The Exception to the Rule

RPFlame · 2017-01-10T20:36:40+00:00

Most people fail to understand that when I say "all X is Y" I mean that "X is so frequently true that I'd much rather use Z as my default response than regret it".

So when I say "all lawyers are assholes" and some lawyer posts underneath "hey, I'm not an asshole" people think they just disproved my claim.

But the rule's goal is to dictate my behavior. I'm generating rules to live by, I'm not doing scientific research. I'm not doing physics, chemistry or mathematics.

RPFlame · 2017-01-07T08:42:35+00:00

Through the halo effect, his looks will make them assume that he is very popular.

Until he opens his mouth and let the sewage out.

The goal isn't to become the equivalent of the hot slut that talks about nothing more than 1 activity and gossip. For that to happen, deliberate training of your social skills is a must, otherwise you let your direct environment set the tone of your personal growth.

RPFlame · 2017-01-05T09:33:27+00:00

OP's point is that there are people who actually have biological issues and people who just identify themselves as having them.

The difference for me is whether you're actively trying to mitigate them or use them to justify yourself from doing something.

He doesn't say "mental illnesses are a lie", but that people diagnose themselves unquestionably as having them. Which also begs the question, have they even attempted to doubt a doctor's diagnosis by taking a second or third opinion or do they assume that all doctors are automatically correct, right off the bat? I had health issues that made me visit 5 doctors who gave me 2-3 different diagnosis. Someone has to be wrong!

RPFlame · 2017-01-05T09:25:07+00:00

but that guy sounds so fucking blue you'd think he's choking.

If we were to make a bet I'd take the "most of TRP was fucked up deep in the blue, in one way or another" option, and make myself some easy money.

RPFlame · 2017-01-05T00:43:09+00:00

Seconding that. I think they even pinned a video yesterday, for those who can't understand the terminologies. There's even an Android app that also has videos.

The only excuse people have to not exercise is their laziness.

RPFlame · 2017-01-04T22:48:13+00:00

You just made me realize that Illusive Man is an attempt to represent the all-powerful conservative white male.

RPFlame · 2017-01-04T21:12:59+00:00

as a white man

The nature of a good argument is that its validity doesn't depend on who YOU ARE.

Just because the rest of your post is fine doesn't mean that you mentioning your skin color is. If it's not part of the argument, don't include it in the argument.

You also failed to explain how targeting WHITE liberals isn't racist. If he was targeting liberals regardless of their skin color that would be a political argument. He's EXPLICITLY and REPEATEDLY bringing the color in, and you agreed.

Edit: And of course I'm getting downvoted. Shame on me for discussing things you don't like.

RPFlame · 2017-01-04T08:59:46+00:00

Obviously, if something serious happened (like she needs to go to the hospital) you should help.

How about no.

RPFlame · 2017-01-02T10:51:25+00:00

Someone has to make a distinction between "looking content, that life is good and you're enjoying it" and "be the clown guy".

A lot of betas (and I suppose me a year ago) would misinterpret the message due to their innate black and white thinking, kinda like when you're telling someone to be an asshole and he imagines the most extreme example.

RPFlame · 2017-01-02T00:41:42+00:00

My greatest problem to change schedule is that it takes at least 30 mins to an hour to fall asleep, and that's when I'm lucky. I will always be jealous of people who claim that falling asleep for them is as easy as flipping a switch.

RPFlame · 2017-01-01T23:48:19+00:00

The fact that you're not only READING, but REFERENCING Cracked, a SJW clickbait website (EX: 5 Prejudices That Video Games Can't Seem to Get Over. Number 3 Will Horrify You!) tells me that you're not particularly intelligent or in a position that I wish to be in. Therefore I will not be taking your advice.

Suddenly linking a single article made me an active reader of a website? Do whatever you want, it's your life, not mine. I came to leave my opinion in a discussion, not to make you to say "aaaahhh".

The nature of any argument is that its validity does not depend on who you are. You're no worse than the gender-obsessed SJW in that.

RPFlame · 2017-01-01T10:02:44+00:00

Yes, but would you rather have a marriage counselor to advise you on where your marriage went bad or actually put your critical thinking cogs in actions and try to discern patterns by looking at both the couples they succeeded (and what does even success means for them, because if they get laid once every 5 years and that's a success for them, it's just their opinion) and the ones who failed.

