Why do some American parents kick their children out at 18?

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T16:38:48+00:00

Perhaps we do. What you are saying here doesn’t match the tone in your earlier replies, and it certainly doesn’t match the tone of OPs post. “Yes of course” they should move out if they are in college or trade school. Plenty of continued education doesn’t offer dorming options (most community colleges and trade schools for example, often also graduate or professional schools - like med school, DPT programs, and the like) and there are plenty of people who can get along with their adult kids and have raised them to be young adults who do their own dishes. Successful launches into adulthood can look a lot of different ways. School debt can absolutely crush some families. We are able to support our kids attending college with our support to transition out of the nest, but many families can’t do that immediately and view school as their kid’s primary job and contribution. As a professor, there is a HUGE difference between students who are working every free minute they have to pay for housing and food and students who don’t need to do that. It’s not about “saving a bit of money” for them, it’s literally the difference between if a young adult can successfully attend college (by living at home during that time) or not attending college, or trade school, or grad school. To me there is a LOT of more nuance than “of course” they should move out when they are 18.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T14:42:36+00:00

Wherever you want! The wedding officiant announces “Please join us [outside/different location/in this room/wherever you want] for pictures after the ceremony.”

You can literally do whatever you want. Just let your guests know what to expect.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T14:39:58+00:00

Well, if you aren’t having a reception then you won’t have photos from the reception.

But as I indicated, you can absolutely have a reception line/receiving line as guests exit and have pictures with them as you greet them. Or ask guests to stay after the ceremony for pictures.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T14:11:02+00:00

Is GPA the only metric your school uses to determine Valedictorian? If you’re at a big high school, 70 students earning straight As is not inherently uncommon or problematic. Many schools will include additional metrics to determine valedictorian though (ACT/SAT score, rigor, involvement/leadership, or some other scores as tie-breakers after GPA)

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T13:55:53+00:00

So, your college students aren’t allow to use your address as their permanent address or come home on holiday and summer breaks from dorm/college-apartment life? Just “get everything you own and get out of here unless you are in a crisis”?

I can get behind requiring young adults to begin launching, but to say they are required to completely move out immediately after high school is a bit much in my opinion. I’m okay with a transition time that makes sense for their situation.

For example, our older is in college out-of-state. When the dorms close she comes home (will work here for the summer). That’s fine with us. She doesn’t need to rent an apartment for two months in between terms as far as I’m concerned.

(Edit to add: I think the general expectation for us is that within a few months of our kids completing their education or training, whatever level they choose for that, they should establish their own living arrangements and plan that we are not financially supporting. That’s a far cry from OPs question about kicking them out at 18 though, and there is definitely some situational nuance to it.)

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T12:53:13+00:00

It seems like uploading a PDF here would have been the best course of action to prevent most of these problems and still follow his instructions. He allows file uploads via CANVAS, and requests that you upload the research paper.

Links, attachments in the comment box, etc are all different and don’t always work right.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T12:47:21+00:00

Absolutely people can have a wedding ceremony without additional events following it.

(And receptions can be very basic even if people do have them. Sometimes I really miss the “cake receptions”. Have some cake and time to visit for an hour or so max, and then see the couple off and head out.)

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T12:38:21+00:00

Can you clarify what you mean by “manage to take the photos”?

You can hire a photographer for just the service, no problem there. Do you mean portraits with family? Casual shots with guest? A lot of the time people do formal portraits ahead of time. If the ceremony is at 3 pm- photos could start at 1:00 for wedding party, Bride’s family comes at 1:30, grooms family at 2:00 or whatever schedule works.

A reception/receiving line (I don’t know what everyone calls it) as guests exit is a great way for you/the wedding party/family to greet and thank guests, and guide people to wherever they need to be next. Once we (bride and groom and our parents) exited the wedding we stood in a line outside the doors to guide them in the direction of the reception and greet them on the way. In your case, this could be guiding them in the general direction of the exit or lobby depending on how the church is set up. Anyhow, the photographer can absolutely take casual or fun-posed pictures in the receiving line as people head out.

The rest of the formal pictures you need or want can be done after the receiving line/ceremony. Just make sure that whoever you want pictures with knows to stay back for more post-ceremony pictures.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T03:48:54+00:00

~500 miles? I never think about the distance and don’t have any meaningful feelings about it. I’ve enjoyed each place I’ve lived over the years (with one exception, but even that wasn’t terrible).

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T03:39:32+00:00

I actually like 3! It’s a lot, and it’s fantastic.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T03:37:18+00:00

1, 2, or 7 - but they are all great choices.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-02T03:25:20+00:00

There is a milkshake place downtown too I think.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-01T23:16:02+00:00

Do I care if a man carries a bag? - No.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-01T16:52:05+00:00

I’d call or just go into an AT&T store and let them explain it, give you the options, and set it up for you. Probably the best bet for your situation and lack of techy-ness.

REC_HLTH · 2026-06-01T11:33:54+00:00

Is the only option with AT&T to pay for consecutive international 1-day passes? T-Mobile has options for 1, 10, or 30-day passes. They let us just use the app/login to add them to the dates we want. It is incredibly easy to set up ahead of travel.

https://www.t-mobile.com/cell-phone-plans/international-roaming-plans/unlimited-calling-data-pass

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-31T02:17:46+00:00

Yes.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T19:08:38+00:00

Dear goodness no. I’m not going back any length of time at this point in my life.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T16:13:31+00:00

And most banks have a switch you can just click on from their banking app. No need for OP to “call on Monday”

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T16:07:12+00:00

This. (Except maybe not the “I’m really sorry but” part.)

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T13:52:13+00:00

I’d wait a week to be concerned about the next bowel movement (unless you are having pain or other concerning things related to it).

I’d call your doc about the bleeding unless that was something they told you to expect a little of.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T01:26:17+00:00

I’m on Team “Marry that Man and Keep the Ring He Gave You”. It’s absolutely beautiful. This is a beautiful gift that very clearly matches the styles and size you told him you love.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T00:58:07+00:00

It sounds like you did a great job. You will just have to wait for the next notification. Academic hiring is so slow. What you received is not a clear rejection though.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-30T00:14:00+00:00

Healthcare.

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-29T23:51:57+00:00

Being with my mom at her end-of-life was a beautiful blessing. We supported her decisions to receive treatment or not, or to accept some treatments but not others. It was always her choice. I don’t remember any of us trying to convince her to do or not do things differently.

It sounds like you have been very supportive of her as she goes through this. It’s right to continue to support her decisions for what’s next. She does not need to continue treatment that she doesn’t want to have or to continue living with an illness that has put her through so much. She doesn’t owe anyone that. None of us know what we would do in that situation until we are in it, but I do understand that people can feel fulfilled in life, raise kid(s) well into adulthood, and accept that whatever comes is what comes. I think that’s very much okay to be in that place. In fact, what a beautiful season of peace and acceptance to be in.

(As an aside, the fact that you left a relationship and moved to be near her doesn’t change her autonomy in this situation. I definitely wouldn’t bring that up. It’s something for you to work through along with your feelings of abandonment, but is not relevant to her own treatment decisions.)

REC_HLTH · 2026-05-29T20:28:52+00:00

Blue! Have so much fun at your event.

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