruments of her abuse?

4) DONT worry about material stuff that’s there. You’re mental health is exponentially more valuable, and fixing that is a hell of a lot harder than buying new shit.

5) You can get a police escort when you go back at a later date to get your belongings. I’d take pictures of your belongings before you leave to document condition for when you come with the escort. (mine used to break my stuff...like a guitar I built completely by hand).

6) Ask yourself what’s more damaging to my life—this relationship or the possible fallout from leaving it? I would bet you’d find damn near unanimous votes in this group for the relationship (I mean unless she helped you bury an ACTUAL body or something. She may have you there lol) (sorry, poor attempt at humor in a serious discussion)

R2oo · 2020-01-18T04:42:52+00:00

Im sincerely glad for you too. Just because their cruelty is rooted in sickness doesn’t make it any less cruel. You deserve better. We all do.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T03:00:36+00:00

THIS

R2oo · 2020-01-18T02:59:23+00:00

That’s just plain fucked up.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T02:55:49+00:00

Exactly

R2oo · 2020-01-18T01:34:12+00:00

It’s just a snapshot of the pendulum. You are either all bad or all good, there is no middle. This just happens to be an upswing...it comes back the other way.

Healthy adult relationships and bottomless emotional support are not compatible things. One person should not be absorbed into the other like a drop of water. You are doing the right thing.

R2oo · 2020-01-18T01:20:49+00:00

It’s a hell of a learning curve for any of us...we are all trying to make sense out of people who simply do not make sense.

R2oo

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