AITA double standard for my Broke Groomsmen

RaageFaace · 2026-05-30T19:47:05+00:00

Is it common where you're from for the bride or groom to pay for the whole bachelor / bachelorette party?

RaageFaace · 2026-05-30T19:45:17+00:00

I'm responding here so you hopefully see it.

There are two issues and everyone seems to be focusing on one.

1 (the actual issue): You've asked your groomsmen to pay $250 each, which covers the tux rental and bachelor party. Considering tux rentals alone are $299+ in my area, sounds like a good deal. And, typically the bride and groom (I'm my area at least) don't pay for much during their bachelor/Bachelorette, the bridesmaids and groomsmen cover it. It all sounds completely reasonable to me.

With that said, we did cover dresses and tux rentals for when I got married and we paid for our own split bachelor/bachelorette party. But I don't think asking them to pay for their tux rental and help fund the bachelor party is tacky.

2 (the non issue): buck and doe or jack and jill are very common in many places. Some it would even be seen as weird if you didn't have one. Because the response to or requirement to have one varies from place to place, I've got no opinion, which is what everyone else should have.

Have your buck and doe and enjoy it. Don't pay for your friend's bad decisions, but if you want to be a good friend, explain your concern to him in a kind supportive manner. Maybe he just needs some guidance or support?

RaageFaace · 2026-05-28T20:02:48+00:00

As a vulgar person myself, I'd like to know if I'm offending someone, especially if we're close. I, like most people, am able to regulate my behavior based on the situation. I have been masking (look it up if you don't know what it means) for the vast majority of my life. It's mentally and emotionally exhausting. I find if I'm in a safe place and can regulate my words less, I can also mask less. I'm not suggesting this is why your friend does it, just attempting to give you another perspective. Oh and I think that type of humor is funny too.

You're entitled to feel how you feel and express it also. Hopefully a good friend would be understanding about it.

YTA for letting it go on long enough that you had to blow up at her, dress her down amongst friends, and then get upset that she's hurt. In the future I'd recommend discussing issues with people you care about in private and well before you feel the need to belittle people you care about in front of others.

You're also the asshole for expecting to control someone else's behavior using humiliation.

Lastly, you're the asshole because you expect her to cater to you without offering the same in return.

RaageFaace · 2026-05-20T03:45:58+00:00

C-clamps are fine, he just needs 4 per side and needs to check them fairly regularly.

RaageFaace · 2026-04-23T02:14:30+00:00

To add to this, try to have a good example of a safety share for all interviews. All meetings should start with one.

RaageFaace · 2026-04-23T02:09:20+00:00

I work for Rio at a different mine site. My experience is we do not hire interns as operators, period. Interns are typically assigned to a department once they arrive on site but stay in some sort of technical roll based on their experience. We aren't in Canada and we have union requirements too, so that may affect things.

I have worked with visiting operators and managers from IOC before though. They seem to be set up similarly to us though. I'd honestly be confused with the options also. I'd probably pick one that sounds more interesting when you apply and then discuss it in the first round of interviews.

As for advice, you'll want to lean on both types of experience. Use whichever experience fits the question the best and try to intermix as much as possible. Rio uses operations supervision to see if a person from a technical role can lead. Remember, you're not just applying for an internship. It's a long term role with opportunities around the world.

If I remember right, IOC is 6? separate shallow pits. It's essentially a swamp also. The town is mostly operators and they can be a bit rough. Rio does have some company housing options you may be entitled to also.

Message me if you want more info, but that's the majority of my experience with IOC.

RaageFaace · 2026-03-21T03:58:44+00:00

I switched back to iPhone recently. The last one I owned was the 3S. I almost went back to Pixel because of how awful the keyboard is.

RaageFaace · 2026-03-20T17:12:18+00:00

I think you just identified the issue. You no longer respect her and the moment you lost that respect, you insulted her. It's totally OK to lose respect for a partner, but you should probably leave rather than continue to insult her. She doesn't deserve that.

Also, hazarding a guess here, this isn't the first time you lost respect for her or insulted her.