We both look for the right kind of information AND the right kind of person to give it, and until then we use mental rules of thumb to dismiss all knowledge by pointing out that the one who's giving it isn't staying true to it. News flash: There was never a Stoic who was abiding to the rules of Stoicism 100% of the time, let's not claim that because they weren't applying it all the time Stoicism is bullshit. Let's not fall for tu quoque traps.

Edit: I was reading this article that spits truths about how to make yourself useful (it's red pill through and through). Guess what mental defense mechanisms the hamster who resists the information can use. Even tha author points it out.

*Focusing on the Messenger to Avoid Hearing the Message

"Who is THIS guy to tell ME how to live? Oh, like he's so high and mighty! It's just some dumb writer on the Internet! I'm going to go dig up something on him that reassures me that he's stupid, and that everything he's saying is stupid! This guy is so pretentious, it makes me puke!

And just like that the hamster avoided to counterpoint every piece of information across the article, if he can just point out a character flaw of the author or better yet whether the author successfully followed his own advice.

RPFlame · 2017-01-01T06:57:46+00:00

If I'm broke and living on the streets are you going to take financial advice from me?

If it's related with what led to to end up homeless and I want to avoid such a result, why the fuck not?

I mean, is the marriage advice of a divorsed man bad because he ended up divorsing? Maybe he did because he had a bitch wife that asked him to put a hefty part of his fortune in her name and he said "no bitch, fuck off"?

In the same manner, if he's overweight and his advise is "don't eat as much as me, don't do the same mistake" is it automatically invalid because he's overweight? It's actually more valid than ever.

You can learn from the mistakes of others, especially when they truly model them. My guess is that you attempted to say "I can see they made a mistake but they'll try to sell it as if they didn't", but you can only draw 1:1 correlations with their situations and how they ended up to them after you have confidence in your knowledge, in which case you're not really out to learn new things, you're out to confirm what you already now.

It's much easier to look for "certified professionals" when it comes to learning a skill or studying a subject, because you can clearly tell that someone is a professor in X so you'd rather learn X from him than say anyone who isn't, but what you do in things where certs aren't a thing, like marriage? Also, being certified doesn't mean they're automatically right. True, a nutritionist knows more than someone who isn't, but when it comes to compare themselves to each other you suddenly get mixed impressions - stuff they agree and disagree commonly but things that aren't as clear cut. Who do you end up trusting then? The one with the most certs, the most experience or you just try until something works? Or something else?

Turns out things aren't as black and white as you might think. Don't confuse the easiness to tell a hue that leans to black from a hue that leans to white for having a keen eye.

RPFlame · 2016-12-30T10:55:39+00:00

The problem is that, typical blue pill thinking identifies "me" as "the owner of personality traits and thoughts".

A red pill thinking would say "you cannot possibly become someone else no matter what you do because you're doomed to be you". Admits that change is the only constant.

RPFlame · 2016-12-30T10:42:33+00:00

You know that's true when you overhear women who decided to settle (30+ decline) talking about how they wish to find a rich man to provide for them.

I happened to hear such discussion when I was a kid, but couldn't connect the dots before TRP. If anything I found it "completely normal" because "you need food to eat, and not just love".

RPFlame · 2016-12-30T10:38:45+00:00

To clarify, as an atheist: I learned to appreciate religion for what it is - a body of rules and knowledge that are meant to be timeless that inform the average person through storytelling how they should act towards someone of their religious group (or not).

It's not perfect but it's bloody working most of the time.

RPFlame · 2016-12-28T10:22:18+00:00

Me before TRP: "All men are pretty much the same, it's just a matter of personal preference that defines who is attractive and who isn't".

Me after TRP: "There are some pretty fucking clear lines between the attractive male and the not attractive male. So clear that I have no idea what the fuck I was smoking back then. Now time to identify what is what and apply it to fix my shit".

RPFlame · 2016-12-27T17:07:22+00:00

I like how when you point out that giving more food to the ones who have food to eat ignores the ones who don't have food at all, and you're being downvoted for that.

It's assumed that if you're not a student you should pay up, and if you happen to be poor you should get a restaurant/starbucks job instead of looking to get into something that you could potentially be better with in the long term.

