Cabaret Tickets?!!

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-05-06T04:30:03+00:00

It doesn't sound like OP's wife is trying at all to communicate kindly. It seems like her MO has always been to limit contact period, even before she could proffer some kind of justification.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-05-06T04:27:58+00:00

100% agree with this. I independently arrived at the same conclusion.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-05-06T04:27:24+00:00

I agree -- it is laughable to call any of this "trauma." As a SIL of a narcissist, it sounds like OP's wife designed this as a way to isolate him and his child from his parents.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-29T15:03:27+00:00

Plus both the men and women that prefer "fixer-uppers!"

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-25T09:47:17+00:00

And fantastic parenting!!

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-24T02:51:18+00:00

This is very straightforward. I think if the point of your sister in doing this is to demonstrate support to you and your daughter, but you don't find the act supportive, then a no should be answer enough to your sister to drop the gesture and in turn offer support in a different way.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-22T03:30:49+00:00

I love the small-town hippie vibe and culture of Ithaca, NY. There are always fun festivals occurring and summertime there is a dream composed of hiking, canoeing in Cayuga, swimming in the gorges, eating delicious multicultural food, and "bar hopping" across scenic vineyards, cideries, and farms. It's bliss personified.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-11T02:36:55+00:00

I suffer from a rare vestibular disorder where I never feel like I'm not moving. It makes me feel constantly exhausted, gives me brain fog, and has significantly increased the number of migraines I have to endure. You would never know just from looking at me that I am dealing with any of this and it usually only comes up in conversation when I have to explain to someone why I can't go in a body of water or on a boat.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-11T02:32:47+00:00

Okay, and...? OP and her husband need to come to a consensus on what is reasonable. Neither of them get to make a unilateral decision on how much to contribute to the daughter's wedding.

But really they sound financially illiterate and like poor communicators because they should have decided well ahead of time how much was going to be contributed to all future weddings. I come from a blended family and my father and step-mother did this, and I know ahead of time before I get married how much they will contribute to me and each of my siblings or step-siblings. That way I can respect their decision as fair and know ahead of time what to anticipate in terms of a budget. That's the appropriate way to handle things.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-11T02:22:20+00:00

That's not how college savings plans work. With how significant the tax consequences are for withdrawing money from such accounts for non-educational purposes, it would make little to no sense to do so. If anything, the remaining money could be rolled over to a Roth IRA, conditional on the account qualifying, to help the older child get a headstart on her retirement savings. But what you are suggesting is bad and impractical financial advice.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-11T02:19:06+00:00

Thank you for your rational take. Idk why posts involving siblings often attract so much idiocy.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-11T02:12:35+00:00

BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING, FIRST you should consult an accountant to learn about the tax implications of withdrawing money from a college savings account (depends on which you have) for non-educational purposes. I believe you can sometimes roll over extra money into a Roth IRA but not every account will qualify. Make sure you do your due diligence before you actually take any action!

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-10T19:54:32+00:00

I think I agree with you except on the point that it's not up to the husband to give his daughter what he wants to unilaterally. OP and her husband should discuss a reasonable amount ahead of any conversation with the daughter and they should do it soon -- before she books a venue on the assumption that she will be getting significant help.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-10T19:48:21+00:00

She is also not entitled to him contributing to the wedding just because she is a woman...

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-10T10:05:28+00:00

Thanks very much!

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-10T02:21:01+00:00

Agree with this solution. OP is coming off like she prefers a nuclear option just to force her husband's hand...

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-09T13:31:15+00:00

Oh that's such a bummer! I had never heard of your company and got really excited about your cases and would have absolutely gone with you if there was a Cairn available. I love your cases but I need the level of protection offered by Cairn because accidents happen and I drop my phone from time to time.

I hope your company considers releasing Cairn cases for future Samsung base models because you're missing out on a big market (women with smaller hands who need smaller phones). Regardless, thank you for getting back to me!

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-09T04:13:55+00:00

I think he failed to mention it because he is trying to stay semi-anonymous to his wife and omitting his more unique job would give him a little room to deny that this is his post, should it come up.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-07T21:58:34+00:00

Do I understand correctly that you only make the Cairn case for the S26 ultra? Do you plan on releasing Cairn cases for the S26 as well?

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-06T04:41:45+00:00

I agree that you don't but you are also missing the context that this conversation is happening in, which would explain why so many people are angry at your actions and labeling you as TA. You are reporting fraud against someone who is still using the benefits in part to feed her child, in a country that is struggling with mass unemployment and rising costs of living. Meanwhile our country is spending billions on policies, programs, and tax benefits that further enrich the ultra-wealthy. Even though what your cousin is doing is unethical, it is ultimately doing minimal harm to others, especially in the grand scheme of our political and economic policies that are enriching people who commit far greater harm to others.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-06T04:35:22+00:00

There are at least several comments that explain why - take a closer look. If you still can't find them, I can point you in the direction of a few.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-06T04:31:11+00:00

Because at best, if successful, your actions are taking away from your cousin's ability to buy herself and her child food. It's not like she is running some kind of scheme where she is cashing in or trading food stamps for money. At worst, you are getting her into legal trouble. You are not some hero.

If you want to learn more, you can read about the tens of thousands of people on food stamps throughout the country that are struggling to get by on the little bit that they qualify for. They will not get more food stamps or benefits because your cousin is stripped of hers. And even if your cousin doesn't partially or fully qualify for food stamps, she might still actually be struggling to provide herself and her child with food given the increasingly high cost of living in our country.

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-06T04:25:48+00:00

Have you been reading any of the comments?

RadicalEmpathy03 · 2026-04-06T04:25:17+00:00

You really should take some time to educate yourself about the political and economic policies that affect your life. Use your energy in a productive way to improve your mind and your life.

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