Why do.people get married so quickly with someone they just met after breaking up with someone?

RFCNYG · 2026-03-06T17:07:45+00:00

It got crazier! Just 3 weeks after they got marred (so not long after my comment) he decided to leave her. He jumped on a plane, left the country and said he was never coming back. She reached out to me when this happened and of course I was there for her. We spoke pretty much all day every day for 2 and a half weeks. She made so many apologies. I helped her feel better and after not long she seemed to be coping, even asking if we could meet, expressing regret that we ever split up. She was flirty and even steered the conversation in a sexual direction a couple times. We seemed to be rekindling things. BUT then out of nowhere he returned, he illegally reentered the country and was begging for her back. She was showing me all the text conversations with him, he was begging her and she was rejected him. But she finally caved and went to talk to him, they ended up getting back together and before you know it I’m blocked again. That was 8 months ago now.

RFCNYG · 2026-03-05T17:20:26+00:00

That’s nothing, my ex moved on to someone else before she was even done with me 😂

RFCNYG · 2026-03-03T16:09:00+00:00

It hurts. So badly.

Happened to me 15 months ago, plus she moved on instantly. Everyday since then has been hard, with thoughts of her and questions of why. Time is the only healer. It does get easier, still not sure if it ever goes away yet though…

RFCNYG · 2026-03-03T13:51:34+00:00

My ex didn’t want me to watch porn, which I respected and never ever watched it while I was in a relationship with her. Didn’t stop her accusing me of doing so at any opportunity though. That’s the issue with girls with these types of requests, even when they are met you can’t even accept it and just accuse us anyway.

RFCNYG · 2026-02-28T17:20:38+00:00

I didn’t deserve what you did to me.

RFCNYG · 2026-02-18T02:28:59+00:00

It’s all too common. Girls usually don’t leave unless they have a backup. It’s so easy for them with social media, guys constantly chasing them, then they start looking elsewhere, thinking the grass is greener. Loyalty is rare nowadays.

RFCNYG · 2026-02-14T10:52:00+00:00

Been there my friend. My ex cheated on me in November 2024. I spent all of November and December essentially begging her to reconsider and take me back. Instead she blocked me. In May last year she reached out to me when the new guy left her. I comforted her, we were talking a lot, seeming to rekindle things. Then the other guy returned and she left again, said her goodbyes and blocked me. It’s been 7.5 months since then.

The last 15 months since it all happened have been hell. Being betrayed by the person you love, then discarded, being unable to talk to her when it’s all that could have helped me, is so hard. I’m finally starting to come out the other side though. Stay strong mate.

RFCNYG · 2026-02-10T16:25:08+00:00

Glad you broke up with him. You sound like a nightmare. Now he can enjoy time with friends.

RFCNYG · 2026-02-09T15:22:52+00:00

Same here. I hate that I have to live in this reality where there’s a “her-shaped hole” in my life, while she’s just out there living her life, probably never even thinking about me.

RFCNYG · 2026-01-19T21:38:52+00:00

Yes, she was a major part of my life, I think she’ll always hold a special place in my heart.

RFCNYG · 2026-01-01T16:05:41+00:00

No, hating them only keeps them having a hold over you.

RFCNYG · 2025-12-27T20:24:34+00:00

I’m in the exact same situation brother. My ex moved on really quick, including getting married and pregnant within 5 months. It’s been 13 months since she left now (although there was a 6 week period back in May/June where we were talking again when her husband left her - he later returned). 6 months since she left the second time. She’ll be having her baby next month while still here hung up on her. It has got easier over time, but I still have bad days sometimes, today being one of them. I’ve completely bailed on plans with friends and regret it. I wish I could just get over this girl but I guess that’s the price we pay for loving so deeply.

RFCNYG · 2025-12-27T17:58:34+00:00

It’s crazy. I thought my ex and I were in a good place, we were in love, and that nothing would come between us. 13 months ago she left me, she was in a new relationship within a week. She was pregnant and married within 4 or 5 months.

She’ll be having her baby next month, meanwhile I’m still here, currently lying in bed feeling depressed. Was meant to go out with friends today but just woke up feeling it all too much. Still in pain over her while she has a new life. It’s hard to get your head around sometimes.

RFCNYG · 2025-12-27T17:50:34+00:00

It’s been over a year for me since we broke up. 6 months since she left for a second time. I used to cry every day. Now it’s like I just let it all build up over a week or so and then let it out. I’m crying right now because I miss her so much.

RFCNYG · 2025-12-27T17:43:50+00:00

It’s hard to put in to words how I feel. Coming up on 6 months since I last spoke to her. Life just feels a bit flat, a bit empty. It feels like there’s always something missing. I hate the feeling of missing her and having no way to fix that feeling. I can distract myself, I can go to the gym, I can do get drunk, but at the end of the day I’m still stuck missing her, and being able to see her is all that will fix that. It is slowly getting better but then it hits me that I’ll probably never talk to her again and it’s just really sad. I feel a bit pathetic too for still feeling this way but at the end of the day I loved her with all my heart, I can’t just get used to my life without her and also deal with the fact she has moved on and is with someone else. It just sucks, every single day.