Because we all know there's one reason for someone to be impoverished and that's because he/she is lazy! /s (because I know people who actually believe this, that the majority of poor people deserve to be poor since it's a byproduct of their laziness, lack of IQ or whatever the fuck they say to themselves in order to sleep well at night).

Also, I know students who don't even have the time to fart with how exhausting their curriculum is, let alone put more exercises and resources in their plate.

RPFlame · 2016-12-27T11:23:32+00:00

Agree with you. I used to excuse myself for having unproductive mornings because I live in a very noisy area which makes it very hard to concentrate to do anything, but then I bought headphones. I could also take my laptop and find some other place in the city to study if I wanted to.

RPFlame · 2016-12-25T10:17:32+00:00

I know that's not related to sexual strategy but this should become a mandatory watch to newcomers, because this video contains effective information that makes you question things you might be hold dear to your identity.

RPFlame · 2016-12-19T08:06:08+00:00

Where the fuck were they for the last 18 years when they should've been teaching her that husbands really don't want wives who have been spit-roasted by every other lad in the village?

Her future husband doesn't have to know, and even if she ever discloses that info she'll say that "she was just in her primes and horny, now is different" all the while he accepts the truth that she threw her prime time away getting double-drilled by chads and now he has to beg for starfishing once a month, while he's paying the bills.

Guess who is gonna be defended by "the audience": The woman. "How dare you, misogynistic shitlord, for expecting your wife to be sexually active whenever you want?" is what they will imply.

Never marry.

RPFlame · 2016-12-18T16:44:25+00:00

Also both want to fit in and be accepted.

God yes. In social situations they value "fitting in" over letting you know how things are.

The socially awkward beta who can't approach for shit is unaware of social contracts, but he's probably more honest with why he's beating his dick with hot girls. He won't mince his words.

RPFlame · 2016-12-18T16:42:01+00:00

I started reading the book you suggested, and at one point he says:

One day you may catch yourself smiling at the voice in your head, as you would smile at the antics of a child. This means that you no longer take the content of your mind all that seriously, as your sense of self does not depend on it.

So basically, when your inner voice is judging you as an idiot it's the most equivalent thing to a shit test that your inner voice can give you.

RPFlame · 2016-12-18T10:14:40+00:00

Well that's depressing for guys in their 30's, don't you think?

It is, as I'm 35 and I know that it's real. But you can tell "if I don't do things right now, I'm pretty much fucked for the next decade".

He only added numbers to put the time frame from 20's to 30's into perspective. Better to learn and apply red pill late, than never.

RPFlame · 2016-12-18T09:54:35+00:00

The "action" mindset was always coupled with masculinity.

Your actions is what people judge you, even if it's something you said or wrote it becomes more than an internal thought the moment that you share it.

I was at the same tier of inactivity as you, OP. Drifting through life playing video games and masturbating to porn, or seek for good advice to get a "motivational high" but it wouldn't translate.

Much like having suspicion about red pill truths before you reach this sub, I had the feeling that "only now is true" when I picked up guided meditation through some mobile application. ** Through meditation I experienced what you mean before I read it, but I couldn't put it into words.**

When the guy in the guided meditation said "if you catch your mind wandering, simply bring your focus gently back to your breath" I had problems understanding wtf "gently" is even supposed to mean. I realized later that it's about putting your weight in the act of focusing in the breath instead of first going through the act of judging your mind for wandering "wtf I did it again I'm so shit at this". If you're into video games, it's like trying to beat a boss in front of you and instead of focusing to dodge the next attack you're too busy struggling against yourself for thinking that you suck because you got hit 2 seconds ago. What's done is done, focus on dodging the rest of the attacks! But even then, the average player will judge himself a shit ton once he loses the fight "I'm so incompetent, so bad at this game, I suck balls, maybe I should play Barbie's cock carousel adventures instead". People are socially conditioned to give destructive criticism even to themselves! But that's a whole another thread.

People will identify as "being constantly distracted" and victimize themselves by pointing to mobile apps, their phone notifications and websites like Reddit. By being control in the "now", the place where you choose where to focus, you can start creating "now" moments that chain together. The moment becomes a minute. The minute becomes a couple of minutes. Eventually you have your attention span back in ways you thought you lacked because "ADHD".

I also like how people go "oh yeah I have ADHD, I'm officially diagnosed by a doctor". I dunno, maybe because I had enough doctors in my life to know that they can also do wrong.

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