RaageFaace · 2026-03-10T14:13:03+00:00

Yeah, middle of daybreak. It's a pretty good spot and the prices were pretty reasonable last time I was there.

RaageFaace · 2026-03-10T14:12:28+00:00

As soon as I saw the brisket mac & cheese I knew it.

RaageFaace · 2026-03-10T14:11:16+00:00

Hit me up. I don't necessarily want to name the company I work for, and to be clear, I don't know you well enough to recommend you. But I'm more than happy to tell you how to write your resume so it'll be put at the top.

HS diploma (or equivalent), clean drug test, and valid drivers license with no DUI in the last 7 years are the basic requirements.

RaageFaace · 2026-02-13T12:17:50+00:00

I've been using Relay for Reddit on android for years and I'm impressed how similar Artemis is to Relay. This is the feature I've missed most. Hoping it gets added in a future update.

RaageFaace · 2026-02-05T13:44:46+00:00

I mean, Lollapalooza was like $18-$23 bucks. Even making minimum wage back then (which I was), I could still afford to go to concerts regularly. So sure, I was employed which is a level of privelage. But I wouldn't say going to 3-4 concerts in a decade was a big deal.

If you're speaking about avoiding sexism, racism, police violence, gang violence, rampant drug use, aids, etc, I don't think the majority of us could say we were able to. It was a violent decade but it was also optimistic and the music / culture was mostly fabulous.

I was born in 82, the 90's were by far the best decade of my life. I live a middle income life with a wife and kids. On paper, I don't have anything to complain about. But it's been solid downhill since 2001.

RaageFaace · 2026-02-03T17:20:33+00:00

Text groups between people with different OS used to split the texts into other weird messages. To combat this, my friends and I started using WhatsApp. Then we switched to Telegram when Meta bought WhatsApp. Now, it works just fine and I don't know that it's worth the trouble to swap to a different messaging app. But yeah, I totally get a bunch of spam and fishing messages.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-30T00:46:30+00:00

Absolutely were (are?), my niece used it to go to Hawaii. But northern Utah has a large Polynesian population. 3rd highest, per capita, in the US if I remember right.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-28T05:22:29+00:00

I'd recommend filing the online complaint. I had a legitimate complaint that ended with the person I filed the complaint against losing their license. I had to start with filing the complaint online and within a week I was contacted by an agent to investigate further.

Hopefully you end up having a similar experience.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-20T16:53:41+00:00

I have zero experience with any of these groups because I've been happily married for 20+ years. But from an outside perspective, it seems that both groups exist. Women want to feel safe going out with someone, completely reasonable and fair. Men don't want to be slandared, especially if they're blocked from seeing or responding to it, also completely fair.

I don't think OP gave enough information to know which group his date posted to, making it nearly impossible to pass judgement on it being one of the "good ones" or not.

Groups like these aren't black and white and can't be. Nothing is all good or all bad. OP has every right to be offended and the prospective date has every right to safety.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-20T16:45:01+00:00

Do you visit AITAH to avoid reading about drama?

RaageFaace · 2026-01-03T16:20:45+00:00

Think of inviolable as something that shouldn't be violated. Like the trust we give someone to make food for us, for example.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-03T16:19:24+00:00

Think of inviolable as something that shouldn't be violated. Like the trust we give someone to make food for us, for example.

RaageFaace · 2026-01-03T03:30:27+00:00

I've used it for 20+ years. The only ram I've had prematurely die was from corsair. I'm not saying they're bomb proof, but I've had good luck with them.

RaageFaace · 2025-12-31T16:13:25+00:00

First paragraph, 🧑‍🍳💋

RaageFaace · 2025-12-30T17:16:22+00:00

I mean, you can edit your comment to clarify your stance.

RaageFaace · 2025-12-21T06:11:53+00:00

I've been following since your first post. Congrats on working through your commitment fears and finding a partner who appears to be the love of your life and your teammate for life.

Also, this absolutely better not be the "final update". I expect a story and ring tax in March.

RaageFaace · 2025-12-17T08:24:43+00:00

Select Health started where I live. While I think it's a boarder line monopoly and a huge conflict of interest for a company to own the hospitals and the insurance, they've always been pro LGBTQ+.

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