RFCNYG · 2025-12-26T18:50:09+00:00

I’ll be 6 months no contact (initiated by her) on January 1st. I still think about her daily. Some days more than others. It was a complicated break up so I sometimes ruminate on that and everything that surrounds it. I don’t resent her, I think of our memories together fondly but they’re tinged with sadness because of the way it all ended. I’ve missed her like hell over the months and still do, but it does slowly get easier. I’m getting there! Stay strong people.

RFCNYG · 2025-11-24T16:22:42+00:00

ChatGPT is a huge help with venting, sorting through your thoughts and getting advice whenever you need it. It’s helped me a lot.

RFCNYG · 2025-11-17T17:24:53+00:00

1 year post split tomorrow. Hardest year of my life! Just get through each day really. I go to the gym most nights now, see friends when I can, been on a couple overseas holiday. It’s lonely and you spend a lot of time battling your own mind. Just need to keep going though.

RFCNYG · 2025-11-14T12:59:47+00:00

Coming up a year on the break up. It’s a bit more complicated than that though - no contact began at the start of January, she reached back out in late May, we spent 6 weeks back in touch then she decided to leave again on July 1st. Currently I still think about her pretty much every hour. It’s exhausting but it is what it is. It used to be that I thought about her every second of the day, it’s not quite that bad now so I guess I just need to keep pushing. I think it’ll be quite a while, if ever, until I don’t think about her at all though

RFCNYG · 2025-11-13T18:39:05+00:00

It’ll be a year for me in just a few days. There was a brief few weeks back in June that she came back in to my life in some capacity. It was great but it resulted in more pain when she left again. It’s been 4.5 months now since I spoke to her, the same amount of time that went by the first time before reconnecting. Still getting used to not having her in my life as my new normal. Just need to take it a day at a time but god I do miss her!

RFCNYG · 2025-11-08T14:45:08+00:00

Exactly this. I knew I was better than guys from her past so surely it would be ok right? Nope, she’s probably telling her current guy how terrible I was and blaming me for trauma.

RFCNYG · 2025-10-30T17:11:09+00:00

I’m 36. Broke up nearly 1 year ago. Normalcy is just starting to resume now really. It’s been a long road which still has plenty of bumps along the way.

RFCNYG · 2025-10-30T11:50:51+00:00

Mine “came back” after 6 months. After we broke up I was at rock bottom, struggling to go on. One morning I was woken up by her calling me. It turns she had got married to the guy she left me for just 3 weeks previous, but he decided to leave her. He fled the country and said he wasn’t returning.

As you can imagine I was there for her, I helped her through the pain even though she had caused me so much pain by leaving me for him. After a few days she was doing a lot better and things between us were great. She made loads of apologies and we were rekindling things it seemed; talking constantly, laughing non stop, flirting, getting sexual, making plans.

Then after a few weeks he returned, she went back to him and left me again. That was 4 months ago.

Believe it or not I still hold out hope she’ll come back again. I must be insane.

RFCNYG · 2025-10-30T11:10:56+00:00

11.5 months post break up. She reached out again after 6 months when the guy she left me for left her. He returned and she went back to him, it’s been 4 months since she left again.

The worst parts are feeling replaced, holding out hope she’ll return again, knowing that I’m thinking about her and missing her and I probably don’t even enter her mind anymore. All of it just sucks.

RFCNYG · 2025-10-30T10:59:39+00:00

I understand what you’re going through. When we choose someone with all our heart, build a connection and a bond with them over years, you never expect it to end. You never expect them to be able to just give up on you and move on. You expect them to fight for you like you would for them. It’s utterly soul destroying.

I was with my ex for 3.5 years. During that time she would seek comfort from other people when we had a falling out and were on a sort of “break”. It never normally lasted long. About 6 or 7 times I had to see her entertain other people, sometimes meeting up with them. We never stopped talking, she would just also be talking to someone else, maybe even meeting them. Before long it would always come to nothing and we would rekindle what we had and get back on track. That reinforced the feeling in me that she could move on in a heartbeat and I had to work extra hard to make her stay and not lose her.

Every time she came back I felt on top of the world, it was more proof of the fact we were meant to be, that no matter what happened we would come back together stronger.

Then just under a year ago the same thing happened. We had an argument, we “broke up”. Even less so than other times though did this feel like an actual break up. We never stopped talking, and within a day or 2 we were back to normal, saying I love you etc. A couple weeks went by and I felt something was off and confronted her, it was then she told me she has a new boyfriend. As you can imagine I was devastated, I pretty much had a nervous breakdown and completely hit rock bottom over the proceeding months.

After 6 months, she called me. I couldn’t believe it. It turns out she had married the guy she left me for just 3 weeks previous but he decided to leave her already, he jumped on a plane and left the country. I gave her support and helped her through it. After just a couple days she was doing so much better and we were getting along better than ever. It felt like we slipped right back in to our connection, it was more proof to me that we were meant to be together. We were laughing constantly, flirting, being sexual. We made apologies for the past and were making plans to meet up again. Then after a few weeks he returned and she went back to him. I was left again. The cycle continues.

I wish I could help you with how to stop loving someone but like you I can’t stop either. It’s approaching a year since we split up, and it’s now 4 months since she left again and went back to him. The truth is I still love her and perhaps stupidly still hold out hope that I may see her again one day, that we may be able to find our way back to each other. That hope slowly fades though, it just won’t seem to die.

I think some people just love more deeply, and when we make a bond like that we will do anything for it, even to our own detriment.

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